Most parents are bothered about when to start teaching their kids about sex, but no matter how young they are you should be ready to answer them when they start popping the questions about taboo words, dirty jokes or gist about private parts and the likes they’ve heard.
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Everyday happenings would give you opportunity of teaching your kids topics relating to sex e.g. during birth, a birth in the family or even during television watching together. These "Teachable moments” could take place anywhere, and you should be ready for the task anytime it
emerges. The first thing you should find out as a parent is what they already know, while some would readily give out what they know, some would try to hold back, just let them know that they can talk openly with you on any issue – ANY.
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When your child(ren) begin to ask questions like:
"How did I get in your tummy?" "How did I get out?"
"How come girls don't have a
penis?"
Where do babies come from?";
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PLEASE try as much as possible not to embarrass him/her by laughing even if the question is cute, or you appear embarrassed about the matter so as to avoid them not wanting to discuss such issues with you again, yet trying to satisfy their curiosity elsewhere.
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Try to be brief about the discussion as going into too many details might confuse them the more, but make sure their curiosity is satisfied, you might even go ahead to ask if your answer to them answers their questions.
Listen to your child's responses and reactions, and be prepared to repeat yourself if the need be.
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They would probably begin by wanting to know more about their body, and the best thing to help make the situation light is to start teaching them the proper names of their body parts because giving them aliases would give them the impression that there’s something improper about the real names, and let them know about private areas which they should endeavour to keep private.
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The older they become, the more interested they get in basic sexuality about themselves and the opposite sex, like trying to compare his or her genitals with others. Just try as much as possible to teach them what is wrong or right to do by letting them know that sexual play and nudity in private and public places is wrong, and that on no account should ANY one touch their "private parts" except doctors and nurses during physical exams and (own) parents when trying to find the cause of any pain in the genital area.
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During their Pre-teen and teenage years, start expecting questions like:
“Why do boys experience erection?”
“Why do girls only menstruate?”
“How do people have sexual
intercourse?”
“Why do people fall in love”,
“How did mum meet dad?” etc based on.
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What they’ve been hearing others discuss, it’s very important you take time to explain to them than allowing them going to their friends or neighbours for answers after you’ve scare them away. It is highly important to help your child understand sexuality in a healthy way.
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Lessons and values he/she learns at this age will stay with him/her as an adult. It will encourage meaningful adult relationships later.
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As puberty sets in and more discoveries about sexuality sets in, it’s important to advice (not threaten or lie to them) about delaying sexual intercourse till they grow older. Making them understand the danger of unwanted pregnancy, sexual transmitted diseases regardless of how embarrassing it seems to you. The gospel truth is that they need to know and the best person qualified to divulge this information is YOU (parent) and not the school teacher or contemporaries.