shegxi:
i am saying if d wife has any grouse against d husband, she wuld help herself and d hubby by saying it. She is d onli one dat can clearly state wats wrong. If for all it's worth she has somthing against her husband and nt talking, she can't be totally absorbed of some blame.

carmag:
Are you good looking enough I mean..I wouldn't like to kiss Oshiomole for anything in the world.

....hmmm,,

as in the case of OP and his wife,
is it possible to marry someone you can't afford to kiss??
we're talking about life time partner here,
pls enlighten me""""""""


,,,,,,,,,,just curious.

TheArchangel:
Are you good looking enough I mean..I wouldn't like to kiss Oshiomole for anything in the world.

How do you mean by " she doesn't care about me?"

Have you ever had a major quarrel?
What is the age different between you two.?

carmag:



....hmmm,,
as in the case of OP and his wife,
is it possible to marry someone you can't afford to kiss??
we're talking about life time partner here,
pls enlighten me""""""""
,,,,,,,,,,just curious.

ogawisdom:
She is losing interest in u and d marriage. Find out y frm her if she won't talk then act like u dnt care too for a while n see if she will change.

If she continues acting up then u shld know d love is over, is either u co-exist with her like dt or do d needful.

Hw can she harbour endless grudge against her hubby n
giving u such emotional torture

This is always d fate of very caring husbands, they r maltreated n taken for granted. She kws this is d way to punish u n u r really punished. Sometime U blow hot and blow cold for balance.

victovrry:


May God bless nairalanders for all your views, I really appreciate your comment...to botress my point, I don't lock my two phones despite my work didn't allow that for her. She browse my phone always...sometimes she read the text before I do...she knows how much my salary is and even call her to table when sharing it ...I will definitely try plan B

victovrry:
TESTIMONY TIME !!!
After receiving different ideas here, I woke her up last night and asked what has been the caused her changed in attitude ... WOMEN SHA! She broke into tears and said my occasionally drinking of alcohol has been the cause of her changes and whenever she saw me doing that, she always feel bad, I told her that she knew this before we got married and why has she kept silent? She answered and said she thought I will stop it after marriage...hmmm I'm a security personnel, sometimes going for assignment that may require such.. Though I told her I will stop completely....she was happy to hear that and the whole scene ended in a 20mins of kissing, I won't tell you guys what happened next ....Thank you all, I celebrate you all

victovrry:
It has been three years of our marriage now, I have been the one always saying sorry as a man due to the fact that I always want a happy home; she has been refusing kissing after our marriage which she knew I love most before we got married; she don't care about me as I do to her, can I say shes doing this intentionally to achieve something ? We are expecting the second baby now ; Men in the house I need advice that can correct this .....

carmag:
..@ op you fail to elaborate on how you meet and convince your wife to marry you.

how long did you date before you decided to marry her?

did you entice her with material things in order to marry you?

did you promise her some benefits if she agrees to marry you?

was she under pressure from her family to marry you?

did she agree to marry you cos age is no longer on her side?

...you see, if you can answer some of these questions it'll throw more lights on the course of your predicaments and probably you should be able to get some useful advice

...." don't mind does that commented above me that said you must fast and pray or did you told them you've not been praying,,, they probably have no clue on family matters.

""" if you marry a woman that belongs to someone els you'll have emotional torture as long as the marriage last

Cherlene:

Hey dear,
How are you?
Cherlene

victovrry:



This I will say it bothering me also cos I never did anything wrong to be treated this way, is it a crime to be a caring man ? This issue has been taken to a marriage seminar and I raised it and she promised to change, I was expecting a romantic kissing when we got home but nothing of such ...

carmag:


..hmm
some people de try sha,.... all I know is that marriage is to be enjoyed and not to be endured, so many men have died before their time as a result of frustrations in their marriage's my uncle is one of them I'm a witness to that..
but in nija the mentality is how many children do you have and fail to ask ( AM I HAPPY IN THIS MARRIAGE) thank God for my exposure if not I'll still beclouded with the notion what the society will say and not what makes happy.
Now you're married but you're contemplating of seeking pleasure gratification somewhere els, then what's the definition of marriage.
,,,the ball is on your court bro.. cheers

victovrry:
TESTIMONY TIME !!!
After receiving different ideas here, I woke her up last night and asked what has been the caused her changed in attitude ... WOMEN SHA! She broke into tears and said my occasionally drinking of alcohol has been the cause of her changes and whenever she saw me doing that, she always feel bad, I told her that she knew this before we got married and why has she kept silent? She answered and said she thought I will stop it after marriage...hmmm I'm a security personnel, sometimes going for assignment that may require such.. Though I told her I will stop completely....she was happy to hear that and the whole scene ended in a 20mins of kissing, I won't tell you guys what happened next ....Thank you all, I celebrate you all

carmag:

.
...Hi, I'm fine and how you too?

kunjani,

I'm hailing u from jozi

I am well thank you.

At bolded

Cherlene

Cherlene:

I am well thank you.
At bolded
Cherlene

Cherlene:

I am well thank you.
At bolded
Cherlene

carmag:


Yep...that's my base,

... and you?

...cape town I Guess !!

I am from CAPE TOWN, but based in Scandinavia.

Cherlene

Cherlene:


I am from CAPE TOWN, but based in Scandinavia.

Cherlene

carmag:


....Waauuuu,,,, that's cool

hope your fine over there?

Yes, I am. Hope you are enjoying my MOTHERLAND?

most south Africans don't travel except on a special assignment which is very good

Yes, in most OCCASIONS

Btw.. when you have world class infrastructures and a stable economy why should one have to wander about.

Indeed, I cannot COMPLAIN.

***you're beautiful***

Aww, thank you.

.. I didn't upload my picture on NL because of
the bashingssssss

Oh, how so

though, I don't comment on controversial threads.

Keep it SO!

cheers.....

Whyterose:
Hmmmm ,wat an irony of life... n here I am wondering y my hubby also stopped kissing me 4abt 2years now. In fact d last time we kissed was when the pastor said u can now kiss d bride which was in April 2014