LadyT:

Oh please why take him to a doctor he is not mad people just a grip we have the tools to train our own children.  He is just a naughty boy.  You need to spend a lot of time with him and give him punishments. Like making him stand in a corner for a long time when he does something he should not do.


You should STILL SMACK HIM if after many warnings he does not listen but maybe change the smacking into punishments like standing on one leg and finger for 20mins or kneeling down and raising his hands.

You make sure you explain to him why he is being punished and that you love him very much you just want him to grow up and be a good person.  Everyday when you take him to school you tell him how to behave and you commend his good behaviour and let him see how happy you are when he does something good.  Buy books and toys and sit down and read with him and play with him.  Do activities together where he will have to concentrate even if its for short periods of time.

Make sure he has a daily programme he eats at certains times and goes to bed when you say even if he refuses to sleep you shut the door and turn out the light. 

And his diet please cut out all sweets and sugary drinks these should only be treats.

He is not a monster he just has a strong personality that needs to be tamed.  You gave birth to him and by Gods grace you will train him dont fear! 

Outstrip:

LadyT your response to the serious issue is just typically Nigerian. You need to read between the lines here. She said her child is behaving "somehow". A mother's instinct is usually right. He is hitting people and his classmates are scared of him. He is putting everything in his mouth and she has a hard time getting him to focus. Please do not deprive this child from getting the early intervention he needs. You just ignored the serious issues and focused on the bad behavior. I don't even know what to say to you. Would you sit back and keep beating your child when the child shows this sort of behavior. You will not. It is always easier to say spank the child than do the difficult work of finding the problem and working to solve it.

Outstrip:

You are obviously not the sharpest knife in the drawer

Outstrip:

STOP HITTING THAT BABY. YOU ARE MAKING IT WORSE. I do not want to alarm you but[b] make an appointment to see a behavioral specialist ASAP.[/b] Stop him from putting things in his mouth by giving him something else to chew on. This is important because children who do this usually end up with high levels of lead which we all know can lead to brain damage. You can buy chew tubes on this website www.adaptivechild.com. Use this link directly to get to chew tubes http://www.especialneeds.com/search.php?mode=search&page=1 . There are two things you said in your post that makes me feel that your son might have some sensory issues. The need to put things in his mouth and laughing when there does not seem to be any problems.

Correct you child with positive reinforcement.
See a behavioral specialist (the wait time for this can be as long as a year though. Sad but true)
DO NOT GIVE UP ON YOUR CHILD


God bless and please update us on him.

Outstrip:

First of all I do not have a green card and secondly you are so beyond irresponsible it is pathetic. To jump to the conclusion that this is as a result of a lack of parenting is stupid. Yes I said stupid. Would a mother really come on here to ask why her child is stubborn? Use your head. You are just a classic case of the very many things I dislike about people. "You already have the tools", "whoop his ass", blah blah blah. I am not in the mood for your type today and I certainly do not want to divert this thread.

Outstrip:

First of all I do not have a green card and secondly you are so beyond irresponsible it is pathetic. To jump to the conclusion that this is as a result of a lack of parenting is stupid. Yes I said stupid. Would a mother really come on here to ask why her child is stubborn? Use your head. You are just a classic case of the very many things I dislike about people. "You already have the tools", "whoop his ass", blah blah blah. I am not in the mood for your type today and I certainly do not want to divert this thread.

davidylan:

No offense but the above makes no sense. This is clearly a lack of parental discipline. Period.

TOPE2000!:

Gbam . . . . All these speacialist wil just give your child a label.
I dont think anything is wrong with the child . . . .yes smack him when necessary and let him know why

LadyT:

The worst thing is the doctors start feeding the children drugs to calm them down which is just awful.

All children are different I am so tired of these parents who think having kids is easy. Its hard work and especially when they are young they need control and love.

Obiana:

I WRITE TIHS WITH A HEAVY HEART. OF LATE,MY 3 YR OLD SON HAS BEEN BEHAVING SOMEHOW. HE PICKS UP THINGS FROM THE FLOOR ANYWHERE AND PUTS IN HIS MOUTH, HE IS SO ROUGH WHEN PLAYING THAT ALL HE DOES IS TO BEAT AND SLAP HIS FRIENDS WHEN THEY PLAY. AT TIMES,IT WILL BE AS IF HE REMEMBERED SOMETHING AND HE WILL START LAUGHING. I HAVE CORRECTED HIM BUT THE CORRECTIONS DO NOT SEEM TO BE YIELDING ANY FRUIT. THE BEATINGS HE HAS RECEIVED FROM ME ALL IN A BID TO CORRECT HIM NKO. STILL ALL TO NO AVAIL.

NOW,HE STARTED SCHOOL 2 DAYS AGO, WE LIVE IN EUROPE AND JUST AS I WENT TO PICK HIM FROM SCH. THIS AFTERNOON, HIS TEACHER HAD A LOT OF COMPLAINTS TO LAY ABOUT HIM. SHE SAID THE SAME THINGS I SAID HE DOES, SHE SAID HE THROWS THINGS AROUND IN CLASS,AND THAT HIS CLASSMATES ARE BEGINNING TO GET SCARED OF HIM. WHAT A SHAME!

I BEGGED HER TO BE PATIENT WITH HIM AND SHE TOLD ME TO TALK TO HIM AT HOME SO THAT TOMORROW,HE WILL BE OF GOOD BEHAVIOUR IN SCHOOL.

I AM REALLY PAINED COS I DONT KNOW HOW ELSE TO CORRECT HIM.IF HE CONTINUES THIS WAY, IT MIGHT EARN HIM AN EXPULSION FROM SCHOOL AND NOT ONLY THAT, I DONT WANT HIM TO GROW UP LIKE THIS.

PLEASE, PARENTS IN THE HOUSE, HELP ONE OF YOUR OWN WHO IS REALLY TROUBLED BY THIS.

THANKS

Outstrip:

I will talk to the poster about this offline. As for those saying that there are no lead in toys have no idea what they are talking about. Millions of toys were recalled in the US last year because of this issue. The fact is that the child is at a critical age and rather than look at the symptoms everyone simply wants to write it of as he being a stubborn child.

@ the person who took the time to go look at my profile and wishes that my breasts were filled with water and yet does not have time to think about me I suggest you pray hard so that you too will be as blessed and not sit on nairaland and study another woman's breasts. okpo

Outstrip:

I will talk to the poster about this offline. As for those saying that there are no lead in toys have no idea what they are talking about. Millions of toys were recalled in the US last year because of this issue. The fact is that the child is at a critical age and rather than look at the symptoms everyone simply wants to write it of as he being a stubborn child.

LadyT:

Oh please why take him to a doctor he is not mad people just get a grip we have the tools to train our own children.  He is just a naughty boy.  You need to spend a lot of time with him and give him punishments. Like making him stand in a corner for a long time when he does something he should not do.


You should STILL SMACK HIM if after many warnings he does not listen but maybe change the smacking into punishments like standing on one leg and finger for 20mins or kneeling down and raising his hands.

You make sure you explain to him why he is being punished and that you love him very much you just want him to grow up and be a good person.  Everyday when you take him to school you tell him how to behave and you commend his good behaviour and let him see how happy you are when he does something good.  Buy books and toys and sit down and read with him and play with him.  Do activities together where he will have to concentrate even if its for short periods of time.

Make sure he has a daily programme he eats at certains times and goes to bed when you say even if he refuses to sleep you shut the door and turn out the light. 

And his diet please cut out all sweets and sugary drinks these should only be treats.

He is not a monster he just has a strong personality that needs to be tamed.  You gave birth to him and by Gods grace you will train him dont fear! 

TOPE2000!:

I agree . . . . . . . .
My sis eldest son was also a naughty boy when he was young, he always got into trouble at school but if u see him now, he has changed but my sis did beat the hell out of the child n he has changed

Even God said we should beat our children

chic2pimp:

*shakes his head*

oníjògbòn:

wetin u dey shake ya head for? like say ya papa or mama no spank ya yansh well well when u dey small?

now u know she no literally mean say baba God talk say make we dey beat our children, she was only being funny. 

hence, the smiling the face. . . haba! chillax o jare before ya head fall comot for ya body.