Ewuro4:


Different strokes my dear

As a renowned Helicopter parent(kids call me that ) , I did what I had to do at the time. (I used to find it intrusive, utterly offensive & annoying , when other parents tell you how to raise your kids right, especially when noone is perturbed) , I saw it as a phase which was fun IMO. Kids used their savings on vacations and all that.

But you're right in your submission though. They must understand the essence of responsibility. Really , who wants to raise a couch potato brat considering the present world where accountability supasses everything else?

I'm great sweetheart, hope all is good in your end?

SAMBARRY:
all this end time mother's dey vex me

I dey wait for wura make she grows fast con tell me mummy I can't wash the pots because you've not paid me

This is Nigeria o.I no dey for all this sme sme oyinbo style.

Ewuro4:


Hehe my bad, I thought you were referring to your mom.

edwife:


You are very correct, no one can tell you how to raise your kids.. we can only give suggestions but that's all it is. We all different and variety is the spice of life.

I started saving once i was in secondary school. I had pocket money and was aware of the importance of money.Prior to that, i just did what my parents asked me to do as they never asked for something i wasn't able to do.

It is well with us.

I am good, thanks darling.

SAMBARRY:
remember that time there was a thread that had to do with a woman who left her tesident country to do owanmbe in Nigeria and then left her 10 and 13 year old kids. You were part of the people saying that child abuse.it's This it's that. You nor see were parents they leave Theo children for house with heaps OF clothes to wash and it must be spread on the wire before their arrival. Is that not building castle in the air by saying it's child abuse to leave children at home and go out as if it's not a common occurrence in Nigeria

Ewuro4:


Actually, My first once asked me that when she was 4 or so , it was very funny coz others never did, sometimes I had to refund them when we are in the store and they needed to buy toys or treats,

that kid looveees money like crazy... We use same Apple ID and I dare not use her credit I tell you.

edwife:


If you are talking about that then i still stand by my words. I will never in my life leave my 10 and 13 years old all ALONE at home and fly to ANOTHER CONTINENT to PARTY! It is highly IRRESPONSIBLE and DISGUSTING. Are you for real?

She did not just left them for a day but WEEKS! Be it in Nigeria or Abroad, i will never try that. And to think we live in a country whereby any small mistake will make you lose your kids to social service and you want me to go through that just because i want to eat jellof rice and wear lace to celebrate with people who won't give a Bleep if anything happens to my kids.

Yeah right, i agree i live in a fantasy land and i am snow white.

SAMBARRY:
mayb when theyre all grown up and leave your house you will keep paying them for washing their clothes, cleaning their fridge,washing their car and arranging the cloths. Ogedenbaje lo elonpo

SAMBARRY:
That's good.bottomline just as there are no perfect persons there are no perfect parents. Parents raise their kids differently based on what they perceive as their reality. So the point is we should all endeavour not to raise overspoilt rotten brats buy intelligent, smart hardworking and domesticated kids instead of all this indomie agric fowls

SAMBARRY:
lol

Orisirisi. That's your own parental style and I respect that however I will NEVER subscribe to such. If you ask me that kain yeye question it's my eyes that will do the talking

Ewuro4:


Egbe , I'm going to sleep jor, kisses to my Princess

Ewuro4:


kuilye you'll never change oh. You stopped reading my post after the first paragraph



Hmmm, BOTTOMLINE.. it's none of your beeswax since we have different last names

AND

I'll raise my brood as I deem , end of story abi dandan ni (na by force?) lol

SAMBARRY:
good night o

Don't forget to turn off the lights in the sitting room,corridors and kitchen. Check whether the gas cooker Is of and the electric cooker,lock the door and close the curtains

Good morning here o

SAMBARRY:


Ediwife ooooo

All those parents here in Nigeria. I'm not talking of obodo oyinbo o.I mean here in Nigeria who leave their kids for weeks and leave food in the fridge for them to help themselves while they are away nko? It's part of letting them grow fast and taking care of themselves and their siblings independently when you're away

My owanmbe friends do that.though the kids may break few plates but they cope and they do well.so I don't see anything wrong. I mean for adolescents o not young lads

Ewuro4:
This is exactly why I don't like oversabi nose pokers especially when it comes to parenting. I'd rather read professional parenting blogs.

Nice one Ableguy

Siena:
As kids, myself and my sisters WERE rewarded with treats for doing jobs round the house, especially for chores which were more meant for grown-ups. These rewards were sometimes candy or cookies, then as we got older, we were rewarded with real money.

Prior to this, we still performed our chores without fail, we were brought up to do so. Receiving token payments wasn't an incentive, it was preparing for financial responsibility.

My mom taught us at an early age how to save money, we kept a record of how much we'd earned, and our mom banked the money as we earned it. We were always able to ask for "drawings", and always knew how much we had at any given time. In our mid-teens, we had our own bank accounts, and knew the value of money, and how to handle it.

Myself and my wife have started the same practice with our eldest child.

It may NOT work for others, but it certainly worked for myself and my siblings. And it's working for our kids now.

edwife:


If that their idea of letting them grow fast (whatever that means) then it is their business. Owambe?

When some exhaust their life savings and live beyond their means just to throw or attend owambe why won't they leave their kids alone? .

Ewuro4:
This is exactly why I don't like oversabi nose pokers especially when it comes to parenting. I'd rather read professional parenting blogs.

Nice one Ableguy

Ewuro4:
This is exactly why I don't like oversabi nose pokers especially when it comes to parenting. I'd rather read professional parenting blogs.

Nice one Ableguy

Ewuro4:


Leave my wrapper kuilye I wan go hug my husband for bed. Dude's in wonderland

Baylam:
The bolded explain it all.. God bless you sir

Baylam:
The bolded explain it all.. God bless you sir

Hernyolar:
Growing up, my mum never paid me but gave me special treats especially when I made good sales in her shop in her absence. she sometimes will give me money to make my hair or dash me money to keep cos I've really impressed her.
Then whenever we traveled together to Lagos island from Ondo state,..she gets me stuffs to appreciate me cos after a whole day of carrying loads on my head to Bombata, I need encouragement.
All these made me more interested in her line of work cos sometimes customers even prefer to deal with me.

So I really don't think it's bad to give tips to one's kids especially after they've done something impressive

goodnews201668:


But can you pay your kids to do house chores like doing dishes, washing toilets, scrubbing or moping floors and the likes? I think that's the bone of contention here.

Hernyolar:


Not really...I won't give them raw cash.
I'll try to use my mum's style..I got lot of special treats...
I won't pay for the basic household chores, everyone is expected to play their roles, I will provide as a mother and the kid should assist me in chores too...more like division of labour.

As per the mopping of floor, my mum knew I detest it a lot...so it was always war time for us, but she knows how to make me do it without been harsh ot authoritative.

SAMBARRY:


Ediwife ooooo

All those parents here in Nigeria. I'm not talking of obodo oyinbo o.I mean here in Nigeria who leave their kids for weeks and leave food in the fridge for them to help themselves while they are away nko? It's part of letting them grow fast and taking care of themselves and their siblings independently when you're away

My owanmbe friends do that.though the kids may break few plates but they cope and they do well.so I don't see anything wrong. I mean for adolescents o not young lads

raumdeuter:
Children especially from age 10 upwards have money needs

I would support a mix where they get e.g a fixed amount as allowance say $50/month, then they get a variable as tips for chores they do outside of the normal house chores

Normal house chores include Cleaning your room and washing your plates are not chores that qualify.

E.g Dad that has a carshop if he has like a teenage boy and he helps at the shop, he can get paid at $1/hr for the work done. A woman has a shop her daughter helps out after school she gets paid for it.

If we have stuff to do at home thats outside the normal daily chores too they can get paid for it. E.g painting some rooms

tearoses:


Please I want to be your e-daughter
I want $50 a month too
Thank God my kids dont come to NL or they will just be chasing me around