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5 Ways To Stop Taking Things Personally by londonrivals: 9:50pm On Apr 28, 2017
If you are in this category, you need to learn to stop taking things so personally because it can be injurious to your physical health and mental well-being. Life will be so much easier when you learn not to take the blame for things entirely beyond your control.

Question Yourself

When you find yourself being overly and personally affected by things, you should pause, take a step back and ask yourself why. Argue with yourself if you have to, and ask yourself why on earth you are letting it get to you so much.

Change Your Beliefs

This is based on the Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT), which argues that a person is not affected emotionally by what happens around them, but by their interpretation of what happened. Interpretations are formed by our beliefs, so you therefore have to work on wrong beliefs and erroneous lines of reasoning that can lead you to feel bad about things that really don’t warrant such emotions.

Get Over Yourself

It might seem a bit harsh to say, but this is the truth of what you have to do to be free of taking things personally. You need to stop being so self-conscious and stop believing that everything is about you or everything is caused by you. Learn to separate yourself, your personality and who you are in general, from events that happen to you. Keep that in mind the next time you are tempted to take things personally.

Be Too Busy To Care

Remember this – if you have time to dwell and dwell endless on what has been said or done to you, you have way too much time on your hands. Please get busy and find something productive to do that will make you better for taking out time to do it.

Don’t Drink the Poison

Even if an action or comment was directed at you or was a jab at you, it is important you learn to let it go. Don’t dwell on it and let it stir up bitterness and anger in you. If you want to confront the person(s) concerning it, make a decision and do so. If you aren’t going to confront the person, then just let it go and move on. Because the truth is even when a situation seems so personal, even if you are insulted directly, it most times has nothing to do with you. Everything is based on the opinions, agreements, judgments and even insecurities the other person has in their own mind.

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Re: 5 Ways To Stop Taking Things Personally by Oloniyan(m): 9:57pm On Apr 28, 2017
OK.

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