kingcity:
I have been experiencing this for a while now, once I become extremely close to some person I become too emotionally attached to them, I have tried my best to stop this but its very difficult for me. The worst is when those people stop talking to me for a while I always feel empty and down. how do I control this? am a guy of few friends and I dont keep a long list of friends at a time. please nairalander help I really want to learn how to control myself

greatnaija01:
YOU MAY NOT BE EVEN EMOTIONALLY STRONG TO DO WHAT IT TAKE TO BE EMOTIONALLY STRONG... SO GET A BESTIE TO HELP YOU APPLY THESE TIPS: else Forget emotional freedom. HERE THEY ARE

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1. FIND A PLACE OUTSIDE YOUR HOUSE WHERE YOU CAN HAVE FOOD, SHELTER , BOOKS, TV,DVD, LAPTOP BUT NO INTERNET CONNECTION

2. GIVE OUT YOUR SIM CARDS N WIPE CLEAN YOUR FONE OF CONTACTS AND MSGS

3. ENSURE YOU HAVE DOWNLOADED LEADERSHIP APPS FROM APPSTORE ON YOUR MOBILE AND VIDEOS OF SELF-MASTERY or SELF IMPROVEMENT ON YOUR LAPTOP

4. LEAVE TO THIS YOUR CHOSEN LOCATION WITHOUT INFORMING ANYONE ASIDES YOUR CLOSEST FRIEND AND HE/SHE IS NOT TO INFORM OTHERS OR TRY TO CONTACT YOU FOR AT LEAST 21 DAYS.

5. BREAK THE 21 DAYS INTO 3 DAYS EACH FOR TASKS ON THIS MISSION OF SELF INDEPENDENCE AND STUDY BOOKS AND WATCH THE VIDEOS THAT YOU HAVE DOWNLOADED ALONG THOSE LINES.

6. EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT A CHRISTIAN KINDLY STUDY THE BOOK OF PROVERBS VERY SLOWLY AND THOUGHTFULLY FOR 21 DAYS, ONE CHAPTER A DAY.

7. WRITE DOWN ALL YOUR THOUGHTS, DISCOVERIES AND DECISIONS AND WITH YOUR MOUTH RECITE THEM OFTEN.

REPEAT THESE STEPS DAILY AND AFTER 6 DAYS YOU WILL SEE HOW FREE AND LIBERATED YOU WILL ACTUALY BE MENTALLY AND PSYCHOLOGICALLY.


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kingcity:
I have been experiencing this for a while now, once I become extremely close to some person I become too emotionally attached to them, I have tried my best to stop this but its very difficult for me. The worst is when those people stop talking to me for a while I always feel empty and down. how do I control this? am a guy of few friends and I dont keep a long list of friends at a time. please nairalander help I really want to learn how to control myself

Twaci:
Make more friends...

And focus your energy on other things asides friends.

I was once like this but I learned the hard way and had to stop, almost became a loner.

Just tell yourself, "No one is irreplaceable."

truthsayer007:


1 solution: Get more friends, reach out to more people, in church, gathering, even night clubs. You will be amazed the connections and friends u can make in diff circles.

Its just like going from a simple guy with few friends and then u become a celeb, you will almost forget about your old life, and the people u used to worry about are no longer a priority.

bbmpin:
Suffering from the same problem

But mine only occurs with women

I am very mindful of who i date or share an emotional connection with

Trick i use is to avoid the person, Block the person everywhere and just let go.

kingcity:
thanks, I would have loved to try this but am a student and its impossible to isloate myself for 21days

grevotech:
OP I understand you perfectly well cause am like that.
Firstly, it seems like you can't help it. And blocking and avoiding that person/persons doesn't help cause you'd get hurt after sometime.
Secondly, You'd find it hard to make friends naturally i.e every of your friend is tied to your emotions.

What worked for me might not work for you but it's worth a trial. What i did was this;
When i start getting emotionally attached with you, i'd tell the person 'bout it (this depends on the maturity of the person cause some will use it to their advantage).
Second thing i did like someone said is to get a "best friend". Now once u get to meet someone and ur emotions sets in, talk to the person 'bout ur bestie (except u have other plans thats more that friendship). Why? Cause if the person knows u have a bestie and u know the person knows, your emotions would fail you. From time to time when u feel emotional, take a walk with a close friend. Talk 'bout it.
The major problem of this is that it makes your Jealous and it always doesn't last...

Yieldings:
You're emotionally-attached to people because you're not whole within yourself. You've to love yourself and be your own best friend, first and foremost. Build yourself up mentally: exercise, immerse yourself in your skills and hobbies or gain some if you have none, focus on your dreams and goals, become spiritual.

bbmpin:
Suffering from the same problem

But mine only occurs with women

I am very mindful of who i date or share an emotional connection with

Trick i use is to avoid the person, Block the person everywhere and just let go.

Twaci:
Make more friends...

And focus your energy on other things asides friends.

I was once like this but I learned the hard way and had to stop, almost became a loner.

Just tell yourself, "No one is irreplaceable."

@bolded...touché.

kingcity:
thanks, the best friend should be from the opposite sex?

kingcity:
I have been experiencing this for a while now, once I become extremely close to some person I become too emotionally attached to them, I have tried my best to stop this but its very difficult for me. The worst is when those people stop talking to me for a while I always feel empty and down. how do I control this? am a guy of few friends and I dont keep a long list of friends at a time. please nairalander help I really want to learn how to control myself