im in love with two women and really want to settle down soon.the first lady is young and beautiful but the problem is that my family are not willing to accept her due to tribal and other differences.also i think she still has some learning to do with regards to being a responsible house wife.she is a spoilt kid, could be quite lazy and depends too much on her mum for everything but she is madly in love with me and would do anything to be with me.she also still in school and i dont think i'd want to start off marriage with training my wife in school, the other lady is well read,beautiful and career minded.the ideal woman for me some might say but the major problem is that she is 2yrs older than me.i dont have any problems with that but she has reservations about marrying a guy younger than her.also her younger brother is my friend and im afraid he might not buy the idea of me marrying his sister.the second lady is not so enthusiastic about marriage but i know she also loves me but not as much as the first lady.she lives in a bigger house and would want us to relocate to a bigger city if we get married.but i cant move into her house and dont have immediate plans to change my place of abode
i dont know which one of these ladies i should marry and how to go about breaking up with the other one(especially now that i have informally proposed to the both of them ) without neccesarily hurting her.

You proposed to both of them!! How could you?

Well, I hope you won't end up breaking 2 hearts, because in my view, you've not yet found your wife.
Is your search for a partner in any way restricted to just the two of them? You sound as if it is 
There might just be other options you know?

Marry the two, they have their good qualities according to you and hey, polygamy is not a crime here yet!

First of al,i believe u r in lust&nt luv wit d both,cum 2 fink of it u ve got one hrt,ow cum u r dn luvin 2 pple.u luv dm both 4 1 tin or d odr&nt 4 d feelins.ow cud u ve done dt,why propose 2 both wen u ve nt made up ur mind.wel,d BIBLE says u LUV one&nt two.wish u gud luck.beta u let dm both no wt's goin on nw.d earlier d beta

Invite us for the theesome wedding.

Abba bro why would propose to 2 ladies. That is a problem in d making if u dnt take ur tym. I dnt tink u luv neither of d ladies, cos if u do, u wnt double date. Be careful nd watchful,.

@poster, go ahead and marry them, hire a two bedroom apartment and enjoy the best of two worlds! Who says life is not sweet.

@poster, go ahead and marry them, hire a two bedroom apartment and enjoy the best of two worlds! Who says life is not sweet.

you are cruel, wat an advice.

He deserves such advice since he can't sort out little things like the choice of a life partner, can't you see he is playing games with them both, promising each marriage and now wants our advice.

@ poster, I don't understand dis ur "informal" proposal. Did u actually propose to the both of them or do u just think ur actions towards them suggests marriage. Anyways, i don't think u can love 2 pple equally. Search ur heart properly and do the right thing. To the "victim" of ur decision, sh*t happens. Time will heal her.