Please I need your help on this as e don dey pass my power. I dated my wife for some years before marriage. She had this no sex before marriage rule which I respected since I met her a virgin at 25.Since then I can swear I have been her only intimate partner before marriage. She once displayed this low libido, inexperience altitude which I didn't take serious even when we eventually had sex last year she cried all thru and I promised not to touch her again until after sealing the deal.
Now we have been for months now, I practically changed her wardrobe when we went on honey moon and have tried my best to make her happy. But I can't bear this alone anymore. Our sex life sucks. I have tried all I can to make her improve all to no avail. She just lies like a log of wood and she believes sex is only to make babies and that should be at least twice a month.
I on the other hand can have sex every day and having dated loads of girls ,I feel I am not getting it sexually. The only time I get to enjoy sex with her is if she is tipsy. But I can't get her drunk purposely so we can enjoy sex na. That will create another problem. Please how do I increase her appetite for sex. Make her want more sex or increase her libido. I promised not to cheat on her . She is everymans dream save for this sex aspect.
Kindly help a brother . Any safe drugs, fruits, roots, etc.u can recommend pls.
I have done all I know to do from giving her head, getting her into loads of pre-intimacy it just ain't working . Pls help me out. Thanks

take her to a marriage counsellor.

Amara VanLare will help you. Talk to her.

Solutions.. take your pick....

<<<< Therapist. .( it is effective, u are not washing any dirty thing in public) side effect.. cost money..

<<<<Talk to Her mum (oh!!! in the kitchen, she will tongue lash her for making u miserable and that will put the "fear of God" in her) side effect...she will be shy and might be angry with u after the kitchen talk with her mother...

<<<< pastor's wife( she will open the scripture for her to see) side effect... it might be the topic of discussion next sunday service....

Open your mouth and speak ( you guys have to have the talk...be gentle at the same time firm.. tell her she was gently pushing u out side...that u love her but she should not "starving u" )Side effect.. she might be doing it just to please u but was not enjoying it as it should be...

kikikikikikikiki after dating and sleeping around with series of women, you now opted to marry a virgin and now you are not getting it as you use to get it before (Everyday kitty). Why are you now complaining? why did you not marry a woman you are sexually compatible with? with the way this is going now, you might end up cheating on your wife if the sexual frustrations continue. Anyways, I pity your poor wife. She does not know what she has gotten herself into. If she cannot adapt to your sexual lifestyles, what happens next?

Maybe she needs to watch pornography. That could serve as a stimulant tho. But it's wrong right?
Maybe there's a difference between what's wrong and what's necessary

Hmmmm...lobatan! I wish you both good luck!

Lawd I can't fit deal...can deal mehn!

Sex is who we are and how we live ....You can't be dying in silence . A woman who is sexless is not every man's dream . Speak for yourself not the whole planet . What we need most as humans is good sex and money but hypocrisy won't allow many to admit it . Don't let this life fool you ...You both should go see a marriage counselor .


Peace Be Upon You

After dating & fucking lots of girls, you went for a virgin for marriage and may end up cheating on her. Yes she might be Everymans dream yet you may end up cheating on her. Is this virgin thing not overrated?
On the other hand, you are experienced and she is inexperienced so just continue to coach her and always let her know the way you want it.

You also need to let her know that sex is not just for making babies.
That is why I will always advice youths to marry someone they are extremely attracted to. Your wife is not attracted to you and you have to make her want to have sex with you else.........

I think you just need to give her time, she'll come around. She just started having sex, it takes a while for some women who just lost their virginity to begin to enjoy regular sex.
Meanwhile, don't pressurize her unnecessarily; if there's still pain, she should see a gynecologist to make sure her anatomy is normal.