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|Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by OYOGREAT(m): 5:24pm On Mar 05, 2017|
WAKE UP TO YOUR DUTY MARRIED WOMEN!
I don't know why some married women don't wake up to their responsibilities in marriage until it is too late. Some women wouldn't just do the needful until there is serious competition with a mistress. Why wait till your husband start having affairs before running helter-skelter?
You should be the first in everything to your husband before one tiny girl shows interest. No matter the games she wants to play on your husband, she should meet you up and doing, fully in your duty! Forget about sex, that is not the first thing I want to talk about!
RESPECT! Be the first to show it! Some women never used the word "sir!" for their husbands in their entire life. They say afterall, "he's my best friend!" so what? He is also your best husband, leader and father so give him that respect! I'm not asking you to use sir 24/7 but there are ocassions that demand you treat that man like the king he really is. If you do not respect him and another lady lavishes it on him, he will fall for her.
ADMIRE HIM: Why do you think he works hard, bought car, built a beautiful house or go on extra miles for you? He wants to be admired, simple!
Admire that man! Some wives say "what for? Is he doing what his mates are doing? He doesn't have a good job, does not give us money for food, we live in one room apartment and he is ugly and dirty so what is there to admire?" Aaaah My Sister! A lot! Admire the fact that he married you, you should still be single and in your father's compound. Admire the fact that he works hard daily to give you what he has. Admire him for being there for you, enduring your weaknesses and choosing to stick to you no matter what. And no one is ugly. There is a part of your husband that is handsome. Focus on it and admire him like you are seeing him for the first time. He will cherish you for it.
PRAISE HIM: A man can kill himself for any woman that praises him. Sadly, most women fail woefully in this area and affairs are on the increase on daily basis. About 90% of married men now have affairs outside marriage.
A married man can't do without praise. He needs it to stay "alive" in marriage. Praise your man like you are going on competition and you are because there is someone waiting for you to fail so she can take over.
Some women stupidly see their husbands like an idiot who has no special need in marriage. They think they can treat him the way they like and he will stay faithful forever. You are all aware that some Man of God are now having affairs like crazy! No man can stay happily married to a woman who sees nothing good in him or who is bitter, critical, non-appreciative, abusive, disrespectful and rude!
Praise works wonders!
SEX: This is not the first. Some women are gurus in bed but fail woefully in other areas and wonders why the man still have affairs. You will hear, "I've done everything, why does he still have an affair?" How many things did you do? Only sex? Good food? Is that the only thing he needs to enjoy marriage? Show him compassion, mercy, tenderness, forgiveness, admiration and praise and you will see your marriage turn around by 360°.
However, sex is very important to a man, he doesn't joke with it! So please, don't deny him. Some women say it's not their fault, their men don't ask for sex you better ask! Why must he be the only one asking for sex? Initiate sex! Dress to "kill" him! Be seductive! Know the part of your body he likes most and use it to seduce his brain out!
If you are busty! Good asset! Wear push-up bras, leave some mighty cleavage and keep strolling around him. Sit beside him, bend in front of him, serve him food with your cleavage in view and don't let him rest until his assignment in the bedroom has been fully carried out. If your asset is the bum, thigh or legs, wear eye popping bum shorts and keep rotating around him, he should get the message.
Send him sexy messages at work and "unload" him when he comes back. Don't turn him on without off loading him, a man must off load! You won't be happy if he does that on his secretary! Touch him and ask, pull him close, kiss him, and take initiative. That man will never notice another woman and will make you his number one woman for life!
It's high time we put full stop to adultery. "A wise woman builds her house" and take proper care of her family .Take a very good care of your husband to keep him faithful forever. Use it and your marriage will never be the same again. God bless you.
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by pocohantas(f): 5:30pm On Mar 05, 2017|
Serious competition from MISTRESS?
Okay...they'll read and learn.
It's okay to do these things for ones husband, but the least of reasons should be for fear of a MISTRESS.
When a man cheats
Poster 1: Do you dress sexy? Are you overweight, lose weight. Wear red pant and bra. Have sex with him.
Poster 2: Pray for him.
Poster 3: Madam it seems you nag a lot, men hate nags.
Poster 4: A man that will cheat would cheat.
Poster 5 quotes poster 4: Feminist!!!
Poster1: You can never satisfy women! A woman that can cheat, can kill her husband...
Poster 2: Wives of these days are oloshos, except our mothers.
Poster 3: Just send her back to her father's house, are you sure the kids are yours?
Poster 4: Talk to your wife, maybe there was a void.
Poster 5 quotes poster 4: only a woman will type this. Olosho!
Una wehdone o!
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|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by bukatyne(f): 5:48pm On Mar 05, 2017|
Are you implying that men are simpletons who cannot make concrete decisions?
LOL! @ competition from mistress.
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by byvan03: 5:51pm On Mar 05, 2017|
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by slyng(m): 5:59pm On Mar 05, 2017|
But seriously ... I tink they said ADULTery is for ADULTS. Abi?
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by ifyan(m): 6:24pm On Mar 05, 2017|
Kai! She de here
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by ifyan(m): 6:29pm On Mar 05, 2017|
True but to all corners.
Op get ready for them ( feminist) .
Prepare your sword and shield
Hmm hmm the elders have spoken
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by MizAijay(f): 6:51pm On Mar 05, 2017|
Oh my goodness!!! Another misogynist had to express himself. A man cheats, it's the woman's fault. A woman cheats, it's the woman's fault. How much more can women take in this life?
Cheating and adultery is a planned process and also a choice. Telling women what to do so that their men won't cheat on them gives the impression that men are animals that have to be tamed and I totally disagree with this notion. Men are humans with brains and consciences. A man who won't cheat on his partner won't cheat. And there are certainly good men out there that don't need their wives to call them 'Sir' or walk about naked for them to remain faithful and loyal. It's all about decision making sir. Enough said.
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|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by amokeme(f): 9:01pm On Mar 05, 2017|
Husband= God's gift to women
1. Respect; So sir now equals respect in marriage? Why do I fee the OP is a yoruba person. Like the saying goes "an average yoruba man can survive on "respect"
2. Admire him; This one is even funny. So he didn't buy a house or working hard for his selfactualization but he is doing all that for his wife to "admire" him Nah.. I don't need a man with such mentality in my life Dan Allah!
3. Praise; Didnt know 90% of men cheat because of this lol, you need to have a personal experience on how a mistress/side chick talks to her married lover. you will know the real defination of being rude anyways don't worry, oya wives in the house, you guys should start doing praise and worship
4. Sex; I think this is the only point that comes close to an advise.
You points are valid but I find your no.1-3 explanation highly disturbing
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|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by OYOGREAT(m): 10:25pm On Mar 05, 2017|
Definitely you won't agree with the true message of the year. Better heed to keep your house peaceful.
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by cococandy(f): 3:31am On Mar 06, 2017|
The first few lines did it. No need to read further
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|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by lepasharon(f): 4:10am On Mar 06, 2017|
What a Monkey.
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|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by Nobody: 7:30am On Mar 06, 2017|
@op, I concur. I long for the good old days where women only spoke when spoken to, and had to eat their meals in the kitchen with the children.
I actually mean this.
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by Abiagirl777(f): 11:38am On Mar 06, 2017|
nawaoo,you sure say you well so?
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by UIA04(f): 4:55pm On Mar 06, 2017|
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by Nobody: 5:00pm On Mar 06, 2017|
This OP is biased. I'm a guy...and in won't want a woman putting up a desperate effort to make sure I don't stray. I just want her to be sensible and up her game, to know I've got needs, I'm human and above all I'm naturally inclined to be kind...she should NEVER take me for granted. I love her for God's sakes. But if a lady starts misbehaving cuz she perceives I'm nice I myt just shut her out and carry my "niceness" elsewhere
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|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by Nobody: 6:44am On Mar 07, 2017|
UIA04:Hardly. I meant every word.
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by Dyt(f): 6:50am On Mar 07, 2017|
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by Acidosis(m): 7:07am On Mar 07, 2017|
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by Acidosis(m): 7:12am On Mar 07, 2017|
When they should have opened a new thread to explain how they (wives) want to be treated, they go about condemning the OP on simple issues some women effortlessly do in their homes.
What's ediotic about this post for crying out loud?
Some women ehn! even those that cook 5 times a day for their hubby join in the condemnation.
Only God knows the number of homes that will crumble this year due to idio.tic comments on Nairaland. Some girls will read this now and assume it is wrong to treat their man in the right manner. Some girls will see these ediotic comments and assume it is wrong to seduce one's husband, unknowingly to them that some are currently seducing their colleagues and crush at work.
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by Nobody: 8:18am On Mar 07, 2017|
Why would a responsible man big in a mistress?
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|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by omoharry(f): 3:14pm On Mar 07, 2017|
BoboYekini:you are soooooooooo archaic..tufiakwa!!
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|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by omoharry(f): 3:33pm On Mar 07, 2017|
Acidosis:what about thread on how men can be good husbands to their wives. what about thread about how men can be faithful to their wives amid various challenges....what about thread for men to be be responsible and be supportive to their wives especially when she is over burdened with so many issues in her life..what about thread on how men can be the best husbands as they can be..what about that? the only thing i see in African marriages especially Nigeria is selfishness...while you treat this women like trash you still want them to become angels over night and worship the ground you walk because she is a robot who is devoid of feelings..this is the reason why most Nigerian marriages are experiencing disharmony because the women are frustrated and sad.The op is bias and closed minded.this is a stupid thread set out to massage the egos of unfaithful husbands in this forum. I still believe that when both married couples are faithful and respect each other..there is no challenges that can not be solved together.and it involve work and patients from both parties.such couple have value for what they have and would never sacrifice it at the alter of a 5 minute pleasure..this is a stupid thread.
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|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by Acidosis(m): 3:46pm On Mar 07, 2017|
You will only see what you want to see. A lot of thread addressed the issues you raised.
You've already concluded that we have a lot of unfaithful husbands on this forum.. Who made you the judge?
How did you even arrive at that conclusion? Are there no faithful husbands on Nairaland? Why don't we leave this thread for such men? Why conclude that the thread is stup!d?
You lots are the selfish folks if you ask me... You will hardly see men complain about any thread that promotes an ideal way to treat the women. It is always issue when such threads focus on men. Why?
99.9% of men on Nairaland do not have issues with taking care of their wives. However, the reverse is always the case when women like you read the word "cook", or "clean". Why is this always happening?
I have been on Nairaland since 2010 and I have never seen any man post such senseless complaints.
This thread is simply harmless. I have never seen any man brag or hype himself for his inability to take care of his wife. Such men mostly feel so ashamed to even speak about it. But for you women, it seems as though the best way to attract likes is to discourage cooking, discourage washing; use the word 'slave' or 'low self-esteem' on any woman that does any of the above. Issues that shouldn't even be heard, you folks come online to brag about it.
This trend is shameful, and it can only get worse. A lot of men are already opting out of this institution called marriage. At the end of the day, it is you women who eventually 'manage' whatever life throws at you.
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by pocohantas(f): 4:03pm On Mar 07, 2017|
Diary of a pained black man
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|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by omoharry(f): 4:27pm On Mar 07, 2017|
Acidosis:Most Nigerian women do not shy away from their basic responsibilities( these is what we were brought up to know) which is to keep the home front running..our problems start when the man feels he has be sidelined because the woman is too busy working, looking after the home;children and him inclusive..without even lifting a finger to assist her to reduce the burden on her..which he will eventually use as an excuse the start cheating on her with a younger girl whose body is still firm and unblemished from child birth and making his wife miserable, and sad..then these men will still come and preach on how woman should do a vigil for him to remain faithful to her...who does that? and you guys expect this women to still take it hook line and sinker and pretend nothing has happened.there is nothing as bad her unfaithfulness..
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|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by HaneefahRN(f): 4:47pm On Mar 07, 2017|
It would be cool to have your daughters live such a life.
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by Nobody: 5:14pm On Mar 07, 2017|
Trash. And even if some women don't mind doing these things the problem is a lot of the men whining over it don't deserve it, what are you doing on your part to be worthy of it? Still trash sha lol
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|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by Acidosis(m): 5:21pm On Mar 07, 2017|
I still don't understand the uproar from the women folk.
The attack on the OP is unjustifiable.
A lot of men are alive to their responsibilities when it comes to taking care of their wives. Child birth isn't even enough reasons for these complaints. No sane man in this current dispensation will purposely demand dozens of kids. A lot men, including me, are OK with 2.. That's a significant shift from what obtained 20-30 years ago.
I don't think that's too much to attract the complaints. Many men only get tired when women fail to keep up with the fake live they lived while dating. If makeup is what got your husband's attention, better be ready to continue. One or two children shouldn't stop you from making up.
Most of the time, it is not always about LOOKS. Petty things like adoration, respect, attention can CHARM a man forever. That's the point OP tried to make. It's an all encompassing strategy to make your husband love you forever.
I'm not unaware of the fact that men must respect their bodies and stay true to their wives. But this thread isn't about men. I'm also not unaware that after all these, some men will go all the way to commit adultery. That's the sad reality that confronts us today, but then again, cheating cuts across both gender.
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by Nobody: 5:33pm On Mar 07, 2017|
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|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by Acidosis(m): 5:46pm On Mar 07, 2017|
|Re: Wake Up To Your Duty Married Women! by bukatyne(f): 10:16pm On Mar 07, 2017|
Open a thread aND tell women what you think makes a man tick so the home sweet.... interesting
Open a thread and tell women what you think makes a man tick so he won't run after mistresses/ you won't have competition . ... then you are looking for uproar.
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