SINGLE PARENTING AND CHILD ABUSE. (Part 1)

By Duru Kizito

Yesterday morning, around thirty minutes gone pass the hour of seven, your sincerely was heading to world bank, to a friend's house. I was in a tricycle(keke) and all was going smoothly until we came to Control; Assumpta cathedral junction, I saw a group of people struggling with themselves to catch a glimpse of whatsoever the object was, my curiosity grew and I decided to alert from the three tyred vehicle, I went closer to the arena and behold I saw a beautiful new born kid, carefully wrapped in a wrapper and placed beside the gutter, I couldn't believe my eyes, yes I have heard stories of such barbaric and inhumane jingoism but never had i witnessed its occasion.

I stood there watching the innocent angel, who appears to be enjoying the cool morning air with the beams of smile on her/his face, i asked people around and they told me that they have contacted a motherless babies home, with the news i left to my initial location.

When I boarded another keke, My co passengers were raining curses on the lady and the mother of the baby for being wicked and evil, but i was engrossed with the thought of what the supposed lady passed through as a single parent, I thought about the bastard whose sperm fathered the child and his stupidity and cowardice not to stand and be counted when it mattered most.

Yes, I for one think that if the guy had not presumably ran away, if he had sticked around the lady and helped her to carry the cross, things wouldn't had degenerated to wishing the baby death by exposing him/her to dangers associated with the streets. I wondered within me what made the lady to do away with a child she harboured for nine solid months, so many questions bothered my mind, but to my mind, i believe that the societal fear of being mocked as a single mother and the ignominious and erroneous tagging of her baby, a bastard, overwhelmed her and herein I write to support all single and proud parents. Killing is an offence against Nature, Child abuse is a crime.

My friend, Akin asked how sweet is it to hold a new born
baby and feel the pride and joy it
brings?

A joyous time it is when a child is
born but to some it is not.
Remember, whether you're happy or
not, this is the beginning of another
task filled journey, a journey that will
take your time especially, to impart morals,
discipline and values.
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Parenting itself is not an easy task,
and if you are a single parent, it becomes
tougher to raise your
child alone.
Bringing up children alone can be
very stressful I must admit.
If you are going through such now,
then I think you will find this article helpful.
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There are several reasons why one
can become a single parent: death, divorce,
rape, ignorance, exuberance, sinful pleasure,
abandonment and
so on.
My dear single ladies, you need to
close up now or be left alone to
dance to the music of raising a
child alone.
Most men are after you for sex so
use your head.
If you see a Man/Woman that's
ready to be serious with you, don't
take them for granted.
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Not every woman who is a single
parent is as a result of sinful
pleasure! Have you thought about rape?
And even if it is sexual pleasure, is
she not worthy to receive even if its
a little praise for keeping the baby rather
than terminating a life?
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Christians should please take note,
this is common in the household of
faith, stigmatization I call it! Our Lord Jesus
Christ it in Luke 5:32 and Mark
2:17 that "I have not come to call
righteous people, but sinners, to repentance."
So? Why not get close and help the
little woman or even hear her out
than to pass judgment and criticize!
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Let me quickly say kudos to the ones
that were abandoned during pregnancy,
raped or became a single mom as a
result of ignorance or fornication
(but now repented).
I want to let you know you’re the
strongest woman living, because
you had the opportunity to abort or
terminate the baby but you didn’t,
you decided to give life to that fetus
and bring him/her to the world to
make impact too, I really celebrate
you so much, you are a role model.
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Stop seeing yourself as an outcast,
you are a role model, a strong, bold
and beautiful woman, take time to celebrate
yourself.
Love and celebrate yourself:
This is the very first step, you have
to stop seeing yourself as a minor
but a major, a victim but a victor.
Appreciate every bit of yourself,
settle with God, give yourself a treat,
occasionally take time to relax
especially to sleep and eat good food.
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Do some physical exercises, hang
out with friends that still cares and
if none go alone and enjoy yourself.
All these is to reduce the mental
stress and avoiding some health
issues that comes with depression
and sadness.
Make new friends if need be and
take time to practice your hobby,
do what makes you happy.
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Remain Positive To Yourself.:
Do not because of the situation
lose hope of rising again and also speak
negative words into the life
of your ward. 'The thief comes only
to steal and kill and destroy; I have come
that they may have life, and
have it to the full.' John 10:10.
Be positive even when all things around are
negative, your child is watching you.
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Never raise your child with anger or bitterness
lest you transfer that trait
into their life permanently.
This will terribly affect their life and
future.
Be honest with your kid(s), look
beyond the present situation to a
better future.
In case you are incapable of doing
all these, please feel free to ask for help
from people who has passed through such
stage, it will help
more.

DO GOOD AND AVOID EVIL, it is the first Law of Nature.

Photos..

*Use a condom -male & female available
*use plan B pill aka morning after pill
*safe period calculator
*withdrawal method (odikwa very risky sha)
*contraceptive pills/birth control pills
*family planning
*legalise abortion
etc etc


Just do something to stop this fuckery of bringing a child to live a miserable life in this already miserable world.