NO GAMBLING IN MARRIAGE.
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Many people think that simply because the famous hadith mentions "deen", so every muslim is now a marriage material!
If that was the case, then there would be no need for istikharah and istisharah anymore, we'll just marry just anyone who prays facing the ka'bah, simple.
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HELLO,
As much as all that glitters is not gold, all that's fade is not also advisable to be purchased, a faded item does more harm than good.
If a man has been practicing sunnah for 5years and he still says:
"Astanga-fruullah"
Is that a sign of a serious person who is willing to learn? Such is an unserious students of knowledge and it shows he is far away from the scholars and gatherings of knowledge.
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Don't think that people will suddenly improve after marriage, the way people are before marriage is the way they will be after marriage, nothing changes overnight, except in extremely few cases. Do not take that risk.
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Imran bin hittan was a scholar among the tabi'een, he was very eloquent and there is no person he admonishes except that the person would embrace islam.
So he wanted to marry his cousin sister who was one of the khawarij, so that he will change her to the sunnah, but when they got married, she was the one who changed him and imran became a khawarij and later became the amir of the khawarij of their time.
(Siyaaru alaamin nubalaa).
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This is what we are saying, if a sister promises you that she would start wearing hijab after marriage, do not take the risk, let her start wearing it first out of the fear of Allah not for your sake, before you marry her.
If a brother tells you he will stop partying or living a gangster life after marriage, don't accept his proposal, until you see the changes in him, even at that, do your istikharah, it maybe that he is only pretending for a shortwhile.
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There is no management in marriage, do not marry anyone out of pity or out of mere hopes that they would change.
This is why we see some niqabites married to niggas today, some brothers are married to slay babes today.
You don't have the unseen knowledge, it may turn out positive or negative, the risk is not worth taking, marry a man who is better than you not worse than you.
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Sheik uthaymeen said,
People do say:
"I will marry a woman who is not religious, perhaps Allah will guide her through me"
We say: you have no knowledge of the future, it may be that you'll marry her hoping that Allah will guide her through you but she would rather change you to her wayward lifestyle
(Sharh al mumti, kitabun nikah, 14)
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When we buy fruits, we choose the best, when we buy clothes, we go for the best, when we cook, we prepare it well, when we take drugs, we go for the best, when we marry, we even go for blood test so that we don't endanger the health of our kids, but when it comes to religious commitment and aqeedah, we marry anyhow.
We go for blood test but we don't examine the aqeedah of the person.
Marriage is a lifetime contract and your partner will either mar you or make you, so do not go for anything less, there is no management in marriage.

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