People, this has always been what comes to my mind everyday and i will like to hear your opinion about it.
Most couples tend to love each other till death do them apart but one thing is certain someone has to die first.

The wife would want the husband to go first because she want the property or will to be in her favour and belong to her alone ( but most will prefer to say "for her children").
while the man will want the woman to die first so that he can become youth again and live life while it last.
Which ever way it goes death is inevitable, but who would you prefer to die first and state your reason.
thank you

LOL!

Err, I would like to go first. That way he can do the mourning.

i will like to go first, cos i will be lost without her

husband now!he can go anytime from 60 years, so i can take care of the children while he is gone

Well, this decision or contribution is very personal.

My Father once told me that he prayed about it, he wanted to die first, so that someone will be there to mourn him, fortunate that was what happened.

It is my desire also, that I die be4 my wife.

I will leave that to the Almighty Father to decide.

who ever time is up.

Memunah:

husband now!he can go anytime from 60 years, so i can take care of the children while he is gone

Don't forget that by then ur kids will be grown ups, with kids even.

kellorah:

Don't forget that by then your kids will be grown ups, with kids even.

seems like this person have some other agenda after the age of 60 for her husband, i hope the husband will be careful.

Ridiculous question.

SeanT21:

Ridiculous question.

Lol . . .

weird question.

whoever God decides he wants FIRST

deeplo:

People, this has always been what comes to my mind everyday and i will like to hear your opinion about it.
Most couples tend to love each other till death do them apart but one thing is certain someone has to die first.

The wife would want the husband to go first because she want the property or will to be in her favour and belong to her alone ( but most will prefer to say "for her children".
while the man will want the woman to die first so that he can become youth again and live life while it last.
Which ever way it goes death is inevitable, but who would you prefer to die first and state your reason.
thank you

That is pretty dumb reasoning - might be true for young couples or those who are unhappily married.  For older couples and those who have been together for years the last thing that woman is thinking about is getting her hands on property and the man thinking of being young again.

Do you know what it's like to lose someone that close to you?  It is the kind of heartbreak and pain you wouldn't wish on anyone.  It's like being stuck in a nightmare you can't see the end of.  It's not the kind of thing you get over in a hurry either.

Not all men re-marry or relive their youth when their spouse dies, and many women are quite happy to leave the family home because the memories are too painful. In fact, most of the time they are shadows of their former selves.

N101:

That is pretty dumb reasoning - might be true for young couples or those who are unhappily married.  For older couples and those who have been together for years the last thing that woman is thinking about is getting her hands on property and the man thinking of being young again.

Do you know what it's like to lose someone that close to you?  It is the kind of heartbreak and pain you wouldn't wish on anyone.  It's like being stuck in a nightmare you can't see the end of.  It's not the kind of thing you get over in a hurry either.

Not all men re-marry or relive their youth when their spouse dies, and many women are quite happy to leave the family home because the memories are too painful. In fact, most of the time they are shadows of their former selves.

Inasmuch as you have a good point, you will agree that the dude has some point too, marriages these days are full of funny characters and it is all like a movies, how i wish we can read what goes on in the mind of the other half in the home.

Fhemmmy:

Inasmuch as you have a good point, you will agree that the dude has some point too, marriages these days are full of funny characters and it is all like a movies, how i wish we can read what goes on in the mind of the other half in the home.

@Fhemmmy thanks u , some ppl think others are not as wise as them.
we all know that is more than pain when you lost someone close not to talk of your better half. death is ineveitable but someone must go first.

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agathamari:

old topic

Old topic with new character on a daily occourence

Fhemmmy:

Inasmuch as you have a good point, you will agree that the dude has some point too, marriages these days are full of funny characters and it is all like a movies, how i wish we can read what goes on in the mind of the other half in the home.

No one knows what's in anyone's mind, whether they're married to them or not.  However I find it annoying when people can trivialise the loss of a spouse down to "what is in it for me".  When a spouse dies, unless someone is particularly bitter and/or resentful, those matters are the last thing on people's minds.  Maybe it's on the mind of the rest of the family who weren't in the relationship.

In any case, I probably don't watch those movies or hang with those people.  Not everyone is in a marriage for fraudulent reasons.  There may be some people who do it, but in my experience they are not in the majority.

N101:

No one knows what's in anyone's mind, whether they're married to them or not.  However I find it annoying when people can trivialise the loss of a spouse down to "what is in it for me".  When a spouse dies, unless someone is particularly bitter and/or resentful, those matters are the last thing on people's minds.  Maybe it's on the mind of the rest of the family who weren't in the relationship.

In any case, I probably don't watch those movies or hang with those people.  Not everyone is in a marriage for fraudulent reasons.  There may be some people who do it, but in my experience they are not in the majority.

Yeah, in a real marriage, not all the "yeye" union that people are having these days, not the "for better for stay, for worse, for waka"

Fhemmmy:

Yeah, in a real marriage, not all the "yeye" union that people are having these days, not the "for better for stay, for worse, for waka"

If some of the marriages I've read about on NL are anything to go by, I wonder why they didn't just buy the film rather than get married! 

Death is not an easy thing to deal with most of the time, even after taking the vows we have no idea when it will become real.  This is quite true at the moment with a friend and the family of a late work colleague's family who are living this situation.

it doesn't matter whoever God call first but like i always say if i go first and she gets with somebody else, i will hunt her down lol

N101:

If some of the marriages I've read about on NL are anything to go by, I wonder why they didn't just buy the film rather than get married! 

Death is not an easy thing to deal with most of the time, even after taking the vows we have no idea when it will become real.  This is quite true at the moment with a friend and the family of a late work colleague's family who are living this situation.

I will not be too quick to say that, cos some of the people on NL are just clowns, they just say what they feel like saying and what they do at home, i am sure is different, cos some pple just saying stuff that makes u to wonder, what kinda man/woman sleeps under same roof with them.
But then, different strokes.

Fhemmmy:

seems like this person have some other agenda after the age of 60 for her husband, i hope the husband will be careful.

You gathered this ^^^ just by me merely stating an obvious fact?! Interesting. . . . .

kellorah:

You gathered this ^^^ just by me merely stating an obvious fact?! Interesting. . . . .

Well, if it doesnt fit, we might just quit.

That's going to be a hard one. What I do know for sure is I'll spend 120 years before I die, so if she can beat that then I sure will die before she does.

^^ Lol

No one knows!

donjon:

No one knows!

Even those that knows will like to switch it . . .

i will leave it for baba GOD

^^^ Lol
No Nija man or woman wanna hear about death

^^^ Let some terrorist say he's going to kill Gordon Brown and see if he'll step out to his jet at all.

And this question was posted because?