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Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Shrekjhon(m): 10:50am On May 23, 2017 |
I don see dem feminist for here! Dem noe go just talk true 2 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by stevecantrell: 10:54am On May 23, 2017 |
eitsei: Yes, youre right ! 1 Like |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by babaireti(m): 10:54am On May 23, 2017 |
God bless the OP ,I have really learned a lot from this piece,I will go back home to take it easy with Ireti,her younger ones and their Mummy. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by SmartyPants(m): 10:54am On May 23, 2017 |
alexialin: We hear their own version every single day while the voice of the man does not see the light of day. do not derail this thread with your unecessary wailing. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Nobody: 10:55am On May 23, 2017 |
children are not as stupid as they look. surprisingly they know the difference between genuine love and neglect. I was an orphan since I was 11 the people who i n my brother lived with complain that I never call them. they rant about how they fed us but I remember vividly how I was literally a house help. I turned to charcoal because I was running errands under hot sun for all nine members of that family from morning till night. before my very eyes they threw my brother out of their house when he was just 17. I mean they flung his bag out and asked him to leave. wen I was in school they left me hungry until I looked for my mother's people. I then saw the difference between genuine love and 'being used'. I forgive them but the rapor is not just flowing 18 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by MARKETfund: 10:56am On May 23, 2017 |
Ayocom123: Do you really think and believe that your dad hated you? I personally doubt so. He simply want you not to be a lost cause and he achieved that Pls open up for him (for the bonding) 2 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Nobody: 10:57am On May 23, 2017 |
SmartyPants: Who is wailing? Do u think I have una time ? Smhhh. Be a good father and good husband and see if your kids will forget about u. If u like take to my advice , if u like don't! Ko kan aye mehn. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Nobody: 10:59am On May 23, 2017 |
Food for thought indeed!! Many fathers espcially those whose kids have left the nest are in these shoes. Learn to establish a freindship relationship with your children when theyre young. Dont involve yourself with business, church programs, politics, career because all that will go some day, the only thing you will have to go back to when you re too old to do anything is your family, the ones you chose to abandon. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by MARKETfund: 10:59am On May 23, 2017 |
YelloweWest: That just the point You're turning out to be like the person you resent by adopting a stone heart just like him Same attitude will make your offspring resent you too, and the cycle continues 4 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Nobody: 11:01am On May 23, 2017 |
Fatherhood isint a thankless job. Some males fail to understand that there is this primitive bond between the mother and children from conception and birth not limited to the human species alone. The worst thing a man can do is to show his children that he does not love their mother, and doesn't forge a bond with them at childhood, irrespective of discipline meted out. The damage is usually irreparable. Children don't get 'brainwashed' by their mothers about their fathers deeds or misdeeds, children are very keen observers themselves of happenings. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by MARKETfund: 11:02am On May 23, 2017 |
YTderin: Let them know that the possibility of them suffering the same fate in the hands of their offspring is very high. They're only repeating same mistake your dad made. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by SmartyPants(m): 11:02am On May 23, 2017 |
alexialin: I don't need advice from an internet tout. Just quit derailing the thread. 1 Like |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by hollah123: 11:04am On May 23, 2017 |
I don't even care if I take care of my dad when am financially buoyant, my mum takes it all. cos right from when I was very small I got to c my father spend money on drinks n owambe but never care if we Av eaten or not. he has d money but he no dey send us for house. I just dey pity how d man go take suffer. people outside c us as rich man pikin but Na we n mum dey run things u come dey tell me say I go dey close to dat one. even if I have d whole world he doesn't deserve a kobo 6 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by ola30(m): 11:04am On May 23, 2017 |
AstuteJay: EXACTLY......you are on point......money is the koko. |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by missyadorable(f): 11:05am On May 23, 2017 |
obikirinoni: Same with me.I hate my father power has shifted to me.I stayed for 4 years without seeing or speaking with my father. and am just cool. tyrant papa..who he epp? 5 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by MARKETfund: 11:06am On May 23, 2017 |
obikirinoni: You must have been hurt deeply Holding on is imprisonment, letting go is freedom Am sure you yearn for freedom 5 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Nobody: 11:10am On May 23, 2017 |
I'm surprised at the number of likes your post garnered. Just shows the kind of homes most lived. My father is my pride. He's the love of my life. He's my number one and I'm sure my siblings will say same about him too. I love my dad to death. obikirinoni: 1 Like |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by bencarson007(m): 11:13am On May 23, 2017 |
KevinDein:. You are wrong... Fatherhood is not a thankless job but one filled with perks if done lovingly... Most fathers who have this mentality of fatherhood is a thankless job, under the guise of being strict graduate into being wicked and next stage is tyranny... My dad has done all the stages and even added one more step - heartless so right now, his six kids feel nothing for him... Now he is looking for companions and friends, they are all gone. If I remember all that he has done to me, I feel like strangling him but if a fly perches on my mom, I will be on the next available flight to Delta state or take the nearest bus no matter the risk. We have not spoken for about a year or seen each other... Don't neglect ur kids or try to be a tyrant to them cos a day will come and u can't find them for support... 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Nobody: 11:20am On May 23, 2017 |
My daughter fear her dad more than myself. She doesn't disrespect me but i sometimes give her long rope before I change my style. She knows when and tries to have fun till she is close to the end and respects herself. Despite all that, my husband early on would draw her closer after and explain why he had to correct her and huh her tightly, holding her for a while. He sometimes even looks for something she loves to watch or an activity to spend time with her. Now I notice that my daughter never ever walk away angry from us. She will vex o but the moment we are dropping her off or one of us is leaving, she rushes to hug you and smile. The role of a father is equally important. Mothering a child is not the only parenting technique. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by sweetrace(f): 11:21am On May 23, 2017 |
danidon08: Wasn't it your mum who reported you to your dad? A lot of Nigerian mums leave the punishment to the dads. "I will tell your dad " is the threat you hear in a lot of homes. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Nobody: 11:22am On May 23, 2017 |
Ije004: very true. I like Fathers who make effort to bond with their children even while in the womb they sing to them and when they are born they actively participate in post natal care. some even attend antenatal with their wives, I am talking about men with good jobs and active careers o. there is one in my church like that even with all this he still got an award as employee of the year. I just don't want to call the company's name so DAT ppl will not trace him. in essence you can provide and still create time to bond with ur kids. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by KevinDein: 11:22am On May 23, 2017 |
MarieSucre:Marie, I do appreciate that some fathers are genuine assssholes and this group men have only themselves to blame for being alienated by their kids in latter parts of their lives. However, some other men find themselves in situations they can't help. They have to live and work far away from the wife and kids just so the family can have the highest possible standard of living. Of course this group of dads will still be underappreciated by their kids for obviously no fault of theirs. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Willie2015: 11:24am On May 23, 2017 |
AstuteJay: Financial muscle is good but you need your family (wifes, children etc) around your during your old age when there is nothing to hustle for again. The Nigerian work setting of 5am to 9 pm is not good for a young family. Most fathers dont get to know their kids as early as possible, once you miss this bonding from age (1-13), it hardly works again. The result is barking, shouting and using force to achieve results with children. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by greenmonk: 11:24am On May 23, 2017 |
danidon08:What most children don't think about is what they would have become without the koboko. The ills plaguing Nigeria today was due to the mad rush for material wealth which made most men to be away from their homes and unable to weld the koboko. All thru my live I only have to encounter the koboko twice as the mere mention of the words your "father will hear about this" is enough to make everyone repent of the immediate and future sins but women being who they exploit their maternal relationship with their children to the detriment of the men. I held both my parents in high esteem until the demise of my mother and still care for my father. No child has the excuse to maltreat any of his parents for what goes around comes around. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by YTderin(f): 11:26am On May 23, 2017 |
obikirinoni: Old age. Bearing in mind that we were so scared if him while growing up... Imagine a scenario whereby, you hear a knock on the gate, and we realize it's Popc, the sitting room gets deserted immediately, laptop, phones, earpieces, chargers,TV goes off.. . everyone of us literally scamper to safety. Then we start arguing on who will go and open the gate for the man . Dad really scared us sha ooo. Amongst other things I've talked to my siblings severall about letting it go. I hope they grow more sensible as they grow older. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by greenmonk: 11:28am On May 23, 2017 |
danidon08:What most children don't think about is what they would have become without the koboko. The ills plaguing Nigeria today was due to the mad rush for material wealth which made most men to be away from their homes and unable to weld the koboko. All thru my live I only have to encounter the koboko twice as the mere mention of the words your "father will hear about this" is enough to make one repent of the immediate and future sins but women being who they are exploit their maternal relationship with their children to the detriment of the men. I held both my parents in high esteem until the demise of my mother and still care for my father. No child has the excuse to neglect any of his/her parents for what goes around comes around. |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by dingbang(m): 11:37am On May 23, 2017 |
My dad is yet to come to terms with the fact that he is getting old and he has men in the house... I pity him . My mum, well... I don't know what to say... They caused the friction... 3 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Engineermbugame(m): 11:37am On May 23, 2017 |
my dad is like a second GOD to me . 2 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Nobody: 11:39am On May 23, 2017 |
YTderin: Hahahahahahha!!! Lawd, Not so different from mine and other families. Very funny. Treat Him well. You need it. |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Engineermbugame(m): 11:39am On May 23, 2017 |
my dad is like a second GOD to me . |
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