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How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by Knightngale(f): 2:07pm On May 23, 2016
Men who keep having female children are considered weaklings, I have heard people say " a man hasn't given birth until he has a male child" others consider female children "half current", I was at a naming ceremony when the mother of two girls was told by the pastor, "don't worry, your next set of children will be boys, don't feel bad". A Mother having the 3rd female child in a row is likely to go home depressed, even if she has a husband who doesn't care.

It's good to have both sexes, if they come, but if a woman keeps having female kids, I don't think it should be an issue.

In today's word were women are strong and near independent, female children are no longer like properties and liabilities as they were.

Females can now inherit properties in almost all cultures, so the issue of having no one to name inheritance over is now a now non issue.

Female children are the ones who really look after parents at old age. A male child is busy with his immediate family, he could send money to his parent once in a while, but the female child gives attention more to aged parents.

For those who disagree, what is the special advantage of having a male child?

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by Iamlordgee(m): 2:11pm On May 23, 2016
Brb
Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by feran15(m): 2:11pm On May 23, 2016
No special advantage in today's world i guess

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by SAMBARRY: 2:15pm On May 23, 2016
Mshewwww

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by Knightngale(f): 2:16pm On May 23, 2016
feran15:
No special advantage in today's world i guess
so will you be ok with 3 female children only?
Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by lezz(m): 2:19pm On May 23, 2016
A male offspring is double step into the future!!!

In the world of hereditary and tradition, bequeathment and customs, a male child is next thing to surety.

Males are responsible for customs, civilisation, security, foundation and continuity and stability. Every woman should have one.

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by feran15(m): 2:19pm On May 23, 2016
Knightngale:
so will you be ok with 3 female children only?

Yeah. I would have preferred at least one of both genders but if all girls no problem

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by lezz(m): 2:22pm On May 23, 2016
SAMBARRY:
Mshewwww


Is this the new way for space booking or just a spiteful way of saying " I don't have an opinion "?

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by Cutehector(m): 2:22pm On May 23, 2016
Because they carry on the family's name. cool
Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by SAMBARRY: 2:22pm On May 23, 2016
lezz:
Is this the new way for space booking or just a spiteful way of saying " I don't have an opinion "?
both cool
Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by Knightngale(f): 2:29pm On May 23, 2016
Cutehector:
Because they carry on the family's name. cool




carry it on to where? Male children now give there first names to their children, so the name thing is still not really an issue.

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by Knightngale(f): 2:30pm On May 23, 2016
SAMBARRY:
Mshewwww


undecided

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by Cutehector(m): 2:32pm On May 23, 2016
Knightngale:
carry it on to where? Male children now give there first names to their children, so the name thing is still not really an issue.
where does that happen.



Look as far as family name is concerned, it's really the number one issue. Period.

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by Knightngale(f): 2:34pm On May 23, 2016
lezz:
A male offspring is double step into the future!!!

In the world of hereditary and tradition, bequeathment and customs, a male child is next thing to surety.

Males are responsible for customs, civilisation, security, foundation and continuity and stability. Every woman should have one.
female children can inherit in almost every custom.

Nothing women cannot do nowadays.

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by SAMBARRY: 2:38pm On May 23, 2016
Knightngale:
undecided
waka,shege, banza cool
Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by Knightngale(f): 2:43pm On May 23, 2016
SAMBARRY:
waka,shege, banza cool
please take your witch craft and evil spirit away from this thread undecided

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by itstpia8: 2:54pm On May 23, 2016
Knightngale:


In today's word were women are strong and near independent

Plz mention anywhere outside of Nigeria where you've seen these strong and independent women who are replacing men.

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by lezz(m): 2:56pm On May 23, 2016
Knightngale:

female children can inherit in almost every custom.

Nothing women cannot do nowadays.

In the Eastern part of Nigeria and some parts of Delta females can't inherit land or building except it is directly willed to her by her father.

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by SAMBARRY: 2:57pm On May 23, 2016
grin
Knightngale:
please take your witch craft and evil spirit away from this thread undecided
grin grin
Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by Knightngale(f): 3:01pm On May 23, 2016
itstpia8:


Plz mention anywhere outside of Nigeria where you've seen these strong and independent women who are replacing men.
rephrase the question
Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by itstpia8: 3:17pm On May 23, 2016
Knightngale:
rephrase the question

Give examples of non Nigerian women who fit the quoted phrase, if you know of any.

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by Knightngale(f): 3:22pm On May 23, 2016
itstpia8:


Give examples of non Nigerian women who fit the quoted phrase, if you know of any.
what do you intend to do with their names?

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by TV01(m): 3:29pm On May 23, 2016
Knightngale:
For those who disagree, what is the special advantage of having a male child?
For those from patriarchal or "son-preference" societies, the cultural imperative to have a son is undeniably strong and compelling - and can literally break homes and ruin marriages. The desperation for sons is strong - for both men and women. Thanks Lezz.

Indeed, for many - even in cultures, or for people, where there is no such imperative - the simple desire can also be quite deep. Dreams of taking your son to the match, or him growing into a striker for Arsenal, always seem that much more probable - if no less likely - when you have one. Is it beyond the bounds of possibility that men and women both have dreams of, and for their sons and daughter?

I always wanted a son and was beside myself when I asked the nurse to "scan and tell jor", and it was a boy. I couldn't contain myself, ran out and told everyone. Wifey was livid cheesy!

He is so handsome I told wife to deliver "4 more like that". When the second one was on the way - and yes I wanted another son - wifey banned scanning grin, but I was sure it was a boy. When this orange looking thing came out crying her eyes out, I almost choked, but managed to hide my disappointment from my wife.

Now? Sure I wouldn't mind more sons, but I wouldn't swap my daughter for any number of them. Dealt with again! Thank you Lord smiley.

I'm personally happy that the cultural imperative is changing, but we won't ever be able to trammel human desire. Agreeing or disagreeing with your post will not change that.

Siena, you had two girls and then a boy - and I've heard you say "as long as it's a healthy child" and all - but be honest with us - if you don't mind sharing;

1. Weren't you made up when you had a son?
2. With hindsight would you have been just as happy if you'd had another girl?


TV

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by SWITANN(f): 3:37pm On May 23, 2016
Nice post. but mind you female children were not properties or liabilities in the past. the society and people's mindset made it seem so. then,a man was rich by the amount of male children he has. But now things have changed, and if its cos of carrying your father's name that makes a male child important. I know a lot of women that got married and still had their fathers name. i for one will do the same. in my eyes,male and female children are equal. so there is no special advantage in having a male child.

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by bukatyne(f): 3:46pm On May 23, 2016
@knightngale:

While there might be no 'advantage' of having male sons (as wives & kids now bear the first name of their husbands; husbands change the family name on religious grounds; women sometimes hyphenate their fathers & husband's surnames), every parent desires both sex children and the drive for same sex child aka mini me is also very strong.

Now we see gender barriers crossed societally still nothing beats a son a father can mold to be greater than him... Nothing like a father having his replica to carry the torch of his ideals to the next generation.

I wonder how mothers with only boys cope; (I know one who cried her eyes out in the DR when her last was a boy) I must have a morenikeji... a daughter I can pour myself into and watch grow from a baby to a woman of virtue.

So bearing a male child/ the desire to bear a male child will forever be relevant. kiss kiss kiss kiss kiss

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by Knightngale(f): 3:47pm On May 23, 2016
TV01:



I always wanted a son and was beside myself when I asked the nurse to "scan and tell jor", and it was a boy. I couldn't contain myself, ran out and told everyone. Wifey was livid cheesy!

He is so handsome I told wife to deliver "4 more like that". When the second one was on the way - and yes I wanted another son - wifey banned scanning grin, but I was sure it was a boy. When this orange looking thing came out crying her eyes out, I almost choked, but managed to hide my disappointment from my wife.

Now? Sure I wouldn't mind more sons, but I wouldn't swap my daughter for any number of them. Dealt with again! Thank you Lord smiley.



TV
this was interesting to read smiley
Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by cococandy(f): 4:10pm On May 23, 2016
I think it's cool to have both sexes but when you can't, appreciate what you're blessed with. Even though I know that every child is a blessing, I'd be particularly sad if I didn't have a daughter. Because baby girls are fun not because they are better than boys.

But now that I do (sigh of relief), I'm hoping my next and last one is a boy. if not, still nothing spoil.

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by crackhaus: 5:01pm On May 23, 2016
Knightngale:
Men who keep having female children are considered weaklings, I have heard people say " a man hasn't given birth until he has a male child" others consider female children "half current", I was at a naming ceremony when the mother of two girls was told by the pastor, "don't worry, your next set of children will be boys, don't feel bad". A Mother having the 3rd female child in a row is likely to go home depressed, even if she has a husband who doesn't care.

It's good to have both sexes, if they come, but if a woman keeps having female kids, I don't think it should be an issue.

In today's word were women are strong and near independent, female children are no longer like properties and liabilities as they were.

Females can now inherit properties in almost all cultures, so the issue of having no one to name inheritance over is now a now non issue.

Female children are the ones who really look after parents at old age. A male child is busy with his immediate family, he could send money to his parent once in a while, but the female child gives attention more to aged parents.

For those who disagree, what is the special advantage of having a male child?
Sons tend to have a stronger affection for their moms, is this good enough for you? grin
Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by Pidggin(f): 5:26pm On May 23, 2016
@OP, what is the purpose of this thread? Nothing can change human desire, some want both genders, some like boys others like girls. It's up to you to decide the value you place on your child regardless of what society dictates

Teenagers male or female can be headstrong at times. I know families who got their own teenage sons arrested several times because these boys were too stubborn lol, who can handle a tough, strong headed teenage boy? Not even their equally strong dad could, the same goes for loud mouthed girls (they are not easy) but at least easier to handle physically wink Just loving your kids and giving them the best is what counts

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by Ewuro4: 5:53pm On May 23, 2016
TV01... 'Orange looking thing' grin It's amazing they're always orange or pink. Your last paragraph is powerful. Glad to see I'm not the only parent with that thought. How you dey?

@Topic, I don't know what to say. I have all girls and this weird thought always cross my mind; if I would be satisfied if one of them suddenly turned into a boy.. My honest answer is always No.

Though always wanted to balance my family with a boy but I've come to a resolution that this is my destiny , but then again, I'm a girl myself and have been nothing but the best thing that has ever happened to my parents, their expectations of me are met above & beyond their imagination, and my maiden name passes on with me.

This is funny , my oldest asked her daddy if she can keep her family name in future and his response was 'yes, your mom did and that'll make me very happy' . Aww grin

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by byvan03: 6:03pm On May 23, 2016
bukatyne:
@knightngale:

While there might be no 'advantage' of having male sons (as wives & kids now bear the first name of their husbands; husbands change the family name on religious grounds; women sometimes hyphenate their fathers & husband's surnames), every parent desires both sex children and the drive for same sex child aka mini me is also very strong.

Now we see gender barriers crossed societally still nothing beats a son a father can mold to be greater than him... Nothing like a father having his replica to carry the torch of his ideals to the next generation.

I wonder how mothers with only boys cope; (I know one who cried her eyes out in the DR when her last was a boy) I must have a morenikeji... a daughter I can pour myself into and watch grow from a baby to a woman of virtue.

So bearing a male child/ the desire to bear a male child will forever be relevant. kiss kiss kiss kiss kiss



To be honest that mother is a drama queen. Boys are easier to understand and deal with, I won't miss not talking about menstruation, boys/pregnancy this n that and all those yucky gists. Nah to shift these ones go their papa side for solutions biko. Me no get strength for tactical approach 101. As for inheritance and other related angles, that part no concern me jare. Our society isn't favourable to ladies, nature isn't too, a daughter will make me think too much grin. Am too protective, what will I do if my daughter comes with sob stories? Things like this worry me a lot because my solution will be come home to mama angry.

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Re: How Relevant Is Bearing A Male Child In Today's World? by itstpia8: 6:05pm On May 23, 2016
Knightngale:
what do you intend to do with their names?

In other words, all the ones you know of (and the context for your thread), are Nigerian.

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