cionon:



Where was it mentioned me and the neigbhour talked of juju? U pple shiuldnnot remix the version nau. Read and understand.
Nobody talked of juju with me. She was only telling me what she did to conceive. What my husband can take to boost our chances of conceiving. And I sawntge local thing as a risk to my husband's health and told her i dont want to be a widow.

If you had read through the thread, you will see I didn't gossip. I mean do I need to keep repeating how it went. I don't even tell of my marital issues to friends. I have been battling separation since and my best friend just knew of this on Tuesday and was surprised. Cos her first question was you can't just go through divorce you both must have been having issues

TheArchangel:
He is not asking for divorce because of what you listed rather he is asking because you are yet to conceive and he is using that as an excuse. He even have a mistress....
Get yourself checked out medically and get treated and allow him to wallow in his mess.

Move on while you are young.
No amount of begging will douse an already made up mind.

enoqueen:
Let him go.

If there is anyway u can take revenge on him by disclosing what he had said about people, expose him.

Marriage has taught me not to ever trust my husband with words.

Ndeewonu:


Judging from a one-sided story is too bad. UNDER NORMAL CIRCUMSTANCES, no man would file for a divorce when his wife is an angel. He either misunderstood the situation or is under a spell.

When angry, women often say stu.pid things that they don't mean, and a stu.pid man is bound to take the words literally and act upon them. It is sad that some women use juju to make men love them. Sadly, every juju has an expiry date which must be renewed often to avoid adverse effects.

Women, your mouth and company have brought woes upon you.

WhoBeThisMan:
you people need to be very careful the way you advise someone to leave her marriage. All the information you have right now is one sided. I can guaranty yoo that this is not even half the story. Yet you say he should wallow in his mess.

WhoBeThisMan:
you people need to be very careful the way you advise someone to leave her marriage. All the information you have right now is one sided. I can guaranty yoo that this is not even half the story. Yet you say he should wallow in his mess.

enoqueen:
Let him go.

If there is anyway u can take revenge on him by disclosing what he had said about people, expose him.

Marriage has taught me not to ever trust my husband with words.

bankybobo11:
Happy new month to these wonderful nairalanders: demig oddess (my Igbo bae), SAN DOSKI, vhee kie (geek), naij aboiy (swag), smelly mouth (ladies man) and sin aj (beauty)

Happy new month to you too.

Smellymouth:


I dobale for you baba..

Happy new month and may all ur wishes, dreams and aspirations come to pass this new month...

Ekaro oooooo

cyril700:
u are a witch, quote me anywhere

Fourwinds:
terrible advice

jmichlins:
He does not deserve you. You are worth more much to be cheated on so let him go

PinketteDawn:


Sometimes you really need to confide in someone. There is no need to die in silence for something that could've easily been resolved if you had opened up. Any way, I can assure you that divorce does not ruin a child's life in all cases. In fact, if half of the men we have in our societies were brought up by single mothers, away from abusive fathers and surrounded by love and care, then we would have better individuals/marriages today.

Yes, divorce is tough, but it is always a better option especially when children are involved. A child's mental and psychological state can be greatly affected if s(he) is growing in an environment where s(he) constantly witnesses different forms of abuse and degradation on one parent by the other. Some men you see today who beat up their wives, abuse them verbally, financially, sexually and even cheat on them, grew up in an environment where such acts were tolerated so they don't even see anything wrong if they do the same to their wives in their own marriages. There is no way you can try to explain to man who thinks that a woman is beneath him and she should obey every word he says because her sole existence is to please him, that this notion is wrong especially if he grew up in a home where he was constantly seeing his father treat his mother with such notion and she was there tolerating it so that divorce would not ruin her child. Hello! The child is already ruined by being exposed and allowed to grow with that mentality.

naijaboiy:

Happy new month to you too.

cionon:
I confided in my husband when he accused me of listening to people. I then opened up and gave him an instance that if i listen to people i would ne doing what they asked me to do.I told him the advice a former neigbhour of his gave me. Of which I told her I can't do such. Now he uses it against me. I feel bad because he didn't even say what I told him exactly. He changed the story. He lied about it.


My husband goes about telling everyone i am diabolic because I jokingly told him that he should be grateful I don't have a wicked heart if not I will use magun to catch him and his mistress. Which he even replied that he knows i dont have that mind. That i am still a child.
this was said around march of 2015

Fastward to November he started asking for a divorce because he of his mistress he met online. Telling both his colleagues and family members that I am diabolic which is not true. I feel bad because this same man have also confided in me telling me things about his boss and others. We are currently separated

But in one of ur post on nl u said ur fiancee cald off ur engagement ur u really married is dis just another joke of a story

I just regret everything. I regret confinding in him and opening up to him. With pleas from everywhere, he is still insisting on divorce.

cionon:


I am christain. I wasn't discussing marital issues with her. I was trying to conceive then. So I met her for advice on her she conceived her after 5years of marriage. That's how it went. He is really serious with the divorce. I don't want the divorce. I have begged him for another chance to change where I wronged him. But he has bluntly refused.

TheArchangel:
He is cheating bro, so definitely it is his mess or should she wallow too by soiling herself with reprisal cheating.? Or clap for him?

It is his mess when he engaged himself into adultery, a calculated decision to cheat on her.

jmichlins:
He does not deserve you. You are worth more much to be cheated on so let him go

onunwa21:


This thing you just wrote, do u think is easy. Can u advice ur sis that way...

Ndeewonu:

Judging from a one-sided story is too bad. UNDER NORMAL CIRCUMSTANCES, no man would file for a divorce when his wife is an angel. He either misunderstood the situation or is under a spell.
When angry, women often say stu.pid things that they don't mean, and a stu.pid man is bound to take the words literally and act upon them. It is sad that some women use juju to make men love them. Sadly, every juju has an expiry date which must be renewed often to avoid adverse effects.
Women, your mouth and company have brought woes upon you.

onunwa21:


This thing you just wrote, do u think is easy. Can u advice ur sis that way...

2HASUM:
Go and marry her then, anumpama

cionon:
I confided in my husband when he accused me of listening to people. I then opened up and gave him an instance that if i listen to people i would ne doing what they asked me to do.I told him the advice a former neigbhour of his gave me. Of which I told her I can't do such. Now he uses it against me. I feel bad because he didn't even say what I told him exactly. He changed the story. He lied about it.


My husband goes about telling everyone i am diabolic because I jokingly told him that he should be grateful I don't have a wicked heart if not I will use magun to catch him and his mistress. Which he even replied that he knows i dont have that mind. That i am still a child.
this was said around march of 2015

Fastward to November he started asking for a divorce because he of his mistress he met online. Telling both his colleagues and family members that I am diabolic which is not true. I feel bad because this same man have also confided in me telling me things about his boss and others. We are currently separated

I just regret everything. I regret confinding in him and opening up to him. With pleas from everywhere, he is still insisting on divorce.

josite:




stop regretting,work on your inner contents.as a man speaketh so he is.if you are not into the diabolic realm,where will the thought of magun comes from.and since that was what inside u,u spilled it out.your husband is not too far from thinking he has to be careful with you.just accept the divorce and go and do beta in your next relationship.some men including me cannot stand any lady with the least affiliation to the diabolic realm.guess your hubby is like me.NO GOING BACK.

bankybobo11:
Happy new month to these wonderful nairalanders: demigoddess (my Igbo bae), SANDOSKI, vheekie (geek), naijaboiy (swag), smellymouth (ladies man) and sinaj (beauty)

cionon:
I confided in my husband when he accused me of listening to people. I then opened up and gave him an instance that if i listen to people i would ne doing what they asked me to do.I told him the advice a former neigbhour of his gave me. Of which I told her I can't do such. Now he uses it against me. I feel bad because he didn't even say what I told him exactly. He changed the story. He lied about it.


My husband goes about telling everyone i am diabolic because I jokingly told him that he should be grateful I don't have a wicked heart if not I will use magun to catch him and his mistress. Which he even replied that he knows i dont have that mind. That i am still a child.
this was said around march of 2015

Fastward to November he started asking for a divorce because he of his mistress he met online. Telling both his colleagues and family members that I am diabolic which is not true. I feel bad because this same man have also confided in me telling me things about his boss and others. We are currently separated

I just regret everything. I regret confinding in him and opening up to him. With pleas from everywhere, he is still insisting on divorce.

SANDOSKI:




Tanx luv...

PinketteDawn:


Sometimes you really need to confide in someone. There is no need to die in silence for something that could've easily been resolved if you had opened up. Any way, I can assure you that divorce does not ruin a child's life in all cases. In fact, if half of the men we have in our societies were brought up by single mothers, away from abusive fathers and surrounded by love and care, then we would have better individuals/marriages today.

Yes, divorce is tough, but it is always a better option especially when children are involved. A child's mental and psychological state can be greatly affected if s(he) is growing in an environment where s(he) constantly witnesses different forms of abuse and degradation on one parent by the other. Some men you see today who beat up their wives, abuse them verbally, financially, sexually and even cheat on them, grew up in an environment where such acts were tolerated so they don't even see anything wrong if they do the same to their wives in their own marriages. There is no way you can try to explain to man who thinks that a woman is beneath him and she should obey every word he says because her sole existence is to please him, that this notion is wrong especially if he grew up in a home where he was constantly seeing his father treat his mother with such notion and she was there tolerating it so that divorce would not ruin her child. Hello! The child is already ruined by being exposed and allowed to grow with that mentality.

enoqueen:
Let him go.

If there is anyway u can take revenge on him by disclosing what he had said about people, expose him.

Marriage has taught me not to ever trust my husband with words.