Hello people, I have this thing that has been bothering me of late. I find it so difficult dating anyone that is sluggish or slow and not neat. Not in any way praising myself but I find it difficult coping with such. I have left some relationships cos of this. I can't cope with the slow or sluggish. It's so hard tolerating it even when I try. Pls I will need some advice here. I just hope this doesn't become a problem for me. Even at work, I can't be close to you if same applies. I just hope I am fine.

We hope so too

So much nonsense on nairaland these days!

sure u re

You are neither tolerant nor patient, try to be.

@funlordjnr, something been nonsense is relative. That was very uncalled for. Guy take life easy... This just a transfer of aggression.

KANTE:
Hello people, I have this thing that has been bothering me of late. I find it so difficult dating anyone that is sluggish or slow and not neat. Not in any way praising myself but I find it difficult coping with such. I have left some relationships cos of this. I can't cope with the slow or sluggish. It's so hard tolerating it even when I try. Pls I will need some advice here. I just hope this doesn't become a problem for me. Even at work, I can't be close to you if same applies. I just hope I am fine.

Excellent, you know exactly what you like and what you can't tolerate.

In your personal life, you are allowed to have zero tolerance for anything you consider palla, palla . Socially you may have to be a tad more circumspect or tolerant. No problem here. Hope life treats you fairly . Get yours.


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I am shocked myself @funlordjnr.Its funny the way some persons react. I feel this is a forum to learn and make enquiries if need be. Hmmmmm...

vikeb:
@funlordjnr, something been nonsense is relative. That was very uncalled for. Guy take life easy... This just a transfer of aggression.

Aggression towards someone I don't know? Very funny...by the way what makes you think anything he or she reads here would make any difference to the o.p?



Some of you don't have real problems that's why you all have time to be engaging in or supporting frivolities online! He needs to go ASK A REAL LIVE MAN OR WOMAN (depending on what they are) who he or she may actually want to be involved in a relationship these questions and not some random strangers! That's how you handle relationships!

KANTE:
I am shocked myself @funlordjnr.Its funny the way some persons react. I feel this is a forum to learn and make enquiries if need be. Hmmmmm...

So even at work the company should hire staff according to your whims and caprices?


In your personal life it's fine to be judgemental, after all I also have high standards in my own life but don't take it into the public space! Learn to get along with all kinds of people (sluggish, dirty, brilliant or sexy) and start learning about TOLERANCE!


If not marriage may be a long thing for you!

@funlordjnr, I have nothing against Ur opinion and advice here but everything against Ur choice or words'NONSENSE'. for God's sake it's not right however u see it and moreover he has a right to ask whatever he feels here. I strongly feel the tolerance we advocate should start with us.

This world is made up of you and a whole lot of other ppl with different characters. Because this ppl ain't u they are bound to b different So u have to learn to tolerate. If Not u'd end up alone.

Thank Rich4

You are my kind of person.

What do you mean my sluggish and slow?


It is not "sexy" for a woman to always be in a hurry. It is not always about gra-gra. As a matter of fact, majority of the super fast gra-gra guys can only be found on the streets. Certain professions don't really need the gra-gra kind of persons to achieve optimal effectiveness. For instance, if you were a nurse, I wouldn't allow you give me an IV, so you don't burst my veins out. I want that slow, calm and sluggish hands. You know what I mean?


Check the dictionary meanings of these words:

1. Efficient
2. Effective


You also need to respect certain personalities. Yours may be due to adrenaline rush. Some are carved to be calm. Please exercise calmness sometimes. I know a woman, out of her impatient and love to see things get done as fast as possible got her face and hands burnt while trying to show her maid how it is done. A time will come when people will leave you to do your things in your own way and alone.