Hurt something will have all dealt with in one way or the other in our lives though I don't know if you have ever been there, when someone broke your heart and you sit down at 1 corner of your room and be replaying *MUNO* *-Never regret* song and this question comes in like how do I deal with this hurt because deep down is actually killing you.

There is no fast way to get through from hurt than to forgive now not later but now for instance, when you have a sore on your throat you just don't apply medication and expect it to go away, it always take a process before it will heal up.

So this bring me to a conclusion that there are three steps to deal with *hurt*

*Firstly*, you have to *Accept* that you have been hurt because that is the reality and this doesn't mean you should continue to wallow in pains,guilt and all sort because the only way you can move on is to accept that this had happened so u can be free from the burden you place yourself on.


*Secondly*,you must *Forgive*, if you ask yourself why do I have to forgive? You will discover that you don't have any reason not to because if you don't you are hurting yourself, in your virtual mind you believe the person that hurt you deserve the pain you as a person is going through but most time when we hold on to circumstances somewhere in our mind, we believe to forgive is to let go because *Unforgiveness is like a poison expecting the other person to die* because we believe if we forgive this person I let go of the control I have with this person but the reality is that you have no control but on the long run you are not controlling anyone but instead you are hurting yourself because when we refuse to forgive that person that causes us d huge pain, him or her is actually controlling our life because you are the one feeling the pain and hurt and the other party has actually moved on with his or her life and you are there thinking and hating but the truth is that u must forgive right now, though I have heard people say forgive and forget a thousand time but the reality is that you can forgive but d aspect of forgetting is a lie from d pit of hell all u need to just do is to let go and forge on.


*Thirdly*, you have to *Move on*,hold on to the future and letting it go but it will give you an insight when situations like that happens again you will know the right step to take and is actually a lesson learnt but the foolish part is when scenarios like that happens and you didn't learn from your past mistakes.

*WHEN WE SEE MEN OF CONTRARY CHARACTERS, WE SHOULD TURN INWARD AND EXAMINE OURSELVES*. Don't be quick to judge and conclude. Life is beautiful.

Just what I needed to help me see things clearly and adapt to the reality of thing's....

Shinyjay:
Just what I needed to help me see things clearly and adapt to the reality of thing's....

Na so my brother, it was when wisdom came in dat I had to face the reality of life......

oshamolomo:


Na so my brother, it was when wisdom came in dat I had to face the reality of life......

E no easy sha...In my own case I fell in love but with some one I cannot marry due to religious factors (Christian/Muslim) now the pain is becoming unbearable...worse of I think she has moved on. Anyway this article was a much needed wake up call

Shinyjay:
E no easy sha...In my own case I fell in love but with some one I cannot marry due to religious factors (Christian/Muslim) now the pain is becoming unbearable...worse of I think she has moved on. Anyway this article was a much needed wake up call

I always believe time heals, I was once in that shoe but after so many advice and encouragement from family and friends I got over it....U will get over it bro

oshamolomo:



I always believe time heals, I was once in that shoe but after so many advice and encouragement from family and friends I got over it....U will get over it bro

Like seriously bro...

Shinyjay:
Like seriously bro...

Yes o, God gat u

oshamolomo:

Yes o, God gat u

You're right bro thanks for the answer's bro