Ok, listen people, I have sort of a family, ok let me make that mother, problem. It isnt really a problem, just pressure. I am approaching/in the marriage age zone, which I am not really keen on because I am studying Medicine which is just overbearing and all that concerns me now is to graduate. My father is supporting me fully in telling me to focus on that first (thats probably because he studied medicine too and knows what the hard slaving means) but my mother has started hinting marriage stories. I mean whats up ma'am, its probably the last thing on my mind now cause I know myself. If I am having one burden esp like studies, I tend to pay less attention to a relationship. I dont know if its psychological and frankly I dont care whats the root cause but those are just facts and I have found out i tend to cope well. Now, I know she is just concerned that I should not miss out and struggle to find a partner later on but I really dont think I need that pressure right now at the peak of my education. I know many other females have managed to even get married while still at Med school but I have seen most of them struggle to cope afterwards. Anywway, these are just supporting facts, not that they are my justifying reasons. Nowadays whenever she brings up such topics, I just remain silent and I have also started keeping clear of her and avoiding her. Please help me, as we are very close and I dont know how to make her understand.

There should be a balance, life is not all about marriage neither is it all about education.

I am wondering, is studying medicine that tasking?

If your dad is supportive about it then speak to your mum raising your concerns. At you need to do one before next to the other one.

Mothers tend to be overconcerned sometimes. I don't think that you really can convince her that you will find a partner after graduating. I would just tell her as friendly as possible that this is your life and that she has to trust you that you will find your way. These are HER concerns and you should not suffer because your mother is not willing to let her sorrows go. Your mother has to learn that you are grown up now.

Best regards,
Ceily

I will say try and balance it, but not because your mother is presurring you. the easiest place to run into people with the same values and goals as you is when you are in school. Once you are out , you never know where work will take you. Its not by force that you marry while you are studying but make sure you nurture a network of friends.

i think you should show her some signs that you are also working towards that while pursuing your studies.

Tell your dad to talk to her.

How old are you?

She's just concerned and all she can do is talk and talk; you don't have to listen to her.

But you know u cud also have a bf while studying; it's not that difficult to handle. It will only be a prob if the guy is giving u unnecessary headache. But good luck with everything, and ye, if it comes to u choosing one do stick to ur career (esp if ur confident in urself that @ no matter age u might be at, u'll still get a man).