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Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by Nobody: 2:54pm On Dec 05, 2016
it’s time for us to face up to an ugly truth: it’s not just men who can be murderers and violent, abusive attackers of the opposite sex.


You could argue, or pray, that Sharon Edwards is a monstrous one-off. Yet cases of female brutality against men – and other women – seem to be becoming more prevalent.

Women murdering men is still mercifully rare. In 2014/15, 19 men died at the hands of their partner or ex-partner, compared with 81 women. However, the number of women convicted of perpetrating domestic abuse has more than quadrupled in the past ten years, from 806 in 2004/05 to 4,866 in 2014/15.

Male domestic violence charity The ManKind Initiative say that for every three victims of partner abuse, two will be female and one will be male. According to the Office for National Statistics, 2.8 per cent of men – 500,000 individuals – suffered partner abuse in 2014/15.

While it's important to state that more women than men suffer domestic abuse in Britain (4.5m women versus 2.2m men over the age of 16, according to the ONS), there remains a theory that men under report their experiences due to a culture of masculine expectations.

Staggeringly, a recent report from liberal Canada, where men are encouraged to talk about their feelings, showed that men are more likely to suffer spousal violence, with 342,000 women and 418,000 men suffering abuse in the preceding five years to 2014.

Could the same be true in other countries – like the UK? It’s possible: the ManKind Initiative say only 10 per cent of male victims will tell the police, as opposed to 26 per cent of women.

Men tend to under report attacks
Men tend to under report attacks
What's more, violence against men by women isn’t limited to partner abuse.

Last September, Sarah Sands stabbed her neighbour, Michael Pleasted, 77, to death after learning he had 24 previous convictions for sex offences against minors. Despite committing a "frenzied attack", she was sentenced to only three and a half years for manslaughter.

Last July, Tom Borwick, 27, the son of a Tory MP, was viciously beaten and left unconscious by a “girl gang” in a Leicester Square KFC. Then, to add insult to his serious injuries, he was ejected by security who refused to help him.

In January, Shadiya Omar was given a suspended prison sentence after she stabbed Justin Lloyd, also 22, in the eye with her stiletto shoe after a bust-up in a Manchester taxi queue. Hundreds blasted the lenient sentence as “a joke,” pointing out Omar would surely have been jailed if she were a man.

Warning: this video contains adult language:


Such stories shatter the false narratives that only women get battered, that men are never victims, and that women never attack.

But politically the system is stacked against men. While ending violence against women and girls (VAWG) has rightly been a governmental priority, there is not only no specific strategy to end violence against men. Attempts to modify the VAWG strategy to include male victims have been actively resisted.

As a direct consequence, while last week Nicky Morgan pledged another £80 million to end VAWG, the ManKind Initiative – one of only two UK charities that specifically helps male victims of domestic violence – will close its helpline in May as it couldn’t raise a comparatively modest £45,000.

By so clearly intimating that victims don’t matter if they are men, it can only further add to male victims’ reluctance to come forward.


We should unite in condemning all perpetrators of partner abuse, men and women, and treat all victims, men and women, with equal compassion.

Mark Brooks, Chairman of the ManKind Initiative, says: “Domestic abuse is a crime against an individual, not a crime against a gender. Those that hold that view are clinging to an old-fashioned, politically correct view of the world that has no place in the 21st century when equality for all victims solely based on need has to be the answer.

"Taking a gendered approach to domestic abuse is only acceptable when both genders are included”.

We desperately need to de-gender the domestic violence debate to help smash society’s last great taboo: female violence against men.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/thinking-man/why-female-violence-against-men-is-societys-last-great-taboo/

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Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by Nobody: 2:56pm On Dec 05, 2016
cc 5minmadness,harddon,OmaniPadmeHum,seun,ishilove
Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by Nobody: 2:57pm On Dec 05, 2016
kevinberry:
cc 5minmadness,harddon,OmaniPadmeHum,seun,ishilove

Especially Against Women!!!!
Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by Nobody: 2:59pm On Dec 05, 2016
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Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by Nobody: 2:59pm On Dec 05, 2016
kevinberry:
it’s time for us to face up to an ugly truth: it’s not just men who can be murderers and violent, abusive attackers of the opposite sex.


You could argue, or pray, that Sharon Edwards is a monstrous one-off. Yet cases of female brutality against men – and other women – seem to be becoming more prevalent.

Women murdering men is still mercifully rare. In 2014/15, 19 men died at the hands of their partner or ex-partner, compared with 81 women. However, the number of women convicted of perpetrating domestic abuse has more than quadrupled in the past ten years, from 806 in 2004/05 to 4,866 in 2014/15.

Male domestic violence charity The ManKind Initiative say that for every three victims of partner abuse, two will be female and one will be male. According to the Office for National Statistics, 2.8 per cent of men – 500,000 individuals – suffered partner abuse in 2014/15.

While it's important to state that more women than men suffer domestic abuse in Britain (4.5m women versus 2.2m men over the age of 16, according to the ONS), there remains a theory that men under report their experiences due to a culture of masculine expectations.

Staggeringly, a recent report from liberal Canada, where men are encouraged to talk about their feelings, showed that men are more likely to suffer spousal violence, with 342,000 women and 418,000 men suffering abuse in the preceding five years to 2014.

Could the same be true in other countries – like the UK? It’s possible: the ManKind Initiative say only 10 per cent of male victims will tell the police, as opposed to 26 per cent of women.

Men tend to under report attacks
Men tend to under report attacks
What's more, violence against men by women isn’t limited to partner abuse.

Last September, Sarah Sands stabbed her neighbour, Michael Pleasted, 77, to death after learning he had 24 previous convictions for sex offences against minors. Despite committing a "frenzied attack", she was sentenced to only three and a half years for manslaughter.

Last July, Tom Borwick, 27, the son of a Tory MP, was viciously beaten and left unconscious by a “girl gang” in a Leicester Square KFC. Then, to add insult to his serious injuries, he was ejected by security who refused to help him.

In January, Shadiya Omar was given a suspended prison sentence after she stabbed Justin Lloyd, also 22, in the eye with her stiletto shoe after a bust-up in a Manchester taxi queue. Hundreds blasted the lenient sentence as “a joke,” pointing out Omar would surely have been jailed if she were a man.

Warning: this video contains adult language:


Such stories shatter the false narratives that only women get battered, that men are never victims, and that women never attack.

But politically the system is stacked against men. While ending violence against women and girls (VAWG) has rightly been a governmental priority, there is not only no specific strategy to end violence against men. Attempts to modify the VAWG strategy to include male victims have been actively resisted.

As a direct consequence, while last week Nicky Morgan pledged another £80 million to end VAWG, the ManKind Initiative – one of only two UK charities that specifically helps male victims of domestic violence – will close its helpline in May as it couldn’t raise a comparatively modest £45,000.

By so clearly intimating that victims don’t matter if they are men, it can only further add to male victims’ reluctance to come forward.


We should unite in condemning all perpetrators of partner abuse, men and women, and treat all victims, men and women, with equal compassion.

Mark Brooks, Chairman of the ManKind Initiative, says: “Domestic abuse is a crime against an individual, not a crime against a gender. Those that hold that view are clinging to an old-fashioned, politically correct view of the world that has no place in the 21st century when equality for all victims solely based on need has to be the answer.

"Taking a gendered approach to domestic abuse is only acceptable when both genders are included”.

We desperately need to de-gender the domestic violence debate to help smash society’s last great taboo: female violence against men.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/thinking-man/why-female-violence-against-men-is-societys-last-great-taboo/

ESPECIALLY AGAINST WOMEN!!!

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Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by Nobody: 2:59pm On Dec 05, 2016
OmaniPadmeHum:


ESPECIALLY AGAINST WOMEN!!!

Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by Nobody: 3:00pm On Dec 05, 2016
kevinberry:
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ESPECIALLY AGAINST WOMEN!!!
Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by Nobody: 3:00pm On Dec 05, 2016
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ESPECIALLY AGAINST WOMEN!!!
Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by Nobody: 3:02pm On Dec 05, 2016
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Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by HARDDON: 12:25am On Dec 06, 2016
The instances u sited r foreign, in Nigeria, gurls gang rape guys. He wud keep cUming untIII dere is more sparm n he start releasing blood!

No one questions, no one reports! Even d ones that were bold enuf to report, popo just laughs @ them n ask thm if they didnt enjoy it
That infact, they r looking for gurls that wud rape them


Based on d foregoing, n d punishment melted if the case was d other way round , im forced to douth it is man's world
Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by eyinjuege: 10:53am On Dec 06, 2016
Violence/assault on anyone should be punished...

There are times you see some small 50kg women punching some giant of a man- a gentleman.
The beet thing to do is to leave such a relationship, otherwise be ready to be assaulted with a knife next
Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by 5minsmadness: 3:56pm On Dec 06, 2016
kevinberry:
cc 5minmadness,harddon,OmaniPadmeHum,seun,ishilove
5minsmadness.

I had a case recently of a man being raped by a woman but have been reluctant to bring it up as a topic. It seems this women empowerment issue has brought out the devil in some of our ladies. Will open the thread later as I am lead. But it appears men should start learning to complain too.
Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by Nobody: 6:20pm On Dec 07, 2016
kevinberry:
it’s time for us to face up to an ugly truth: it’s not just men who can be murderers and violent, abusive attackers of the opposite sex.


You could argue, or pray, that Sharon Edwards is a monstrous one-off. Yet cases of female brutality against men – and other women – seem to be becoming more prevalent.

Women murdering men is still mercifully rare. In 2014/15, 19 men died at the hands of their partner or ex-partner, compared with 81 women. However, the number of women convicted of perpetrating domestic abuse has more than quadrupled in the past ten years, from 806 in 2004/05 to 4,866 in 2014/15.

Male domestic violence charity The ManKind Initiative say that for every three victims of partner abuse, two will be female and one will be male. According to the Office for National Statistics, 2.8 per cent of men – 500,000 individuals – suffered partner abuse in 2014/15.

While it's important to state that more women than men suffer domestic abuse in Britain (4.5m women versus 2.2m men over the age of 16, according to the ONS), there remains a theory that men under report their experiences due to a culture of masculine expectations.

Staggeringly, a recent report from liberal Canada, where men are encouraged to talk about their feelings, showed that men are more likely to suffer spousal violence, with 342,000 women and 418,000 men suffering abuse in the preceding five years to 2014.

Could the same be true in other countries – like the UK? It’s possible: the ManKind Initiative say only 10 per cent of male victims will tell the police, as opposed to 26 per cent of women.

Men tend to under report attacks
Men tend to under report attacks
What's more, violence against men by women isn’t limited to partner abuse.

Last September, Sarah Sands stabbed her neighbour, Michael Pleasted, 77, to death after learning he had 24 previous convictions for sex offences against minors. Despite committing a "frenzied attack", she was sentenced to only three and a half years for manslaughter.

Last July, Tom Borwick, 27, the son of a Tory MP, was viciously beaten and left unconscious by a “girl gang” in a Leicester Square KFC. Then, to add insult to his serious injuries, he was ejected by security who refused to help him.

In January, Shadiya Omar was given a suspended prison sentence after she stabbed Justin Lloyd, also 22, in the eye with her stiletto shoe after a bust-up in a Manchester taxi queue. Hundreds blasted the lenient sentence as “a joke,” pointing out Omar would surely have been jailed if she were a man.

Warning: this video contains adult language:


Such stories shatter the false narratives that only women get battered, that men are never victims, and that women never attack.

But politically the system is stacked against men. While ending violence against women and girls (VAWG) has rightly been a governmental priority, there is not only no specific strategy to end violence against men. Attempts to modify the VAWG strategy to include male victims have been actively resisted.

As a direct consequence, while last week Nicky Morgan pledged another £80 million to end VAWG, the ManKind Initiative – one of only two UK charities that specifically helps male victims of domestic violence – will close its helpline in May as it couldn’t raise a comparatively modest £45,000.

By so clearly intimating that victims don’t matter if they are men, it can only further add to male victims’ reluctance to come forward.


We should unite in condemning all perpetrators of partner abuse, men and women, and treat all victims, men and women, with equal compassion.

Mark Brooks, Chairman of the ManKind Initiative, says: “Domestic abuse is a crime against an individual, not a crime against a gender. Those that hold that view are clinging to an old-fashioned, politically correct view of the world that has no place in the 21st century when equality for all victims solely based on need has to be the answer.

"Taking a gendered approach to domestic abuse is only acceptable when both genders are included”.

We desperately need to de-gender the domestic violence debate to help smash society’s last great taboo: female violence against men.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/thinking-man/why-female-violence-against-men-is-societys-last-great-taboo/
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Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by purple3091: 7:47pm On Dec 11, 2016
while it's true that women do commit violence,the fact remains that men perpetuate all forms of violence,as is shown in history(patriachy),present(still patriachy but less than previous) and for some more future....an exception doesn't make a rule,meaning the most common violence from one gender to another is from men to women...,i mean even the books show men having violence towards women than the other way,am sure if the violence towards women from men is reduced the left violence would be of men towards each other whereby even the negligible violence women commit to men,is still insignificant.

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Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by Nobody: 9:03pm On Dec 11, 2016
purple3091:
while it's true that women do commit violence,the fact remains that men perpetuate all forms of violence,as is shown in history(patriachy),present(still patriachy but less than previous) and for some more future....an exception doesn't make a rule,meaning the most common violence from one gender to another is from men to women...,i mean even the books show men having violence towards women than the other way,am sure if the violence towards women from men is reduced the left violence would be of men towards each other whereby even the negligible violence women commit to men,is still insignificant.
so you are saying violence towards men from women doesn't count an should not be fought against,because men do same too ?
Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by purple3091: 7:20am On Dec 12, 2016
kevinberry:
so you are saying violence towards men from women doesn't count an should not be fought against,because men do same too ?
no,am saying that the most violence is from men to women and men and if that violence ceased to exist/was stopped,the remaining violence would be negligeble
Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by Nobody: 7:27am On Dec 12, 2016
purple3091:
no,am saying that the most violence is from men to women and men and if that violence ceased to exist/was stopped,the remaining violence would be negligeble
so if violence against women from men isnt stopped,men should not speak out,ok,never knew this is how women think concerning violence towards men,this is the height of man hating and in equality towards the male gender,have you even pause to think that any of ur sons,uncles even ur father might be a victim someday,will u say to them,that they deserve what happening to them because same happens to women too...

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Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by purple3091: 7:57am On Dec 12, 2016
kevinberry:
so if violence against women from men isnt stopped,men should not speak out,ok,never knew this is how women think concerning violence towards men,this is the height of man hating and in equality towards the male gender,have you even pause to think that any of ur sons,uncles even ur father might be a victim someday,will u say to them,that they deserve what happening to them because same happens to women too...
read correctly,i simply stated the facts,if you don't like the facts just say so,instead of over-reacting gosh!.....
Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by KevinDein: 8:26am On Dec 12, 2016
purple3091:
read correctly,i simply stated the facts,if you don't like the facts just say so,instead of over-reacting gosh!.....
facts? What facts? Facts that you cooked up in the kitchen undecided. If so where's the "sauce"

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Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by dangotesmummy: 8:31am On Dec 12, 2016
HARDDON:
The instances u sited r foreign, in Nigeria, gurls gang rape guys. He wud keep cUming untIII dere is more sparm n he start releasing blood!

No one questions, no one reports! Even d ones that were bold enuf to report, popo just laughs @ them n ask thm if they didnt enjoy it
That infact, they r looking for gurls that wud rape them


Based on d foregoing, n d punishment melted if the case was d other way round , im forced to douth it is man's world
are you sure you're saying the truth or exaggerating.how can a man start releasing blood after sperm during gang raping. I'm not justifying rape it's only a question
Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by Nobody: 8:43am On Dec 12, 2016
Men, especially African men are always bragging about how strong they are emotionally and mentally and will never take bullshyte from any woman.

Women see and experience abuse and violence from men that's why we are all speaking out against it. If men feel they go through the same and are not ashamed to say it, then we will all speak up against it.
Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by Nobody: 8:56am On Dec 12, 2016
Joavid:
Men, especially African men are always bragging about how strong they are emotionally and mentally and will never take bullshyte from any woman.

Women see and experience abuse and violence from men that's why we are all speaking out against it. If men feel they go through the same and are not ashamed to say it, then we will all speak up against it.

It's hard no man will come out and say he was raped or abused by a woman because both men and women will make a mockery out of him calling him a weakling. There are so much abuse coming from women to men and most times its emotonal abuse not always physical. As long as human exists there will always be violence. To get rid of violence is to get rid of humans.
Re: Why Female Violence Against Men Is Society's Last Great Taboo by purple3091: 12:12pm On Dec 12, 2016
KevinDein:
facts? What facts? Facts that you cooked up in the kitchen undecided. If so where's the "sauce"
i stated the fact:men are the major cause of all violence towards all people and also fact number 2)the gender trasition of violence from one gender to another is obviously from men to women,that's why the system is called patriachy...am done,have a good day / night....tired of repeating the same thing,primary kids know to a grown up ....../ am out

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