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How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by magicminister: 10:08pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
Hey guys, my cousin is currently living with me and i swear he is a "pig". I have confronted him with this and yet he has refused to change. The only reason i haven't kicked him out is cos it might cause ripples in the "familysphere". 2 days ago, i called him out and talk to him with respect as a fellow man. I showed him all the mess he made and 2 days later (today) he still hasn't cleaned up. Today, i made up my mind to clean the house tomorrow (if its still a mess) and kick him out after i finish. See pictures of what i am talking about! Picture 1 is the balcony: instead of disposing the thrash, he left it on the balcony and i only discovered it when i had guests and we wanted to sit outside picture 2: Left over food he ate. Has been there for 2 weeks+ Picture 3: Left over pizza that has been there for 2 weeks+. P.s. I didn't eat any part of the pizza Picture 4: The kitchen. has been a mess for 4 days+
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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by Nobody: 10:18pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
Make sure he clean it up! don't clean it for him. wtf is that? 3 Likes |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by iserviceon(m): 10:31pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
He's a pig indeed but please don't kick him out as it may lead to serious story in the nearest future(do care) you need to counsel him on a daily bases he mighty never see it as bad habit due to the environment where he came from. Call him in the morning counsel him about the diseases and the effects of such attitude and also ask him to clean it up but don't address him in an insulting manner. I believe he will change as time goes by and you might be his role model one day. |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by Nobody: 10:33pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
Perhaps you should talk to him more sternly this time. If he refuses to change, snap more pictures for when you are called for the 'family meeting' and then, throw him out. #This is what happens when parents teach their boys – tacitly and otherwise– that cleanliness is peculiar to only females, and that cleaning up is their exclusive preserve. 6 Likes |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by Chicagoesontop: 10:35pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
magicminister: As Dirty As I Can Be, I Will Bet My Last Buck Am Far Far Better Than This Person !!!! 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by darkenkach(m): 10:53pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
Kick him out. It's your house for christ sake.. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by SAMBARRY: 11:45pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
Obun re o Ewa waye obun He must be 5minsmadness best friend Anyway pack all the dustbin and unwashed everything to his room,he'll be forced to clean it up and if that doesn't work invite his girlfriend to see how dirty her boyfriend is.trust me shame will nearly kill him and thereafter force him to change 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by Pidggin(f): 6:30am On Apr 01, 2016 |
Mr. Clean |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by 5minsmadness: 8:26am On Apr 01, 2016 |
SAMBARRY: Heeeeeeey This krayfish selling owambe woman won't leave me be! I go kidnap your daughter o Happy new month |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by greatgod2012(f): 9:38am On Apr 01, 2016 |
He's an adult for goodness sake! Send these to him through WhatsApp or email and tell him how pissed you are seeing your house like this. After which you tell him that you will kick him out if he refuses to change, and remind him that you have evidence to back up your decision if he decides to blackmail you within the family sphere. Not everybody can live with dirt. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by edwife(f): 9:44am On Apr 01, 2016 |
God knows I can't stand pigs..... allergic to untidiness. |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by Nobody: 9:53am On Apr 01, 2016 |
Chicagoesontop: |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by SAMBARRY: 10:53am On Apr 01, 2016 |
5minsmadness:why you go kidnap wura? Wetin you want use am do abi Are you part of the faceless bokoharamists who kidnapped THOSE chibok girls? |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by Flexherbal(m): 12:27pm On Apr 01, 2016 |
Maybe you should call a family meeting for his sake. |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by Chicagoesontop: 8:26pm On Apr 01, 2016 |
Gaborone: Babe I Swear, Today Even I Wash Wash Some Clothes, I Took Some To Dry Cleaners Yesterday, I Cleaned and Wash My Bathroom And Toilet,Everywhere Is Clean Here Now, Abi I No Try ? |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by Nobody: 9:05pm On Apr 01, 2016 |
Employ a cleaner... |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by blank(f): 6:57am On Apr 02, 2016 |
I have an in law like that. He is so dirty that his own siblings kicked him out of their respective houses in the US. Thank God he never stayed with me but he stayed with my MIL. she would be so frustrated. How do you use the toilet and forget to flush such that maggots start developing. After that incidence, she asked him to move out and get his own place since he is working. I have only visited him once and swore never to repeat it. Everywhere is grimy with empty water bottles even in the bath tub. And this guy is talking of getting married. . Looking for which young girl to punish. Abeg, kick him out and tell him why. Can't stand pigs at all. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by EfemenaXY: 7:14am On Apr 02, 2016 |
magicminister: @op. You don't sound like a very clean person yourself. For 2 weeks+, 2 weeks+ and 4 days+ you ate, slept, and entertained visitors surrounded by filth and grime? KICK HIM OUT! Otherwise you're simply indulging your dirty cousin. Forget what family will say. You're having to live in his shyte. Not them. (((Shudders))) Cc: 5minsmadness |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by magicminister: 7:19am On Apr 02, 2016 |
EfemenaXY: i have been working in L.A. for two months and i just got back to Texas some days ago. The house is same way i left it.... I only gave a time estimate on the filth i found judging by their level of decay. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by magicminister: 7:28am On Apr 02, 2016 |
PaulKillerman: I'm young and energetic. I would rather clean it myself than employ a cleaner. I only wanted help on how to deal with the situation from another person's perspective. Never had to deal with something of this nature before. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by EfemenaXY: 7:31am On Apr 02, 2016 |
magicminister: Okay then. You weren't around. Tell him his "Naija moves" won't work here. He either cleans up his act immediately or he's out on his ear. Mtcheeew. Talk about people from back home displaying the usual entitlement mentality. Your home should be your safe, relaxing haven after a hard day's graft. It sooo stressful coming back to a pigsty. Your cousin's pigsty. |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by magicminister: 7:34am On Apr 02, 2016 |
EfemenaXY: loool... I am actually the person from naija for brief business. Have been here for close to 2 months. hehehe.... 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by EfemenaXY: 7:36am On Apr 02, 2016 |
magicminister: I don't get it. Whose home is it? Yours or your cousin's? 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by magicminister: 7:39am On Apr 02, 2016 |
EfemenaXY: Its mine. Rented it out for the duration of my stay. Renting an apt is more convenient if i am gonna be outside the country for more than a month. |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by magicminister: 7:47am On Apr 02, 2016 |
blank: lmao!! i feel for you lol... |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by Cutehector(m): 8:41am On Jul 25, 2016 |
magicminister: My warm Greetings to you bro, I trust ur weekend went well . Just as I promised to remind you earlier on, the Mr Nairaland voting will commence today by 9am. I want to appreciate you once again for agreeing to vote falconey. Thanks so much bro. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by Nobody: 12:07pm On Jul 25, 2016 |
I don't know why but relatives are always so annoying. Pls don't kick him out as it will cause a bridge in the family relationship. Instead seriously tell him your mind and also tell him that you are only respecting the family ties connecting you two.If he still continues, just forget about him and take care of your house.I believe that one day It will be his own house that will be turned into a pig's sty.What goes up must come down |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by magicminister: 12:49pm On Jul 25, 2016 |
Cutehector: Chairman show me where to vote abeg. |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by byvan03: 12:59pm On Jul 25, 2016 |
Talk once more and kick him out if he is still deaf. |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by falconey(m): 1:37pm On Jul 25, 2016 |
magicminister: afternoon sir , it has been postponed to next week Monday sir , thanks in advance the thread will be in fashion section come Monday |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by Cutehector(m): 9:23pm On Jul 25, 2016 |
magicminister:lol unfortunately, voting got postponed till next monday |
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation Maturedly:::: See Pix::::::::::::::::::::::::::: by Nyceguy92: 12:34am On Jul 26, 2016 |
Please tell me, if the landlord sees this mess, will he give you guys one month rent free? Of course he will be livid with anger. Anybody who behaves as you described is not worth living with. What exactly is his problem; does he not have hands or just plain lousy? The only thing you need to do is report to relevant relatives and if he does not change the next day, kick him out!!!!!! And never feel bad about it. You did not ask much from him; just to keep the house clean! |
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