pocohantas:
Sadly, this is what some Nigerian women go through. When they complain, people accuse them of being fat or tell them to focus on their kids.
I can count the Nigerian men that are actually that good-looking physically, yet they still demand the sex as their right it is na. No one has asked them to go and work-out.

*You can keep convincing him to see a therapist.
*Get a sex machine, only you can work that vagina like you want. You'll be amazed at how he'll become invisible after you achieve just one orgasm from a sculptured dil.do.

To be honest, I'll sometimes I wake up shocked to see things and how most Nigerians ate OK with deceit and double standards. The man obviously has some problem with his performance and puts his ego first.. "Babe, I'm not enjoying this and you didn't last one minute" and first thing a grown man would say is "are you saying I'm not a man??" Like WTF is your problem..you're dysfunctional. While I don't really advice married woman to use a Love Machine here, cos she definitely wants her man back and back in form, I think she should hold on a little while she tries to convince him on getting help.. Some idiots here asking if she's fat or doesn't dress well or don't use perfume are men like this and have serious problem.. A man shouldn't be lasting less than 2 mins.. If he is, he definitely has problems and should seek help. She clearly wants her man back and I hope he can do something about it and if not, she should send me her address, I'll hook her up with a king size drogo since one man can't do his job a Love Machine would

Sike:
You are not attractive to your husband anymore. Period!

And the problem is coming from him.. Even if a bîtch is fugly, one minute is or less than two is a sure result that a man needs help.

LordIsaac:
It has nothing to do with love...she is too demanding on bed. You see, run away from women with insatiable sexual appetites. Life is not for sex alone. Concentrate your time on evangelism, he will come around!

It's either you're way still young or just ignorant about marriage and many things that makes it work.. Our brother needs help and should acknowledge it.. Except if he's too stressed and its the last thing on his mind but his marriage shouldn't be so far from his priorities

davidif:


Let's think this through. There are billions of men on this earth and you want to tell me that there are no guys like that?

There are no absolutes when it comes to human sociocultural and physiological tendencies so it's a possibility, reason I said it was a new one to me. I'm sure you'll agree certain factors influence a low sex drive.

miredia:
Will pornography actually result to total abstinence from having sexual relations with his spouse? defective expulsion perhaps. I think there is a psychological detachment from his partner quashing his sexual interest.

Excessive pornography can cause a man to abstain from all sex with their spouse. The issue is that he can only get proper stimulation from the way in which he masturbates. Being with his spouse does not offer the same fantasy or arousal. It is a learned behavior and response, that is the result over exposure to a constant stimuli. Imagine a man who abstained from sex until the age of 36, yet he was stimulated by pornography for years. He will not be satisfied with his wife because he is not accustomed to a different style of sexual satisfaction. I suspect this is the reason the op's husband pursued her.

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miredia:
The downside of these gadgets you guys are advocating for is it becomes addictive, leaving her partner less desirable.

you're right but it's still better than cheating... cheating too becomes even more addictive to the extent of embarking on an endless search for satisfaction. Self service is still better, at least you'll be in charge and drive yourself as you wish to the dreamland

The lady has to find a way to convince her hubby to see a doctor together so as to rule out physical cause for the inability to perform...I say this cuz from the way she explained his issue,it could be caused psychologically..If ur confidence to perform as a man has been reduced by an experience or event in ur past it could permanently stand in ur way anytime the occasion calls..Voices in ur head start telling you can't perform at all or for long hence causing u to panic and become anxious hence affecting the physical response and making the man unable to get a strong erection or last long in bed..

The solution if this is psychological is to relax the mind when its time to initiate intercouse so as to get rid of anxiety and boost confidence in ability to get the job done very well..There are some ways to do that but the best is to breath steadily to control the pulse and to avoid getting too excited..It takes a little time and practice to master this but if u do as a man,believe me when I say u can only ejaculate if u want to..u can go for much longer and many rounds...He should at least try this..I hope it helps..

buygala:
There are two possibilities here:

He just developed the sex issues recently and is yet to come to terms with that fact..

Or

He has always had those sex inadequacies. ..but he arranged himself with some sex enhancers in the early stages of the marriage, because he wanted to take your virginity like a boss, and enjoy the tight ermmmm...ermmm while the tightness lasted

And there is the possibility that having used all those burantashi on you, and kids having been produced and your vagina having expanded significantly, he no longer sees any reason to continue risking his overall health just to satisfy you ... in any case, he may think since he married you a virgin, you wouldn't know any better and will see his 2-minute sex stunts or no stunt except kids are needed as normal for married peeps

My advice:

Please cheat on him so that your sanity can be maintained .... being starved of sex is worse than being starved of food...it messes up the mind in a million ways... ..... and no, hoping and praying won't help you ... You have to take the bull by the horn and help yourself ...at your age, your sex hormones are still pretty strong. ..it would be courting disaster to unreasonably resist them.

Ignore him, get some good sex outside since he doesn't even want to acknowledge there is a problem with his abuna, much less take steps towards solving the problem and fulfilling his conjugal duty towards you

And no..getting some good sex outside won't make you a worse mum...as for being a worse wife to your hubby, he deserves it anyway....but if You can help it, still be a good wife ...but please find a way to cheat incognito. ..many are doing it and still have functional families who have no idea of what is going on

keep your advice away from another person family matter! Focus on your own!

Madame find out what your p Or your husbands P is! Then find a solution to it! Cheating is wrong no matter the justification

buygala:
There are two possibilities here:

He just developed the sex issues recently and is yet to come to terms with that fact..

Or

He has always had those sex inadequacies. ..but he arranged himself with some sex enhancers in the early stages of the marriage, because he wanted to take your virginity like a boss, and enjoy the tight ermmmm...ermmm while the tightness lasted

And there is the possibility that having used all those burantashi on you, and kids having been produced and your vagina having expanded significantly, he no longer sees any reason to continue risking his overall health just to satisfy you ... in any case, he may think since he married you a virgin, you wouldn't know any better and will see his 2-minute sex stunts or no stunt except kids are needed as normal for married peeps

My advice:

Please cheat on him so that your sanity can be maintained .... being starved of sex is worse than being starved of food...it messes up the mind in a million ways... ..... and no, hoping and praying won't help you ... You have to take the bull by the horn and help yourself ...at your age, your sex hormones are still pretty strong. ..it would be courting disaster to unreasonably resist them.

Ignore him, get some good sex outside since he doesn't even want to acknowledge there is a problem with his abuna, much less take steps towards solving the problem and fulfilling his conjugal duty towards you

And no..getting some good sex outside won't make you a worse mum...as for being a worse wife to your hubby, he deserves it anyway....but if You can help it, still be a good wife ...but please find a way to cheat incognito. ..many are doing it and still have functional families who have no idea of what is going on

fantastic advice but u failed to give her the antidot if she is caught!

Your husband might be asexual. If you don't know what that is, I'll suggest you look it up and see if it fits.

buygala:
There are two possibilities here:

He just developed the sex issues recently and is yet to come to terms with that fact..

Or

He has always had those sex inadequacies. ..but he arranged himself with some sex enhancers in the early stages of the marriage, because he wanted to take your virginity like a boss, and enjoy the tight ermmmm...ermmm while the tightness lasted

And there is the possibility that having used all those burantashi on you, and kids having been produced and your vagina having expanded significantly, he no longer sees any reason to continue risking his overall health just to satisfy you ... in any case, he may think since he married you a virgin, you wouldn't know any better and will see his 2-minute sex stunts or no stunt except kids are needed as normal for married peeps

My advice:

Please cheat on him so that your sanity can be maintained .... being starved of sex is worse than being starved of food...it messes up the mind in a million ways... ..... and no, hoping and praying won't help you ... You have to take the bull by the horn and help yourself ...at your age, your sex hormones are still pretty strong. ..it would be courting disaster to unreasonably resist them.

Ignore him, get some good sex outside since he doesn't even want to acknowledge there is a problem with his abuna, much less take steps towards solving the problem and fulfilling his conjugal duty towards you

And no..getting some good sex outside won't make you a worse mum...as for being a worse wife to your hubby, he deserves it anyway....but if You can help it, still be a good wife ...but please find a way to cheat incognito. ..many are doing it and still have functional families who have no idea of what is going on

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gracetie:
I am 25 years old and my husband is 32. We have two kids together. our sex life was perfect until after our first baby. My husband doesnt touch me anymore. I always have to initiate sex each time im in dare need of it. He has the problem of weak erection and premature ejaculation too.on one occasion I mentioned to him that we really need to see a doctor he said "are you now saying im not a man again"

I said "'no babe you are a man but in the last 6months we've had sex only once and you didnt last up to a minute, there s no need to blame anyone lets just see a doctor. He cut out the idea and we have been staying like that. I give him good and healthy meals. I dress sexy in the house. I doubt if he s cheating cos i have access to his phone and we are always together. he doesnt keep late nights and doesnts answer starnge calls. I think its a health issue but his ego wont allow him sort out issues.

I have reminded him many times that i am only 25 and he married me a virgin. How can i proudly say that in 5 years of married we have had sex not more than 10 times and lucky two of the times resulted in pregnancies. Please advice on what I should do. I am soo tempted to cheat and satisfy myself. But I love my husband. I wish our sex life can go back to what it used to be.

10 times in 5 years dts unacceptable

Ie onces in 6months, who can accept dt he must step it up to at least once a month or 12 times a year

But madam sex is nt all about peneration he shld use his hand and tongue to satisfy u pending when his weak attention can be sorted out.

D way u emphasis ur virginity I hope u r still attractive after 2 kids?

Buygala, u funi. dat she shud cheat on her hubby n praying wont help,hmmm. please just go 4 intimacy gadgets, or even something natural like lets say unripe Plantain, or cucumber. before u do dat seek ur husband's consent, make i hear say him no grab u there and den, and gv u sex he hasn't given u in years.

sexymoma:
try watching some kamasutra with him
my sister jos download some in your phone, since you guys do stay together most times
relax on his chest then jos play it... if he says "what is this" tell him you are learning some skills
he s your hubby not a stranger... act anyhow.

tell him some sexy words even before night comes
like.. babe my nipples itches , my boobs looks fairer than my face
u go hear "let me see"

True talk

call me 08143696761. I will help u solution

Icaretoo:


Abeg live that thing...which kind smell were no turn am off prior to dere first baby?? Is d smell also d reason for d quick explosion

Lol. You still can't rule out the fact that smell is a huge turnoff

So these ladies forming up and down also love sex like this?

Most ladies will be like "The only thing guys want from a lady is sex, sex, sex, sex, and more sex"
Abeg you ladies should stop giving guys the impression that you don't like sex, else get ready for sex starvation.

buygala:
There are two possibilities here:

He just developed the sex issues recently and is yet to come to terms with that fact..

Or

He has always had those sex inadequacies. ..but he arranged himself with some sex enhancers in the early stages of the marriage, because he wanted to take your virginity like a boss, and enjoy the tight ermmmm...ermmm while the tightness lasted

And there is the possibility that having used all those burantashi on you, and kids having been produced and your vagina having expanded significantly, he no longer sees any reason to continue risking his overall health just to satisfy you ... in any case, he may think since he married you a virgin, you wouldn't know any better and will see his 2-minute sex stunts or no stunt except kids are needed as normal for married peeps

My advice:

Please cheat on him so that your sanity can be maintained .... being starved of sex is worse than being starved of food...it messes up the mind in a million ways... ..... and no, hoping and praying won't help you ... You have to take the bull by the horn and help yourself ...at your age, your sex hormones are still pretty strong. ..it would be courting disaster to unreasonably resist them.

Ignore him, get some good sex outside since he doesn't even want to acknowledge there is a problem with his abuna, much less take steps towards solving the problem and fulfilling his conjugal duty towards you

And no..getting some good sex outside won't make you a worse mum...as for being a worse wife to your hubby, he deserves it anyway....but if You can help it, still be a good wife ...but please find a way to cheat incognito. ..many are doing it and still have functional families who have no idea of what is going on

Bad advice

Not more than 10 times in 5 years?
That's approximately twice in a year. My dear sister, I expect you to have cry out long before now or probably get use to it.
BTW, you should realize that 85% of men lost their sex drive after marriage due to family upkeep problems you girls put before them. Get him sex enhancing drug and smuggle it into his food or drink if you know he won't take it orally.

generation of vipers. data is too cheap and nairaland is free.

The ops husband is battling with low self-esteem, and she is the only one that can help him out of it!
Op, since he is not willing to go to the clinic, I will suggest that you get some herbal medicine, or some aphrodisiac fruits, Google and YouTube can help here, blend them in some drink for him.
No one can help him except you. Cheating should not be an option.

Tjohnnay:

Which kind English b dis na

Lol..read am again..this na original English!!

pocohantas:

Idris Elba is a hunk!
How many of such do we have in Nigeria? Yet we don't see women using looks as an excuse to cheat, maybe other excuses but not looks.

She should get a very big dil.do. Something that would fill up all the spaces her husband couldn't.
It's better than nothing.
Can't you see he's hurting his wife with his useless ego?
Can a woman do this and get away with it? Ordinary 9mths pregnancy, we see them opening thread, asking how they'll cope. Then their kinds arrive with the side-chick advice.

That man is just too selfish, if him prick is not working very well at least try learning how to be good with his fingers and hands. And by that I mean leaning how to give full body massage with his hands, he can also try two or three fingers in her vaginna and follow it up with some cunnilingus. Except she's the type that doesn't like that then she has a problem herself

gracetie:
I am 25 years old and my husband is 32. We have two kids together. our sex life was perfect until after our first baby. My husband doesnt touch me anymore. I always have to initiate sex each time im in dare need of it. He has the problem of weak erection and premature ejaculation too.on one occasion I mentioned to him that we really need to see a doctor he said "are you now saying im not a man again"

I said "'no babe you are a man but in the last 6months we've had sex only once and you didnt last up to a minute, there s no need to blame anyone lets just see a doctor. He cut out the idea and we have been staying like that. I give him good and healthy meals. I dress sexy in the house. I doubt if he s cheating cos i have access to his phone and we are always together. he doesnt keep late nights and doesnts answer starnge calls. I think its a health issue but his ego wont allow him sort out issues.

I have reminded him many times that i am only 25 and he married me a virgin. How can i proudly say that in 5 years of married we have had sex not more than 10 times and lucky two of the times resulted in pregnancies. Please advice on what I should do. I am soo tempted to cheat and satisfy myself. But I love my husband. I wish our sex life can go back to what it used to be.

i can recommend someone you can talk to.. Trust me, you won't regret it!

Go ahead, cheat, your head no correct

Catalin:
Men love sex, for you husband to suddenly lose interest in having sex with you means that he might be cheating.

You need to confirm if your husband is cheating.

This one has problem, he need to see the doctor before it is too late.unfortunately his ego will get on his way. My dear u need to inform his family because u can't solve it on ur own.

gracetie:
I am 25 years old and my husband is 32. We have two kids together. our sex life was perfect until after our first baby. My husband doesnt touch me anymore. I always have to initiate sex each time im in dare need of it. He has the problem of weak erection and premature ejaculation too.on one occasion I mentioned to him that we really need to see a doctor he said "are you now saying im not a man again"

I said "'no babe you are a man but in the last 6months we've had sex only once and you didnt last up to a minute, there s no need to blame anyone lets just see a doctor. He cut out the idea and we have been staying like that. I give him good and healthy meals. I dress sexy in the house. I doubt if he s cheating cos i have access to his phone and we are always together. he doesnt keep late nights and doesnts answer starnge calls. I think its a health issue but his ego wont allow him sort out issues.

I have reminded him many times that i am only 25 and he married me a virgin. How can i proudly say that in 5 years of married we have had sex not more than 10 times and lucky two of the times resulted in pregnancies. Please advice on what I should do. I am soo tempted to cheat and satisfy myself. But I love my husband. I wish our sex life can go back to what it used to be.

Go healthplus or mediplus pharmacy, buy vigrx plus and let him take 1 morning and 1 at night. Its a natural men enhancement with scientific backing.
You will testisfy in few days.