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~ Prepare For Marriage Not Wedding

You do not prepare for wedding, you prepare for marriage." Ladies these days get so motivated when they attend wedding and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy.

Wait!!! It is not just the wedding oh. The wedding is just one day. After the wedding WHAT NEXT?

It is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like or can purchase it. Ask questions -Where is this shoe made from? (Background) -What's the size (Values) -How much (His/Her interest) -How long will it last (His/Her Character) -Who made it? (Is she/He of the same faith This is compatibility) -Will it match me? (This is whether he/she love you and will accept you the way you are.

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~ General Counseling

Question: How can someone break a non working relationship that has lasted for 7 years? – Anonymous.

Honestly speaking, when did you start the relationship? Was it during your secondary school or you were just friends but not in a marriage bound relationship at all and you never knew it. Has this brother formally proposed to you? What is keeping you from getting married? Is money the problem? Can you afford to add another seven years to your dating relationship and become the 21st century John and Rachael? Please call your guy or lady to define the relationship now? You both are not getting young at all, so do it soon.
To end a non working relationship, you must take the initiative because this guy or lady may have no plans of leaving you. Tell her or him what is on your mind. Don’t be scared, intimidated or threatened by him or her; do what you must or continue to live in torture. Don’t wait for him or her to get tired and get lost because it will never happen. The sooner you both face the inevitable, the happier you will be. Part in peace: If you started off as true friends you will still have the friendship intact, even if the relationship goes away. If you need further assistance whatsapp. 08170399634

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Question: "What should I do if I cannot decide whom I should be dating?"

Answer: The first, and best, advice is to pray about it. God will give wisdom and guidance if you ask for it.

The first question to ask is whether the potential spouse is devoted to God. If he/she is not, that person should not be considered for a potential spouse. Consider what marriage would be like with this person. Are your beliefs close enough that you can agree to teach your children the same doctrines? This is of great importance.

For men, it’s important to look at what a religious wife is supposed to be. wife of noble character” is like. She is hard working, generous and charitable, strong, and wise. You may not be able to find all of these traits in one person, but these are desirable traits.

You will not find a “perfect” person with all of these qualities, but God will let you see if someone you are considering a relationship with is striving to be pleasing to Him. Just as with any other big decision in life, relationships should be treated with caution, wisdom, and handled with discernment and much prayer

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~Characteristics Of Spouse You Should Avoid Marrying

FOR MEN
1. The bittered woman (the heart broken)
2. The selfish woman
3. The materialistic woman
4. The party freak
5. The spoilt brat
6. The attention seeker
7. The gossip
8. The commitment phobia
9. The disrespectful woman, manner less and who has no regard for anyone
10. The flirty woman

FOR WOMEN
1. An ill mannered man
2. A selfish man
3. The "commander" or control freak
4. Fine boy or face boy husband
5. Those with bad habits that won't let go
6. A divorcee who does not cater for his children
7. The arrogant man
8. The fabricator
9. No Religion of any kind
10. Mama's boy (still tied to his mother apron)
11. The Party guy
12. The fool
13. "I know it all" type
14. The rebel
15. The "commitment phobia" type.

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~ Planning To Get Married

Marriage is ordained by God, loved by men and uniqued by women, marriage needs proper care and readiness. Most singles now adays plan for wedding and not marriage it's therefore necessary to prepare adequately for marriage. It's an institution you can never graduate from, but you keep and upgrading. The bottom line is that. Every intended singles ready to get married should learn the following:

#1. Work on characters, physical appearance and general lifestyle
#2. Read books on marriage
#3. Be prayerful and more religious
#4. Should understand the differences between a man and woman. Because they aren't the same. Men are Mars women are Venus.
#5. Learn the secrets of successful marriage..
#6. Learn partners love languages
#7. Show understand that marriage is an extension of a relationship. So relationship must be extend to family members of husband or wife
#8. Love must be renewed annually
#9. Sex life must be worked on or improved
#10. Source of income must be monitored.

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Question : How can I know if I am in love?"

Answer: Love is a very powerful emotion. It motivates much of our lives. We make many important decisions based on this emotion, and even get married because we feel that we are “in love.” This may be the reason about half of all first marriages end in divorce. true love is a decision. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

It can be very easy to “fall in love” with someone, but there are some questions to ask before deciding if what we are feeling is true love.

#1. First, if you are considering giving your heart and emotions to one person, you should ask yourself if you are willing to put that person above all other people and to put your relationship second only to God.

#2. Another thing to consider is whether or not the loved one is a good candidate for being a marriage partner. Is he/she able to give his/her time and energy to building the relationship into a marriage that will last a lifetime? There is no measuring stick to determine when we are truly in love with someone, but it is important to discern whether we are following our emotions or following God's will for our lives. True love is a decision, not just an emotion. True love is loving someone all of the time, not just when you feel “in love.”

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~Signs of Spiritual Bondage Affecting Your Marital Life

The spirit controls the physical if the devil has blanked your life spiritually.. It will manifest physically and you will be an empty vessels. Marriage is plan by God he delight joy in it, he instituted it. Many singles are suffering today because their Marital life had been tempered with the so many devilish spirits who is now controlling their destiny. Below are the symptoms that shows your under Marital bondage

#1. You dream of having sex with a stranger every night
#2. A strange man or woman appears to you in your dreams and play together and then promise each other
#3. You always dreamed of yourself been naked
#4. You can't maintain a relationship for just 1year without breaking up
#5. People resent you for no reason, you don't understand why they break up with you..
#6. You will start the relationship so well and along the lines it will crumble
#7. Your parents had one time cursed you
#8. You are always fighting in your dreams but defeated
#9. You always experience promise and fail
#10. No man or woman has ever accepted you in a relationship
#11. You are always troublesome and instituting idea that drives those who love you away
#12. You always dream feaces on your body.. Its mean rejection.
#13. You are looking beautiful or handsome and yet you can't just get married and be happy.
#14. Your attitudes is driving people away without your knowledge.
#15. You are over 30yrs and you cant even predict that you will marry next year.

Don't keep quiet. It's high time you seek for divine help..pray your way through and God will deliver. Don't think it's normal it's not...

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~ Act of forgiveness

If you want to travel far and fast, then keep your envies, jealousness, unforgiveness, revenges and fear behind you. Life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation. Think about it. It's therefor anything as pathetic to behold as a person who has harbored a grudge and hatred for many years.

*Benefits of Forgiveness*

#1. It releases you and create freedom.

#2. It gives you long and fruitful life

#3. You sleep well at night, because you have forgiven everyone before going to bed

#4. You experience personal peace and your life is secured

#5. It's better to forgive and forget than to hate and remember

#6. Forgiveness releases blessings

*Consequences of unforgiveness*

Unforgiveness blocks blessings, kills dreams, and allows affliction in one's life, separate man from God and also create a restless life time.

Inconclusion : Forgiveness won't change the past, but it will enlarge the future. Don't burn bridges. You will be surprised how many times you have to cross over that same river '.

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~ Common Mistakes Singles Make #1

Marriage is unique, Marriage requires decision, but it's all about destiny and just love. Failure to understand that marriage is destiny has led to major challenges with singles. Decision on who to marry plays 99% in your failure or success in life. Your destiny is the reason why you were born and your purpose on earth. Marriage helps you to achieve your divine destiny.. Important key points to note

#1. Anyone you marry can either be part of your destiny or against it.
#2. Anything anyone does outside his or her destiny is bound to fail.
#3. The marriage is opened for the enemies to attack or put under bondage
#4. Do not make irrational Marital choice
#5. Pray first to know who you are meant to be.
#6. Know your destiny
#7. Identify your gifts, talents areas of expertise.

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~Ten Ways To Develop A Relationship To Marriage *1*

You can develop your relationship to Marriage within few months if you are doing the right thing and you are with a right partner. Relationship requires persistency and commitment and passion which drives it to success. If you have been dating several ladies and gentlemen and you have never gotten a marriage proposal, you are not doing the right or you are not doing enough to spark your relationship to marriage

Here are recommended Ten things you should do

#1. Be resourceful and helpful, you need to be useful, and not sexful
#2. Look ways to improve your relationship and introduce new ideas that will make your partner love you more
#3. Believe in your partner and trust your relationship
#4. Be satisfied, and contented and obey your partner
#5. Be careful of friends you follow
#6. Define your relationship and also get sealed from your parents or guardians
#7. Do something unique and extraordinary, make your partner want to think about you.. Special people do, special things
#8. Invest and be part in his or her life
#9. Be dependent and not liability
#10. Be a good religious person and be prayerful.. TO BE CONTINUED


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~ Compatibility An Essential Factors To Blissful Marital life

Compatibility is very important when it comes to Marriage. Many singles are getting married with little or no compatibility level such marriages are bound to fail. Compatibility in terms of physical, emotional, health, character and sex should be taking very seriously when choosing a future partner. Lack of compatibility may lead to :

1. Marriage failure
2. Untimely death of couple
3. Set backs and spiritual battles
4. Inability to conceive a child
5. Hampered or caged destiny
6. Sorrow and affliction
7. Giving birth to offsprings with health challenge
8. Slow down of progress physically and spiritually
9. Serious fighting and unrest
10. Absence of Joy in marriage
11. Infidelity and sexual deprivation
12. Disappointments and lust

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~ Things Couples Needs To Know Before They Get Married

Like any healthy relationship, a good marriage requires work. No matter how compatible a couple may be or how in love they feel, there will be times when unforeseen challenges arise, and it’s then that the true foundation of a marriage is revealed. Here are things that couples should put into practice in order to keep their marriages strong and their relationship growing and vibrant.

1. Marriage is a long life commitments
2. Divorce is never a good adoption it's very important to think very well before getting married
3. Change will occur in either physically, mentally or emotionally
4. They should start every day with happiness and not hatred
5. Accept each other's flaws
6. Spend more quality time together and practice love languages
7. Marriage is for matured minds and therefore high level of understanding is required
8. Men are mars, (don't want unsolicited advice)
9. Women are venus ( they want you to listen)
10. Getting married to a prayer partner will grow the marriage spiritually
11. There will be trial times and you need to be strong to overcome it
12. Excessive arguments should be ruled out
13. Love respect, & kind actions should be practiced.

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~ Top Twelve Things Couples Should Do Together

In Order To find fulfillment and joy in Marriage couple needs to love and understand each other properly, love is the engine while understanding is the key to a happy married life. There are top secret things couples needs to do regularly in order to have a blissful married life

1. Trust in each other, couple must extend trust completely
2. Talking and listening carefully is another essential feature of a good marriage
3. Be happy together, happiness plays important role in Marriage
4. Being in love with each other, marriage may not survive if there are no genuine love, couple had to genuinely love each other
5. Sharing values and interests
6. Been supportive, couple needs to give helping hands to marriage work, especially in the area of domestication
7. Laughing and play together is another key factor
8. Sharing a close relationship, expressing important issues, feelings and ideas will help marriage grow faster
9. Being best friends
10. Feeling safe and secure. Security is the key to life in Marriage, couple especially husband needs to create an atmosphere of security for the marriage to trend
11. Absence of third-party, couple should be careful of whom they report or share their information with
12. Respect and honor each other, respect helps keep a marriage from falling into temptation of argument and disagreement.

The first 3 years of marriage is always very difficult and to survive the first 3 years of marriage, couple needs to do kind actions towards each other.

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✔ When love fails

Love binds a relationship together, it keeps it glowing, but most times its bound to fail like a car brake when there is lack of compatibility and genuine interest . When this happens many people in a relationship suffer depression and chronic sadness because they never prepared for it.

What to do when love failed you.
If your heart is broken by someone you truly and love failed you. You need to stop worrying and move on

1. Nothing in life is guaranteed, everything fades away it's only for a short period of time. Love may fail at early stage or later stage so don't worry much

2. Put yourself together and make up your mind

3. Change your environment if possible, travel to new places

4. Find a new partner and build a new relationship.

5. Check what's gone wrong in your past relationship and fix it

6. Instead of spending time wondering and crying, spend more time to heal up

7. Believe in yourself and your dreams that you can get what you wanted

8. Format pictures, delete contacts and move on

9. Instead of blaming your partner for breaking up with you, concentrate on your own contributions to the break up, because there are smoke without fire

10. If you have been doing the right thing to keep your relationship and it fails. It's time to take it to God to intervene and be more closer to God

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~ Does True love exist?

Yes True love exist, love never dies, if you had experiencing false love it as a result of the kind of person(s) you are dating or meeting. You may think there is no true love or its all fake but true love is real. you can find its. It's within your reach, its available for you. Below is how to identify true love.

1. True Love is real and never dies
2. True love is calm, understanding and real
3. True love is unconditional
4. True love is unselfish
4. True love has the power of intimacy
5. True love takes time and not so fast
6. True does what it says
7. True never tell lies or deceitful
8. True love sacrifices
9. True love gives, cares and respectful
10. True will never leave in times of troubles

If you really want to experience true love, you have to be true yourself. You can't give what you don't have. If you are true, you can't attract true. The easiest way to meet someone true is for you do be ready to be true.

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Don't accept a relationship because you want to be there, accept a relationship because you want to add values and ideas, you want to affect someone's life positively with your knowledge and characters. Those who rush into a relationship with no clue are used for the fun of it.. Have a goal for every relationship you give consent to.

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may you find lasting love and peace and all your heart desires be fulfilled(Amen)

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~ Why you should not marry a woman or man who begs you for money all the time


Money is powerful it's a tool, if your partner is always begging for money. He or she is not fit for you
A partner should add values to you and not drain your finances


1. Men or women beg for money,have already lost their dreams and will not be useful
2. It's a sign your partner is lazy and this will affect your relationship
3. You will have to labour more and work extra for you two
4. People who beg for money are later irresponsible in marriage
5. They are after you for your money and when you stop giving the marriage goes down
6. Life is all about thinking positive, it's more important to date someone who is hardworking and serious
7. Love has nothing to do with it. But Your own selfish Will to have taken the truth
8. Men who beg for money are always engaging in infidelity, same as women
9. They are always desperate for marriage, so that they can get at you. Be watchful
10. They don't listen to Advice because they are accustomed to that way of life .


Marriage is not what you jump into . Think deeply, be sure you are doing the right, don't be fooled by love . Love has it roles to play, your brain does same too .

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Marriage is an institution you will new graduate from, but you keep learning, it's good to learn positive things to keep your marriage. You can keep your marriage from breaking when you do the right and listen to the right people.

Give people chance in your life, don't always go by own way. If you always thinking about what you want. You make mistakes of making wrong choices, but when you give people chance you will be surprised that your relationship life is improving for the better.

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Think deeply before you quit a relationship, don't jump in conclusion yet . Ask for help.

True love is not conditional, never leave your partner for a few fault. Break barriers together, stay together,that's the goal of a successful relationship

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