Hmmmmm. Where do I start from? Just a year into marriage and my husband can't find succour in me asking for nudes from his girlfriend,telling her I love you,calling her baby,gisting about my own child. He's become so mean towards me wiith a 2month old baby I use my salary on the family. This is not how to pay me back. Am thinking o a divorce after having another child because he disgusts me now. I really need everyone's advice. Please help and push to homepage mods thanks and God bless.

This is a very serious matter... If u think you can't fix ur relationship with ur husband, then u better seek for legal advice.



Good luck..

@Op, have you tried confronting him?

lisa5:
Hmmmmm. Where do I start from? Just a year into marriage and my husband can't find succour in me asking for nudes from his girlfriend,telling her I love you,calling her baby,gisting about my own child. He's become so mean towards me wiith a 2month old baby I use my salary on the family. This is not how to pay me back. Am thinking o a divorce after having another child because he disgusts me now. I really need everyone's advice. Please help and push to homepage mods thanks and God bless.

I'm sorry to hear about this.

It makes me.laugh when we feel divorce is the way out of a marriage problem.

You have to know marriages have their turbulent times, and checking out does not mean you did the right thing. And besides where will you go to afterwards? You think the next man will be better? Wait till you marry him also.

Your situation is even better (not that it is good at all) compared to what some other wives experience.

As long as it hasn't become physical abuse (else you pack out immediately), it is still salvageable.

You understand that whatever happens to us in life we must try to share the blame. And the blame you have is you picked a man like this.I am sure yyou already saw some traits but you ignored them before marriage. This is my experience with many ladies.

Now this is not to make you feel bad, its just a way of taking some form of responsibility first.

The things to do are this:

Treat him with respect and try not to have arguments with him. It is difficult but its best.

2) You have to focus on your job and your child now, try to draw your source of encouragement from caring for your child.

3) Continue to be a home maker,make his meals and treat your in-laws nicely. Don't report him to them yet. Let them discover his irresponsibility.

4) Greatest command of all - get on your knees and pray. Many wives don't know this is the most effective tool in getting a man to dance to your tune. I'm speaking from experience. You need to see the "War Room" again and again and ask God to help you. Its not just a movie, its a powerful message.
You cannot fight a man and win. You both cannot win!

Serve God and remain faithful, He will get him back for you.

You need to know that. many men are controlled by their sexual desires. But his heart still belongs to his wife. He just wants to sleep with those girls. YOU ARE THE WIFE, AND YOU WILL WIN!

Please, be careful. Try not to have sex with him until he's changed, except he uses protection - this is very important.

If you can, convince him to go to Church regularly and seek marriage counseling. Try not to raise your voice against him, it won't work ma.

I pray God will give you victory in Jesus Name.

Watch those you take advice from. Don't go asking friends who don't want your marriage to survive in their heart.

If you can introduce God to your husband, you have a jackpot!

Men who are faithful fear nobody except the God they have.


Shalom!

husbands of nowadays, only a Godfearing man can stay faithful to marriage vows. Op, i feel ur pain but divorce should not be an option. Pray until something positive happens

lisa5:
Hmmmmm. Where do I start from? Just a year into marriage and my husband can't find succour in me asking for nudes from his girlfriend,telling her I love you,calling her baby,gisting about my own child. He's become so mean towards me wiith a 2month old baby I use my salary on the family. This is not how to pay me back. Am thinking o a divorce after having another child because he disgusts me now. I really need everyone's advice. Please help and push to homepage mods thanks and God bless.

Why do you want to get pregnant for him again and then divorce?
You said he has become mean,why did he all of a sudden or has he been that way since you married him?

Men don't value wives who use their salaries on the family till they get to their 60s or 70s age mark. They prefer those that give them headache. So be selfish,start using ur money to pamper yourself and save the rest.