ONE of the biggest myths about rape and sexual
violence is that it happens as a result of
uncontrollable sexual desire. Being
uncontrollable, the perpetrator cannot be held
responsible for his actions. Therefore the
survivor must have done something to be raped.
Responsibility and blame are then shifted from
the perpetrator to the survivor.
Rape is not about sexual desire as all humans
have such desires but not all commit rape or
sexual assault. It is not a crime of passion,
where the perpetrator loses control. Many
rapists are in a relationship where their sexual
urges are satisfied. Sexual assault or rape is a
choice that they make.
Sexual assault
Rapists often plan their crimes, and in the case
of children, groom them to gain their confidence
and trust while waiting for an opportunity to
strike. It is premeditated and over 70% cases of
rape are planned in advance. When this
happens, the rapist takes away any control the
survivor has in that situation.
Rape happens in every society but it flourishes
in an environment where there is violence, where
women’s voices are not heard and where
perpetrators walk away free because the law is
not effective and law enforcement officers are
unable to differentiate between their professional
obligations and their personal biases.
This is even more difficult in a country like
Nigeria where police officers are not equipped to
tackle the menace of rape and sexual assault.
Many police stations do not bother to document
incidents of rape. Some policemen even take the
bizarre route of mediating between the alleged
perpetrator and the survivor.
Rape flourishes in many so called traditional
societies where women are considered less than
men. In these societies conscious efforts are
made to control women’s bodies and men are
raised with a feeling of entitlement that women
are there to do their bidding.
That explains why we excuse and condone rape
saying the rapist was desiring sex and just “took
it too far”. In this way, we make the crime more
acceptable and less severe.
Rape is also abetted by misogyny, which
manifests in laws that discriminate against
women, support cultural believes that women
tempt men with their bodies, and believe that
women do not have equal rights with men. Rape
is about power and control. It is about violence.
And rapists use their sex organs as weapons of
violence. Rape is about making someone submit
to your will. It is about power, anger and
control. Sex is the weapon not the objective.

What a Rapy Sunday Morning.

kazeemshina:
ONE of the biggest myths about rape and sexual
violence is that it happens as a result of
uncontrollable sexual desire. Being
uncontrollable, the perpetrator cannot be held
responsible for his actions. Therefore the
survivor must have done something to be raped.
Responsibility and blame are then shifted from
the perpetrator to the survivor.
Rape is not about sexual desire as all humans
have such desires but not all commit rape or
sexual assault. It is not a crime of passion,
where the perpetrator loses control. Many
rapists are in a relationship where their sexual
urges are satisfied. Sexual assault or rape is a
choice that they make.
Sexual assault
Rapists often plan their crimes, and in the case
of children, groom them to gain their confidence
and trust while waiting for an opportunity to
strike. It is premeditated and over 70% cases of
rape are planned in advance. When this
happens, the rapist takes away any control the
survivor has in that situation.
Rape happens in every society but it flourishes
in an environment where there is violence, where
women’s voices are not heard and where
perpetrators walk away free because the law is
not effective and law enforcement officers are
unable to differentiate between their professional
obligations and their personal biases.
This is even more difficult in a country like
Nigeria where police officers are not equipped to
tackle the menace of rape and sexual assault.
Many police stations do not bother to document
incidents of rape. Some policemen even take the
bizarre route of mediating between the alleged
perpetrator and the survivor.
Rape flourishes in many so called traditional
societies where women are considered less than
men. In these societies conscious efforts are
made to control women’s bodies and men are
raised with a feeling of entitlement that women
are there to do their bidding.
That explains why we excuse and condone rape
saying the rapist was desiring sex and just “took
it too far”. In this way, we make the crime more
acceptable and less severe.
Rape is also abetted by misogyny, which
manifests in laws that discriminate against
women, support cultural believes that women
tempt men with their bodies, and believe that
women do not have equal rights with men. Rape
is about power and control. It is about violence.
And rapists use their sex organs as weapons of
violence. Rape is about making someone submit
to your will. It is about power, anger and
control. Sex is the weapon not the objective.

Nice Piece... a little long, but nice.

However, rape isn't always about power... that is always the underlying theme but sometimes it can be an act of passion... revenge of some sort.
It can be an act of frustration...
Or simply a sexual depravity. Some serial rapists are often remorseful after the act...until the urge takes over again.
In religion, it may even be termed a demonic obsession.