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Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by sodsak: 8:59pm On Jan 19, 2017 |
Seven things you must avoid in your waleematu-nikkah Written by Soodiq bn Mas'uud الحمد لله والصلاه والسلام على رسول الله أما بعد: 1)Israaf You want people to eat Amala,iyan,fufu, porridge,kebsha, Chinese rice,hmmm!!Sha don't do israaf(wastage) وَكُلُوا وَاشْرَبُوا وَلَا تُسْرِفُوا إِنَّهُ لَا يُحِبُّ الْمُسْرِفِينَ eat and drink but waste not by extravagance, certainly He (Allah) likes not Al-Musrifun (those who waste by extravagance). Surah Al-Araf, Verse 31: 2)Wedding pictures Must you show the world u have a beautiful spouse?Or u think keeping the wedding pictures to keep memory alive is a nice and dandy idea? Picture this hadith in your mind first, ﺇﻥ ﺃﺷﺪ ﺍﻟﻨﺎﺱ ﻋﺬﺍﺑﺎ ﻋﻨﺪ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻳﻮﻡ ﺍﻟﻘﻴﺎﻣﺔ ﺍﻟﻤﺼﻮﺭﻭﻥ The most severely punished people on the Day of Resurrection would be the image-makers. [Bukhaari and Muslim] 3)Music Planning on playing and inviting "Ayeloyun" to entertain your guests with Islamic Music? Think twice. Islam has no music. " ﻟﻴﻜﻮﻧﻦ ﻣﻦ ﺃﻣﺘﻲ ﺃﻗﻮﺍﻡ ﻳﺴﺘﺤﻠﻮﻥ ﺍﻟﺤﺮ ﻭﺍﻟﺤﺮﻳﺮ ﻭﺍﻟﺨﻤﺮ ﻭﺍﻟﻤﻌﺎﺯﻑ .. “Among my ummah there will certainly be people who permit zinaa, silk, alcohol and musical instruments…” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari) 4)Tabarruj Looking good on the day of your nikkah is a good idea,but if you must make up,then use niqob وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ وَلَا تَبَرَّجْنَ تَبَرُّجَ الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ الْأُولَى And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance, Surah Al-Ahzab, Verse 33: 5)Inviting only the rich This will make your nikkah food to be the worst ever,bcs the needy people (poor) are prevented from it ﺷَﺮُّ ﺍﻟﻄَّﻌَﺎﻡِ ﻃَﻌَﺎﻡُ ﺍﻟْﻮَﻟِﻴﻤَﺔِ ﻳُﻤْﻨَﻌُﻬَﺎ ﻣَﻦْ ﻳَﺄْﺗِﻴﻬَﺎ ﻭَﻳُﺪْﻋَﻰ ﺇِﻟَﻴْﻬَﺎ ﻣَﻦْ ﻳَﺄْﺑَﺎﻫَﺎ , “The worst food is the food of a wedding banquet in which the rich are invited but the poor are left out.” Source: Sahih Muslim 6)Ar-riyaau My nikkah must be the talk of the town,it must have no similitude!!! That's riyaau(show-off),why not do it to please the lord of the world? ﻳﻘﻮﻝ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﺰ ﻭﺟﻞ ﻷﺻﺤﺎﺏ ﺫﻟﻚ ﻳﻮﻡ ﺍﻟﻘﻴﺎﻣﺔ ﺇﺫﺍ ﺟﺎﺯﻯ ﺍﻟﻨﺎﺱ : ﺍﺫﻫﺒﻮﺍ ﺇﻟﻰ ﺍﻟﺬﻳﻦ ﻛﻨﺘﻢ ﺗﺮﺍﺀﻭﻥ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻟﺪﻧﻴﺎ ، ﻓﺎﻧﻈﺮﻭﺍ ﻫﻞ ﺗﺠﺪﻭﻥ ﻋﻨﺪﻫﻢ ﺟﺰﺍﺀ ؟ Allah the Exalted will say to them (who show off), on the Day of Resurrection when the people are being rewarded for their deeds: Go to those whom you wished to show off in the world and look for your reward with them.” (Musnad Ahmad Hadith 23119) 7)Imitating the kuffar Using wedding gown, engagement ring,free mixing with opposite sex,kissing in public ,are all imitations of the kuffar and the prophet says َ ﻣَﻦْ ﺗَﺸَﺒَّﻪَ ﺑِﻘَﻮْﻡٍ ﻓَﻬُﻮَ ﻣِﻨْﻬُﻢ ْWhoever imitates a people is one of them.’” (Narrated by Abu Dawood, hasan sahih) أقول قولي هذا أستغفر الله لي ولكم 42 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by Shafiiimran99: 11:57am On Jan 20, 2017 |
Tru talk |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by Bimpe29: 11:57am On Jan 20, 2017 |
Alhamdulillah for Islam. Islam is not just a religion, but a way of life that avails one of mercy and blessing of Allah. 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by slye(m): 11:59am On Jan 20, 2017 |
Jazakallahu khaeran brother 1 Like |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by triplemmm3(f): 11:59am On Jan 20, 2017 |
Jazakumullah khairan, May Almighty Allah guide us aright 1 Like |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by jabdulhamid97(m): 11:59am On Jan 20, 2017 |
alhamdulilah ftc |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by missioner(m): 12:03pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
salaam! the hadith you quoted in no3 seems to justify music. |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by fistonati(m): 12:07pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
many ppl will not comment & or share on this as ir doesn't show what they like to see. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by aisammy4: 12:08pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
sodsak: Alhamdullillah, I have added to my knowledge today. I've always wanted my wedding to be the talk of town, King Sunny Ade to be the artist of the day and my Bride want to look best with the most expensive wedding gown with lost of golds and full make-up. But know i know. This topic is teaching us that humility is key to everything we do. May Allah guide us all. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by Abujabir24: 12:11pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
Sisters hope you're getting this? I just hope I can convince my wife to be on how to avoid this. Most especially pre-wedding pictures. I hate that scenario. Brothers please how can I boycott this without hurting her? 2 Likes |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by hammak1993(m): 12:11pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
Image is different from picture. what the hadith's is referring to is those that draw images, just like the artist and sculptor that creates images. Just like the people of Noah that create images of their pious ones after their death. Islam doesn't condemn pictures, the only condition pictures are not allowed, is when using pictures of sheikhs as necklace and other aspect which can leads to 'shrik' (associating partner with God) Allahu Allam 14 Likes |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by Adebash01(m): 12:11pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
IDINA SIRATALIMUSTAQIMOH |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by brightlomo(m): 12:24pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
true talk, may Almighty Allah give us His idayah. |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by webincomeplus(m): 12:26pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
missioner:Look at other things on that list, and then tell me if they are by default permissible in Islam. What the Prophet meant by that statement if that those acts are haram, but some people will make them permissible, thereby going against Allaah's legislation. 1 Like |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by webincomeplus(m): 12:27pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
hammak1993:Is this your opinion or that of the Prophet or his companions? A picture is a picture, regardless of whatever was used to make it. Take heed. 3 Likes |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by busar(m): 12:29pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
Nice piece! |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by ayenny02(m): 12:40pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
Alhamdulilah I am a Muslim,i don't need to copy others in their religion. Allah has perfected his religion and it is a way of life for Muslim to follow 2 Likes |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by Nobody: 12:51pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
jazakumllahi khairan |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by budosky(m): 12:58pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
webincomeplus: ولهذا، فئتنى رقم هاتفك (nairaland)يا أخى المبرك، أريد أن أسألك شئ فى خارج نيرلند |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by Lukay99: 1:00pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
Bimpe29: Jazakumullah khairan 2 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by Lukay99: 1:01pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
sodsak:Jazakumullah khairan, 1 Like
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Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by coveredchic(f): 1:01pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
hammak1993:Thank you for pointing this out. I've been speechless. 1 Like |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by coveredchic(f): 1:06pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
What about the hadith that says a wedding should be joyous and merry? 1 Like |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by youngsahito(m): 1:27pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
quite educative |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by prettymina(f): 1:38pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
Jazakumllah khairan brother,my nikhai is coming up soon,I just wish I can avoid all this but my family won't allow me.am the youngest daughter in my house,they want to support me.yet they won't allow me do my nikhai the way I want...am just confused right now |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by webincomeplus(m): 1:41pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
budosky:Your statement wasn't completely clear to me. But here's my phone number: 08062357604 (since I got that part). |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by webincomeplus(m): 1:42pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
coveredchic:You don't have to engage in all these prohibitions to make your wedding joyous and merry. People hold interesting and enjoyable waleemahs that involve none of these. |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by webincomeplus(m): 1:48pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
prettymina: Try to involve some elderly people who have understanding of the Deen, especially your relatives or people we'll known to your parents. Get them to talk to your parents, so they can realize that Islam forbids those things and they don't necessarily have to include them as part of the celebration. Don't forget to pray to Allaah to soften your parents' hearts. But if your parents insist, your last resort is to disapprove of those things with your heart. 2 Likes |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by 2016easy2017: 1:50pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
hammak1993:u wrong.brother. islam condems both pictures and images.either 2 or 3 dimensional. pls islam is not a religion where you talk if you dont have knowledge.the holy prophet s.a.w dusted of 2 dimensional images inside the ka'aba with water and cloth,cursing the culprits while cleaning. now can u clean images ,using water and clothe?so pls brother.lets search for knowledge |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by 2016easy2017: 2:04pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
missioner:assalam alaikum brother. yes islam permits music in some times like marriage. and with conditions music among women only.as the holliest creature suggested to Aisha, the music would be with 'DUFF BEATING' only. but due to excessiveness, scholars then condemed it totally 1 Like |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by Bimpe29: 2:37pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
Lukay99:Waaya kum |
Re: Seven Things You Must Avoid In Your Waleematu-nikkah by saheedbadmus(m): 3:04pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
Salamualaikum OP, I won't accept your number 2 and 3 write up... the prophet never condemned wedding pictures okay so stop saying it as if the prophet condemned picture what the hadith talked about is all those making sculptures and co and not photograph..why won't you take picture when having nikai, in other way round you are not supposed to av a video record of your wedding then... |
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