Lost your job in a recent Layoff?

You know, I literally thought I was untouchable. I had been with Intel for 28 years. I'm not worried about losing my job, maybe a redeployment, and a new job is like a vacation right? I got to work early Tuesday morning. I had some notes and items to get cleaned up prior to an important meeting. I noticed a 10:00am meeting on my calendar with my manager. Didn't think much about it. I was happy and smiling, when I approached the conference room door I noticed the HR representative sitting with my manager. Now it doesn't take a lot of sense to know that this probably isn't about that big raise they are going to give me for being such a great employee.

The HR person got right to business and told me as of this moment I have been terminated. I said this must be some kind of a mistake or a bad joke. As the HR representative stared at me with cold dead shark eyes I realized she was not joking. My actual response was " I have things to do cant we talk about this later" she said No, I want your badge (ID) immediately. You must turn in your Laptop and any Intel property you have. It was a surreal out of body experience. I was literally on the ceiling looking down at this entire situation and I didn't like it. Now this is the pleasant most humiliating part. After helping actually build this site, I was escorted back to my office and handed a shopping bag. I dumped the contents of my backpack on the desk, picked up the pictures of my kids and grandkids and left everything else ( why would I want anything from a company that betrayed me after 28 years). I was marched down to a conference room and handed a thumb drive and told to take all the personal items off my laptop and to wipe my phone. But just prior to doing that, the technician assisting grabs the laptop out of my hand and states he has to disable the wireless so I don't send off some information or a an email warning others (Ha Ha) I have been with the company 28 years, I didn't become a criminal (like I was being treated) within the last 15 minutes. I was walked to the door and I never looked back. I kept hearing I'm sorry behind me, trust me it didn't help.

As I walked to my car my head was swimming with emotions. I was mad, I was enraged, I was literally shaking and when I got in my car I realized like I looked like I had been punched in the face. I was not in a good place and I really shouldn't have gotten behind the wheel in that condition. So I sat for a moment, but the longer I stared at the building the more upset I had become. Losing your job after 28 years is like losing your family. No I cant call them up, no I cant go to lunch and just chat, I am alone now.

This first thing I did when I got home was pick up the laptop and start looking for jobs. I whipped up a 20 minute resume thinking that I am so talented that I will have a job by tomorrow. My head was spinning. I was applying for every job I thought I would have a chance at. McDonalds, Dog walker, bus boy, landscaping (mowing lans), you get the picture. Keys pounding, resume's flying out of my mail.

Then my daughter called me. She is a very level headed woman that has held some pretty lofty positions in the entertainment industry in Hollywood. She was right on the money when she said " How many resumes did you send out today" I responded gee, I don't know 10 or 12 I can even remember the names of the companies. She said I want you to put down the laptop and listen to me.

Here is what she said. A tragic thing happened to you today. Your mind is reeling and you probably have a big case of anxiety and frustration. You picture yourself living n a box under the overpass. Your family thinks you are worthless, you think you are worthless, everyone in the world is against you. Just drive off into the desert and die somewhere, the world will be better off. All I could do was listen in amazement as she perfectly explained my state of mind. She said I know because I have been then 3 times now. Then came the words of wisdom.

She said: you are a talented individual. It is unfortunate what happened but it did and anything you say or do isn't going to change it. You cant cry over spilled milk, its gone! You need to take a couple of days or even a couple of weeks and decompress. You are not an Intel employee anymore. You do not have deadlines and commitments to meet. you don't have to sweat over all the work that was hanging over you head like an ax on a thread waiting to lop your head off. STOP, STOP and STOP. Take a breath. She asked " What do you want to do" Do you want to go back to work so bad that you are willing to accept another job that you would be miserable in or do you want to take your time, think about your skills and how they could apply to the job that you really want. This is your chance to reinvent yourself. Everyone that loses their job goes through this exact feeling of "disconnected". Take this time to reflect, don't think so hard about getting a job. Think hard about what I want to do. I don't want some job at McDonalds or Walmart. I want to work for the Forest service, or I want to have a job that allows me to be outside, I love highly technical things, I love golf, I love outdoor sports, I love target shooting, I love building motorcycles, I love wiring homes, I love technical problems that I can dig into and fix. The point is I have many skills. Those skills did not go away when I left my job of 28 years, but it sure felt that way.

No, No, No, You are what you have always been. A very talented person with skills that can be used in several areas that would accommodate exactly the job you want. Don't settle for a job that will just be a job. Go for a job that will bring you some happiness. I love sports, outdoors, meeting new people, fixing things, helping people, above all I love life regardless of what curve balls it throws at you.

Big Corporations don't care that you have a mortgage 3 kids and a car payment. Stop being a victim and start being aggressive in getting what you want for a change. Like a job you love.

Take a deep breath, relax, you are important, you are needed, you do have a place on earth and people rely on you to be strong. Above all your family and friends Love you and honestly, any job or money cant buy that.

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It is not a funny feeling. I lost mine some time ago. A lot of things flood ur head.. @ that point u need a lot of love and support. Self love and love from family. A lot of negative thoughts are bound to set in. Ill feelings about your former job and your self etc its a really traumatic time. Especially when it is your only source of income

Hmmmmm

Pyroxene:
It is not a funny feeling. I lost mine some time ago. A lot of things flood ur head.. @ that point u need a lot of love and support. Self love and love from family. A lot of negative thoughts are bound to set in. Ill feelings about your former job and your self etc its a really traumatic time. Especially when it is your only source of income

It is well my brother, most especially when you never expected it and you always feel you are the best on your job back then but still yet got the shock of your life.
Its almost five months now in the same shoe, more exactly like the write up analysis, you always look lazy and counting down to when the job will come again but the love and family support is the only thing that keep someone going at this trying time.

I lost mine last month as well to one foolish and heartless bank, it was a sad day for me up till this moment.....may almighty God assist us

Wow! Speechless. Life is just so cruel. These companies & organisations got no remorse. So painful. God will strenghten u guys.

or yu can just be your own boss

Claudio Ranieri used to be chelsea fc boss before he got fired. He didn't despair, he moved on with his coaching career and joined an underdog team who had an odd of 5000/1 to win the league. With his experience, he made the underdog team the top dog in the league.

A milk that has stayed too long in its pack is seen as a waste hence, thrown away by the milk producing company. But another company requires such milk in its yogurt production.


Don't despair at every disappointment. For every disAPPOINTMENT, there's an appointment.

I lost mine sometimes in February dis year, and believe me it was funny and it isn't funny. But onething I always believe is that God must surely have His way in our lives.
It is well Bro, don't give up, just wake up and continue.

Its so so saddening and depressing to lose a job especially at a time like this!

A friend of mine just lost his job...and I'm really feeling the pain cos he's a young family man!

As a married man, losing one's job isn't funny at all! It may bring out the love and concern of your partner... Or bring out the beast in them!...

For the single guy,he could still manage the little he has pending when the next job shows up...adjusting to the realities of life after such occurrences is the only solution!

honeyhoney:
I lost mine last month as well to one foolish and heartless bank, it was a sad day for me up till this moment.....may almighty God assist us

Sad day up till this moment? Sir, depression is an evil from the pit of hell.. You need to dust it off and believe GOD for a fresh start.

honeyhoney:
I lost mine last month as well to one foolish and heartless bank, it was a sad day for me up till this moment.....may almighty God assist us

. It is well bro. I will advice u stay positive, what eva savings u have left, strategically manage it while u plan. It is not an easy phase but it won't last forever although it ll seem like never ending. Surround ur self with understanding people. RUN from joy killers. If u still need a job. Start applying RIGHTLY

gondon:
I lost mine sometimes in February dis year, and believe me it was funny and it isn't funny. But onething I always believe is that God must surely have His way in our lives.
It is well Bro, don't give up, just wake up and continue.

. It is a phase. U ll be fine just stay positive and plan strategically

Did you know more than 5 Millions people lost their job since the blood sucking gworo man from Daura took over the mantle of leadership? Are you also aware that first Bank is about laying off more 1000 people to the existing millions of unemployed people? *Singing Fela's sorry for Nigeria *

sorry ooooo....for this hard time.

you've joined d 89% unemployed youth in the country.

Pyroxene:
. It is well bro. I will advice u stay positive, what eva savings u have left, strategically manage it while u plan. It is not an easy phase but it won't last forever although it ll seem like never ending. Surround ur self with understanding people. RUN from joy killers. If u still need a job. Start applying RIGHTLY

thank you sir

polymathic:
Sad day up till this moment? Sir, depression is an evil from the pit of hell.. You need to dust it off and believe GOD for a fresh start.

thanks for the word of encouragement, I strongly believe that things will come back to normal....what make me sad is that seeing tears in the eye of my dad the day I told him, my heart beat immediately, tears rolled down from my eye because I have never seen my dad with tears or be sad as that day, I feel I caused the sadness,but I had a promise with him to rise again which I strongly believe that God will do it for me.

snakie86:


It is well my brother, most especially when you never expected it and you always feel you are the best on your job back then but still yet got the shock of your life.
Its almost five months now in the same shoe, more exactly like the write up analysis, you always look lazy and counting down to when the job will come again but the love and family support is the only thing that keep someone going at this trying time.

exactly bro

honeyhoney:
thanks for the word of encouragement, I strongly believe that things will come back to normal....what make me sad is that seeing tears in the eye of my dad the day I told him, my heart beat immediately, tears rolled down from my eye because I have never seen my dad with tears or be sad a that day, I feel I caused the sadness,but I had a promise with him to rise again which I strongly believe that God will do it for me.

I'll send you PM sir, so we can talk better.. There's nothing GOD cannot do...

snakie86:


It is well my brother, most especially when you never expected it and you always feel you are the best on your job back then but still yet got the shock of your life.
Its almost five months now in the same shoe, more exactly like the write up analysis, you always look lazy and counting down to when the job will come again but the love and family support is the only thing that keep someone going at this trying time.

. It is well

I remembered when I lost a job in 2014.
It is not a state anyone wants to meet themselves.
I appreciate God for he helped me back up after 5 months but it was hell.

Now I do not just settle into a job thinking its fine.
I am very competent and great at my job and this has earned me increase and recognition over time but I will NEVER believe I am indispensable such that I settle in thinking nothing can happen.

In this times of no security, always be on the look out for jobs. Understand office politics, improve yourself and more importantly, be on the side of God.

I trust in God.

i lost my job on the 12th of April 2016 that is last month, I got to work only to b told to drop my ID card and d banks property with me alongside my 2 colleagues, I felt terrible, I cried, I could not go home to face my family BT d next day mum was expecting me to wake up early and start preparing for work BT I didn't and I could not sleep at night jus rolling from d bed to d floor BT I had no choice than to spill it. am looking up to God for a miracle soon cos am so tired

glothaddy:
i lost my job on the 12th of April 2016 that is last month, I got to work only to b told to drop my ID card and d banks property with me alongside my 2 colleagues, I felt terrible, I cried, I could not go home to face my family BT d next day mum was expecting me to wake up early and start preparing for work BT I didn't and I could not sleep at night jus rolling from d bed to d floor BT I had no choice than to spill it. am looking up to God for a miracle soon cos am so tired

It will definitely come soon my sister, that's the prayer of most of us at this trying time. Mine was even a funny one, i was on my annual leave and it happened the exact day i was suppose to resume.
Imagine telling folks that you are on annual leave then you receive the shock of your life and they will start asking"this man leave never finish?"

Chai, life is not fair, with the rate of unemployment, hardship here and there, When peace like a river attendeth ur way, when sorrows like sea billows roll; whatever my lot, thou hast taught me to say,
"It is well, it is well with our soul. Abeg i dey look for job

Hmm, I haven't graduated yet. But stories like this make me feel bad.

Please, to those passing through this phase, remember it is just a phase and it will pass. Just keep looking up.

Heyah!

Sorry about it man... Lost mine recently. I also just got an invite at Teclab management services, please any one has an idea how real they are ?

loosing job and resigning without any alternative is the same . I resigned from my job in February for some meaningful reasons .it has not been easy for me as my wife is outside work for more than 6 months ( involved in accident with fracture on her leg). But we thank God cos we r able to feed the ourselves and nobody knows what we r passing through.

For those of us without Job. let beliv in God. its well

When i hear this heartbroken stories it sends goose bumps down my spine.
What happens to those of us who have been seriously searching for jobs?? Where lies our faith?? GOD.
But then demands wont stop coming straight to ur face and all.
All i know is just the few who survives this times sings praises. Hopefully we will be luckily among. Amen

Let me ask this question, losing a job or being unemployed (i.e graduates searching for job) which among these is worse. I won't say better because the two are terrible state. May God help us in this country