SUITORS NOW PREFER OUR MAIDS TO OUR DAUGHTERS FOR MARRIAGE
Why not?
When we devote time in training the maids on how to cook well, how to clean
the house and on good mannerisms while leaving our own daughters untrained.
We overwork the maids and they adjust with equanimity because they need us
to survive.
The maids turn out to manage the indignation and insolence we and our
children subject them to. All these make the maids better wives who can
manage even the angriest of men.
Our precious daughters are pampered through nursery and primary schools.
They speak the English we want and know all the cartoon slangs by heart. We
beat the maids blue black if they ever ask our girls to help out in domestic
duties. They see kitchen things as maids' things.
The girls move from boarding schools to the university, do their NYSC, Masters
and get a job. Of course, they are ripe for marriage and you wish that to happen
soon.
From one relationship to another, the same story. The guys would parade and
dump them. They are only good in bed, outings, clubs and red carpet functions.
The boys de-commit when they notice that the possible wife cannot cook,
arrange things and are very domestically untrained. The rich guys can manage
as they would mitigate the handicap by hiring a domestic help. Not all guys can
afford this for a start.
There was a lady after sponsoring her daughter up to the university, before
wedding seats her down for tutorial on sex and the girl bluntly replied, mum I
know have to make love, teach me how to cook, apparently the innocent looking
cute baby has gone pro when the mother thought she's armature.
The upcoming and very sensitive guys who would make good husbands, fathers
and leaders would not manage these parents' inflicted shortcomings. They
would settle for well trained ones. They know the value and the pride in hosting
friends at home to delicious delicacies prepared by a wife.
My friends love eating the food my wife makes. My wife's proficiency in culinary
matters and the joy she exudes in cooking different dishes for me has made me
to stop eating outside. I tell people that as a titled man, that I'm forbidden to
eat outside but I know the truth- no food can taste any better than my wife's.
I'm also convinced that my addiction is not juju-inspired. It would have expired
by now. We are married for 16 years+.
Not all your maids would remain your servants for ever. Some of them would
finally do part-time studies and like a train, get to their God ordained
destinations sooner or later. There are some instances where maids chased
madam out of her matrimonial home and in turn became the madam of the
house, my sisters no blame Satan, you've failed in your responsibilities.
Like a perfume, good guys perceive well trained wife materials from afar and
dump the daughters of the bourgeois like hot iron. Long time happiness in at
stake. No explanation is given. Sometimes, the sack message is made through
a social medium.
Let your daughters learn what you teach your maids to make them compete for
the few available good men if marriage is important to them. There are few
guys who believe that marriage is for better for worse.
Don't be deceived; love is an active verb. Yes it is. You love; you loved; and
you used to love. You can also hate who you used to love. Therefore, some
men are immune to pre-marital love blindness.
In practice, love can't cover the stench of bad early formation of our daughters.
Right now, educated former maids are now cornering better men on offer
because they possess the requisite or set skills the highly perceptible and ready
husband materials need.
Mothers please take note