gbegemaster:
What? You a mean a woman, born of another woman slaps you upandan like a b*tch and you are still calling her your girlfriend? That girl knows that the guys that will put up with her nonsense are scarce, so she's holding you hostage.

There are several ways to deal with an abusive woman without lifting a finger. One way is to stop complying. You must stand your ground. Tell her you are taking a break. Lock up your house and stay with a friend for a week. After that, change your routine. Watch her reaction once she's finding it hard to predict you.

If you must give her the sack then get some of your hefty friends to help you restrain her. Then ignore all future rantings and move on with your life.

DozieInc:
Violence and fits of anger are traits I will never tolerate in a relationship.

OP. You better do something, for your own good.

Zeedarh:
No to any form of violence.
But bros, which kain vegetable you chop?

sinaj:
some people will notice the crazy tendency in their bf/gf nd still go ahead to marry thinking marriage will change it.

That's just why I feel no pity for those in abusive relationship.

Protagonist:


Thanks gbegemaster, the stupid thing is that I love her and can't stay away. And she knows that.

Protagonist:


I have tried severally to end the relationship, but she won't stop coming. Before you know it, we are on again. Last night's trouble left me with terrible injuries that I couldn't go to work today.
She has left, but I'm sure she will be here tomorrow, when she feels things have settled. And beg

Zeedarh:
No to any form of violence.

But bros, which kain vegetable you chop?

Fadamant:
This op is not serious at all. You call yourself a man and you see yourself as helpless before your girl friend? God forbid. KICK THAT GIRL OUT PERMENENTLY, before she kills you.

gbegemaster:
OP make dem nor kill you for nothing oh. If you die she will move on. Abi na veejay dey hold you hostage so? Abi she be Master of acrobatics? Abi na food? Abi na money? Wetin wan make you wan die inside this matter so?

Please force yourself and declare a break biko.

gbegemaster:
OP make dem nor kill you for nothing oh. If you die she will move on. Abi na veejay dey hold you hostage so? Abi she be Master of acrobatics? Abi na food? Abi na money? Wetin wan make you wan die inside this matter so?

Please force yourself and declare a break biko.

Protagonist:


Fadamant, I'm really trying. But your encouragements will serve as strength. I promise

gbolahanoluyemi:
Married to an Adulterer?
How can the law help you?
Gallery image
Gallery image
The law provides remedies for victims of extra marital affairs
In recent times, allegations of adultery by public personalities have occupied the social media. This no doubt changed the fact that many married persons are married to adulterous spouses. While some are aware of this fact, many are ignorant of the situation. This publication considers adultery under the Matrimonial Causes Act, how it is proved and the remedy available to a spouse who has been a victim of adultery.

The Court of Appeal in IBEABUCHI v. IBEABUCHI reported as (2016) LPELR-41268(CA) defined Adultery as consensual intercourse between two persons of opposite sexes, at least one of whom is married to a person other than the one with whom the intercourse is had, and since the celebration of the marriage.

Establishing adultery in a court of law is not as easy as it is in the cultural system. In law seeing your spouse hanging out with an opposite sex on a date with nothing more may not amount to sufficient proof of adultery. To successfully establish adultery, there must be sexual intercourse and the sexual intercourse must be voluntary and at least one of the parties must be married. Rape does not amount to adultery.

Adultery is one of the grounds permitted by law for the dissolution of marriages provided the adultery has not been condoned by the spouse. Adultery is difficult to be proved, judging by the fact that adulterers usually exercise extreme secrecy during the act. The law however allows it to be proved by inference from circumstances where it cannot be proved by direct evidence.

Proving adultery is not as easy as alleging adultery, the co-adulterer must be joined in the petition, under Islamic law, an allegation of adultery leveled against a woman must be proved by the testimonies of four unimpeachable Muslims who must have seen the adulterous act. However, in the secular court which applies the Matrimonial Causes Act, direct evidence which is very rare can be given, adultery can also be proved by circumstantial evidence that could be in various forms e.g. If the victim can prove that the spouse had contacted a sexually transmitted disease from a third party during the marriage, this will give rise to a presumption of adultery; If the victim proves that the spouse visits a brothel with an opposite sex, it will be presumed that such a spouse has committed adultery; confessions of spouse; birth of a child outside wedlock etc.

The law is that, a party to a marriage whether husband or wife may, in a petition for a decree of dissolution of the marriage alleging that the other party to the marriage has committed adultery with a person claim damages from that person who has committed adultery with his/her spouse. You can sue your husband's girlfriend and get damages, likewise husbands can get damages from their wives' boyfriends.


The purpose of the damages for adultery are not to compensate for the loss which the victim has suffered, even though the Court may consider matters such as damage done to the victim by the blow to his/her honour, the hurt to his/her family life and injury to his/her feelings, the court may give directives with regards the manner in which the damages awarded shall be paid or applied and may, if the circumstances warrant, direct that the damages be settled for the benefit of the victim or the children of the marriage.

It must be noted that, the Court will not grant damages in respect of an act of adultery committed more than three years before the date of the petition. To learn more or ask questions about marriages, divorce and the law, please send us an email via lawcandles@gmail.com or olivesandcandles@yahoo.com


Engaging in adultery cost us religious benefits and can also make us pay huge sums in damages. So when next you receive a proposal from a married person, think twice or better still, confide in a lawyer.

extracted from https://www.smore.com/scgxr

Protagonist:


Thanks gbegemaster, the stupid thing is that I love her and can't stay away. And she knows that.

Fadamant:


Okay. I tell you what. The reason it is difficult for you to break with her is that you've become too emotionally attached to her owing to co-habitating and frequent sex.

You need to man-up, stop having sex with her and finally kick her out. I recommend you take her out of your house and tell her plainly that you are breaking up, and don't listen to any pleas from her and don't believe any promises of change from her, because she will never change, except by God's intervention.

Do these for your life's sake. It is better to be safe , than to be sorry.

gbolahanoluyemi:
Married to an Adulterer?
How can the law help you?
Gallery image
Gallery image
The law provides remedies for victims of extra marital affairs
In recent times, allegations of adultery by public personalities have occupied the social media. This no doubt changed the fact that many married persons are married to adulterous spouses. While some are aware of this fact, many are ignorant of the situation. This publication considers adultery under the Matrimonial Causes Act, how it is proved and the remedy available to a spouse who has been a victim of adultery.

The Court of Appeal in IBEABUCHI v. IBEABUCHI reported as (2016) LPELR-41268(CA) defined Adultery as consensual intercourse between two persons of opposite sexes, at least one of whom is married to a person other than the one with whom the intercourse is had, and since the celebration of the marriage.

Establishing adultery in a court of law is not as easy as it is in the cultural system. In law seeing your spouse hanging out with an opposite sex on a date with nothing more may not amount to sufficient proof of adultery. To successfully establish adultery, there must be sexual intercourse and the sexual intercourse must be voluntary and at least one of the parties must be married. Rape does not amount to adultery.

Adultery is one of the grounds permitted by law for the dissolution of marriages provided the adultery has not been condoned by the spouse. Adultery is difficult to be proved, judging by the fact that adulterers usually exercise extreme secrecy during the act. The law however allows it to be proved by inference from circumstances where it cannot be proved by direct evidence.

Proving adultery is not as easy as alleging adultery, the co-adulterer must be joined in the petition, under Islamic law, an allegation of adultery leveled against a woman must be proved by the testimonies of four unimpeachable Muslims who must have seen the adulterous act. However, in the secular court which applies the Matrimonial Causes Act, direct evidence which is very rare can be given, adultery can also be proved by circumstantial evidence that could be in various forms e.g. If the victim can prove that the spouse had contacted a sexually transmitted disease from a third party during the marriage, this will give rise to a presumption of adultery; If the victim proves that the spouse visits a brothel with an opposite sex, it will be presumed that such a spouse has committed adultery; confessions of spouse; birth of a child outside wedlock etc.

The law is that, a party to a marriage whether husband or wife may, in a petition for a decree of dissolution of the marriage alleging that the other party to the marriage has committed adultery with a person claim damages from that person who has committed adultery with his/her spouse. You can sue your husband's girlfriend and get damages, likewise husbands can get damages from their wives' boyfriends.


The purpose of the damages for adultery are not to compensate for the loss which the victim has suffered, even though the Court may consider matters such as damage done to the victim by the blow to his/her honour, the hurt to his/her family life and injury to his/her feelings, the court may give directives with regards the manner in which the damages awarded shall be paid or applied and may, if the circumstances warrant, direct that the damages be settled for the benefit of the victim or the children of the marriage.

It must be noted that, the Court will not grant damages in respect of an act of adultery committed more than three years before the date of the petition. To learn more or ask questions about marriages, divorce and the law, please send us an email via lawcandles@gmail.com or olivesandcandles@yahoo.com


Engaging in adultery cost us religious benefits and can also make us pay huge sums in damages. So when next you receive a proposal from a married person, think twice or better still, confide in a lawyer.

extracted from https://www.smore.com/scgxr

pcguru1:
Not here to advise you because you don't look like someone that would heed to advice, just came to say Females physically abusing Males is Comedy Trope. peace out

TheeDetective:
WHAT SORT OF SILLY LOVE IS THIS MATE? I’m going to be quiet brutal here dude . SOMETHING REALLY IS WRONG WITH YOU if you think it’s normal for you to remain in an abusive relationship with someone you are still in the courting stage with. Is it until she inflicts harm on you before you know it’s time to get rid of her? By then, it’ll be too late. IF YOU HAVE FAMILY MEMBERS AND YOU ALLOW THIS WOMAN TO KILL YOU, DO YOU KNOW HOW THAT WILL HURT YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS? You are selfish if you allow that to happen and put your family members into chaos especially since you could have avoided harm coming to you. IF YOU DON’T WANT TO HAVE PITY FOR YOURSELF, AT LEAST HAVE PITY FOR YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS ESPECIALLY YOUR MUM AND DAD. MAN-UP AND GET OUT OF THAT TOXIC RELATIONSHIP AND ENVIRONMENT NOW . If you like make you listen, if you like make you no listen nah your cup of tea be that, no say dem no warn you o. You take eye see am say people wey dey respond to you here dey tell you say make you run faster than Usian Bolt before had I known sets in. ENOUGH SAID.

Protagonist:


Thanks for your help. I have deviced an arrangement. Since my rent will expire next month, I intend to quietly pack without her knowledge. Sounds childish, but that's all I've got. All the same, Thanks

thorpido:
.........but I love her

While dating,these signs are always there but they foolishly hope things will change.