Restitution scandal:

Impotent man, who encouraged wife to sleep with men and give him kids, wants the children returned, as part of his repentance process
By CHIOMA IGBOKWE
Saturday, December 26, 2009


As people all over the world rejoice and celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ, there is one Nigerian, who, caught in what could pass for “restitution trap,” would be in mourning mood. Disgrace is hanging over her, like the sword of damocles, because her husband, who said he has repented of his sins, wants old things to pass away.

Saturday Sun gathered that Samuel Adejumi, a 55-year-old man, wants to expose his wife, Funke, to ridicule for failing to help him undergo the process of repentance. He has, therefore, dragged her to court, to force her reveal a secret in their 28- year-old marriage.

Trouble started for Samuel’s wife when her husband joined a new generation Pentecostal church and called himself a new creature. Until then, the man, who was diagnosed of impotence, had encouraged his wife to sleep with other men, get pregnant and give him kids so that nobody would know about his impotence. The obedient wife had agreed, in order to make her husband happy and keep the marriage. She succeeded in bearing three kids, fathered by different men, who did not know that they were being used as “baby factories.”

When, therefore, Samuel repented of his sins, he felt that for his repentance to be complete, he had to make restitution. He, therefore, asked his wife to return the three kids to the men, who fathered them, as he would not want to have anything to do with them. His wife refused to do such a thing. Samuel then dragged her to court.
In the suit, instituted at the Ikorodu Magistrate’s Court, Lagos, Samuel is seeking an order to force his wife to return the three children fathered by other men to them.

Funke told Saturday Sun that 28 years ago she and Samuel had an elaborate wedding, after which they settled down in their new home, in the hope of having their own kids as soon as possible. According to her, when months rolled by and she was yet to conceive, she and her husband sought medical attention. Medical investigation had revealed that Samuel was impotent.

She said: “The result had it that he can never impregnate a woman.”
Samuel, in order to cover up, had pleaded with his wife not to tell anybody about the medical result. He was also said to have encouraged her to sleep with other men to get pregnant. The plot was that when she got pregnant, nobody would know that her husband was impotent.
Funke got pregnant three times for different men and had the kids. Everything went well until two years ago when Samuel claimed that he had repented.

“He came home one day, from a vigil, shouting that hell and heaven were real and that he would do everything possible to ensure that he makes heaven. I praised God for his life but received the shock of my life when he called me aside and said that the children were the only obstacle to his making Heaven. I thought it was a joke till he made it clear that I should return those children from wherever I got them from,” Funke said.

Saturday Sun gathered that the woman reminded her husband of the pact they entered into, to sleep with men and get pregnant as well as keep it secret. Samuel would not hear this.
“I begged him, but he would not bulge. The truth is that I do not know who owns these kids and where on earth to find them. Where will I start and what disaster could it be for the men who were kept in the dark all these years. When the threat became much, I had no choice but to involve his family members who tried to talk sense into his head,” the woman said.

One of the kids, Steve, told Saturday Sun that his world nearly collapsed when the truth of his paternity dawned on him. “Men can be wicked. Imagine deceiving my mother into having kids for him and turning around to stab her at the back. I feel bad knowing that I have no identity, but then thank God for my father, whose sanity was controlled till I graduated and now working before this happen. If he doesn’t want us anymore, so be it. Such is life. But God will never forgive him for making my mother to do what she did 26 years ago for love,” he said.

Another of the kids, Funmi, 22, begged that she be left alone, as she has learnt her lesson. She said: “We were like a family before these religion things blew the whole thing open. I have so much pity for my mother who conceded to such act because if she was the one barren, am quite sure that my father would take a second wife. We all have a lesson there, that is, trust no man. I console myself in the fact that there are many orphans out there. ” Asked if she would seek for her real father, Funmi said: “I am not interested because I can’t afford to impose myself on a man who never knew I existed. You don’t think about the effect it would have to his family members, who will be devastated. As I said, I have no father and that is how it will remain. I only pray that God will give me the strength to concentrate and finish my education.”

chaircover:

Well Thank God that this didn't happen when the kids were much younger and find themselves thrown out of the house.

I prefer not to comment on the religious or moral aspect of this story but I sincerely hope that these kids are able to get over this and are not permanently psychologically damaged by this unfortunate saga.

Siena:

Poor kids!

I feel sorry for the wife too. As for the husband, well, I feel his new faith came at the wrong time.

And at a price too.

coolier:

Men!!! Now he is turning the tables against her when all she's ever done is stand by him, protect and shield him from the greatest embarrassment.  

When the threat became much, I had no choice but to involve his family members who tried to talk sense into his head,” the woman said.

tpia.:

the man is confused.

The children are still his inasmuch as he raised them and had a prior agreement with his wife about fathering them.



He can consider them adopted but they're still his children.

The way they were conceived is what he should repent of instead of rejecting the kids outrightly.

sayso:

So he wants her to sleep with other men and she did,now he wants her to return the kids,is there a problem,I do not see any if you ask.

sayso: So he wants her to sleep with other men and she did,now he wants her to return the kids,is there a problem,I do not see any if you ask.