WHO PRETENDS MORE DURING COURTSHP?

I recently attended a youths’ programme where one of the speakers said something quite intriguing- he said, “…courtship is not a period of courting, it is a period of pretence!”- Not like this is my problem at this time but I found this revelation to be interesting.

There is much truth to this statement, both guys and girls pretend to an extent during courtship until years into marriage when their true self begins to unveil.

No wonder, you hear such things as, “I never knew he was like this when we were dating”, “I didn’t know she is capable of such…”.

I know well that a guy would usually act super-nice, he will take her out to the movies, to the beach, to the latest eat-out spot and possibly anywhere one would hang-out, he promises her the earth to the high heavens but fast- forward few years into marriage, a guy would hardly ever take the girl out to ‘Mr. Biggs’ for ice-cream.

The girl on the other hand would do all in her power to be seen as the ‘only girl in the world’. She ensures she is at her best behaviour at every point in time of meeting. She ensures her hair and make-up is on point, she has the right dress on, she wants to look perfect, like an angel sent from heaven. Few years into marriage, probably not so much.

So the question now is, who pretends more during courtship?

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