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|A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by FakoMaybach1: 6:41am On Jun 14, 2017|
The truth is that a lot of negative and distorted stories have been flying around. People tend to exaggerate negative events and downplay the good ones.
I am in support of Biafra, the thought of a homogeneous nation, a people of similar origin, norm, laws, culture, religion and deposition to life is mouth watering; I don't think anyone will want to pass up such a chance. But lets get one thing straight the Yoruba and Hausa have been kind hosts to the best of their abilities.
I am using this opportunity to celebrate the acts of kindness i have received from the various tribes in Nigeria. Not all marriages break up because the husband is evil, sometimes couples have "Irreconcilable differences" and this is the case of Nigeria, we are too different and if nothing is done to address our grievances; then a breakup is inevitable.
I know for a fact that many of our Igbo heroes in the past in one time or another received a lot of help, training from other tribes in Nigeria. Ojukwu went to Kings college Lagos, Nnamdi Azikiwe's mentor Herbert Macaulay is a Yoruba man just to name a few. If you run a check into the lives of many Igbo people you will find out that some defining moments that shaped them to be better people were done by men/women from other tribes.
I will go ahead and give some true scenarios where other tribes have really affected my life positively and i will relay my gratitude. My aim is to be at peace with them, even if i leave we are still friends and if i stay i want them to know that i appreciate them a lot.
The Yoruba have been wonderful hosts i wont lie, a Yoruba man named Hakeem Ishola taught me how to drive. He was my mothers mechanic and i was quite young, he showed me the ropes on how to use the wheel and i am grateful to him
I attended a secondary school in Yoruba land named Kings college Lagos and my housemaster Mr Oguniyi was a kind and considerate man, who tried his best to raise gentlemen that will build a better society.
When i went for post ume at ABU Zaria a Hausa man named Bisan took me into his home not minding who i was. He showed me "Mi casa su casa" i will never forget his kindness for the cold weather of Kaduna can be unforgiving.
Now that i am working of my 6 biggest clients 4 of them are Yorubas, this is understandable as i work in Lagos; but i am still grateful to them for they could have called any other firm but they chose us regardless of our tribe.
My Landlord a Yoruba man was the most considerate man i ever knew, he never pressured my parents for rent and he took whatever they offered him. Though i was young then i did not understand but now i am a man i see that he is an angel, real men here know that an understanding Landlord that will even accept 10,000 when u tell him your condition is a saint. I am really grateful
The Yoruba nation taught me how to party like a rock-star, they taught me their language and they showed me that Life is only lived once and that philosophy calms me down when life gets taut. You have to give it to the Yoruba nation no one does parties like them and telling me that i have to take visa to do "Mo gbo mo ya" is like punishing me.
The Hausa nation is responsible for my salad and fruits, i know how their tomatoes, yam, carrots, onions, fura, kunu, burukutu, buruntashi has saved me on many occasions. Abokina nagode plenty albarika to you.
Yes i do name checking cus it is funny to me but i will not join the bandwagon of war mongers or hate message spreaders. I will not deny that the Yorubas have been fantastic hosts. After the june 12 elections when Igbos ran out of Lagos, the Yorubas did not convert our property, they told us to come back and even Ojukwu got back his houses in Lagos. Rivers state our neighbor there were not as kind, that shows that sometimes relationship is not by physical proximity.
I appreciate the Yorubas and i appreciate the Hausas, i call on other Nairalanders to share kind experiences they have had with people from other tribes. Enough of the hate, even if we are to break up it must not get ugly.
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|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by DirtyOSu: 6:42am On Jun 14, 2017|
This can only come from an Ibo Christian. Ibo Juice are too frustrated to think logically.
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|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by whitebeard(m): 6:51am On Jun 14, 2017|
DirtyOSu:I tell u brother
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by sammieguze(m): 6:53am On Jun 14, 2017|
This is deep
However, from the little I know, dividing the country is not the solution
We are too diversed to be easily divided into 3 parts and expect peace
Even in ibo land, they discriminate themselves
I have heard ibo people discriminate against the Delta ibo or ebonyi ibo as not being real
It is still in this same ibo land that ethnic crisis errupted few days ago
same with the North
Fulani-hausa ethnic crisis, Kaduna South whala and this is also applicable to the south west.
I think restructuring would be much better than this
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by keypad1: 6:58am On Jun 14, 2017|
A moslem edo girl showed me love, stood by me when i was jobless and encouraged me to never give up and she accepted whatever i gave to her as chop money,
somedays i gave her nothing. Sometimes its either 50 naira, 200 naira or 100 naira,
and she still held on to me,
now things have turned around for the better,
i planned to marry her, many women began to appear to me, some good ones, some bad ones. But no!
The woman that fought by my side is the one i wil die for and marry for the rest of my life,
thank you hafeeshat,
from a christian guy in jos, plateau state.
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|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by chiwetaluAGU(m): 7:04am On Jun 14, 2017|
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by gegee(m): 7:08am On Jun 14, 2017|
those war mongering miscreants will still come here and call the OP afonja simply because he has a different point of veiw from them
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|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by omofunaab(m): 7:16am On Jun 14, 2017|
Afonja afonja afonja
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by Nobody: 7:18am On Jun 14, 2017|
One of the few sensible Ibos on nairaland
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by Nobody: 7:19am On Jun 14, 2017|
One of the few sensible Ibo on nairaland
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by FakoMaybach1: 7:22am On Jun 14, 2017|
Kudos bro, i am really happy for this. Your story is inspiring and i am sure God has blessed your union for our people say if you say "yes" God agrees with you. sometimes we find Love in the most unlikely places
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by keypad1: 7:25am On Jun 14, 2017|
PacificNET:its not a dream bro, this is reality,
a case of been jobless after nysc, met a lady that made you strong at heart and loves you,
thats my true life story
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by asksteve(m): 7:26am On Jun 14, 2017|
Wonderful n free spirited write up.
Wish everyone could reflect back n c how no tribe is totally bad, even d one u consider d worst has good people who would have lent u a helping hand along ur journey tru life.
God help us to reminisce d past so it can help heal this hatred in our hearts.
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by keypad1: 7:29am On Jun 14, 2017|
FakoMaybach1:tanx bro, its God ooo.
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by Nobody: 7:30am On Jun 14, 2017|
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by Nobody: 7:35am On Jun 14, 2017|
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by Homeboiy: 7:37am On Jun 14, 2017|
I no get time to read this thing
Anyways na you know oo
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by Nobody: 7:38am On Jun 14, 2017|
@op I am not trying to dismiss your experiences, but the truth is that in general most human are good and also want to do good by others. I am privileged to have traveled both within and abroad. Within Nigeria, I have also had the privilege to have leaved side by side with any tribe you could mention in Nigeria. Just think about anyone, I have lived side by side with someone from that tribe. I also have been privileged to see human at their worse and finest from different tribes.
I am sure you will find people from other tribes that have shown kindness to people other than theirs, and I am also certain that the Hausa who grew up and lived all their lives in the SE/SW or the Yorubas that lived or grew up in SE/N would have similar story to tell about people from that area that changed their lives.
If a Yoruba finds his/herself in place where he is a minority the chances that his lives will be affected both positively and or negatively by someone from the majority tribe increases as the ratio of the tribe to his increases, it is common statistics. Another example, people complain of working with Indian bosses. If the same people have the chance to live or come in contact with large number of Indians in their live time chances are that they will meet Indians that will change their views of Indians.
The other thing about human nature which even science is yet to find valid explanation for is that for some reason most human tend to block out negative experiences. So the idea of exaggerating sad event and downplaying good ones is not valid in the long run, but over time we tend to remember more of the good times, while the bad experiences and memories are given a seat.
"telling me that i have to take visa to do "Mo gbo mo ya" is like punishing me."
The idea that your reason why Biafra ( not that I am in support or not in support of it. Personally I have no political inclination the only thing that guides me politically is how a certain action will benefit the masses. I don't care whether the masses are Hausa, Yoruba, Ibibio or Igala as long as such political move is in the interest of the very poor that forms majority of our society I will stand by it) shouldn't hold borders mainly on your personal experience and what you think you would loose as a person; is akin to the mentality of those currently running our country. Me and you are witnesses to how that is playing out at the moment. Your position would make more sense, if you had told us how running Nigeria the way it has been since independent will 'magically' improve the lives of the poor that it has been crushing since its creation.
Comparing June 12 to what happened in PH after the war is like comparing apple with orange. I am not insinuating that if war broke out that the Yorubas won't give back properties to those who left once they came back after that war. But that of June 12 is entirely a different scenario all together. In fact there is no way you can spin that, moreover those that left how long did they stay away, 3 years? or 10 years? At most 2 months, since when those staying away from your property for a short period of time a ground for someone else to take over your property?
In the end, I do not think that there is anyone calling for war or anyone gearing up for one at the moment more especially from the SE. The issue of name calling and inciting statements are mostly common on NL. Those NL tribalists can hardly say the things they say here in person to each other. It is a faceless forum I don't expect anything different from the rants coming from both camps. Moreover our security agencies are too busy chasing rats rather than tracking kids posting trash online. I most confess that some of the post I have seen here is ground for SWAT team kicking down your front door in the States.
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|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by mormonslayer: 7:43am On Jun 14, 2017|
Look at this MUMU, What is "ibo juice" at your age you don't know the difference between Jews and juice.
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by KratosCorp: 7:43am On Jun 14, 2017|
You obviously did not read the OP.
OP said HE IS IN SUPPORT OF BIAFRA. He only reminded you that getting Biafra does not mean being your enemy.
Regarding war mongering, can you please show me where JUST ONE igbo person threatened the Yoruba with war on this forum? I will show you 20 war/genocidal threats from the Yorubas.
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by Nobody: 8:22am On Jun 14, 2017|
In as much as I am happy for you, there are two things wrong with your post in my opinion. You are free to point out the lapses in my opinion as that will help me to address such issues in the future.
Firstly, before she was Edo and Moslem she was a human being. Stressing her tribe and religion may not necessarily give rise to your intended outcome because a good girl can be found in any tribe. Truth is that I am sure there are people here who can list horrible girl friends that are from Edo and are Moslem. I am of the opinion that given our experiences as a nation more especially on issue of tribe and religion it is high time we started addressing and treating people from human perceptive rather than based on an attribute assigned to them by society. For instance if your girl friend was born in Lagos, you could say my girl she is an angel and she has been by my side through thick and thin.... This makes first a human being. If someone asks where is she from, simple she is born in Lagos. Yea people had gone further to ask the tribe of my SO I just ask them if that matters, to which none ever came up with any sensible response rather than the 'you know blablabla'.
Secondly, you inferred that you were going to marry her out of loyalty to all she has done for you. Based on my understanding I don't think that loyalty is a solid ground for a lasting marriage. Correct me if I am wrong, I think there are more to that than loyalty ask those who are in it. I am not saying that loyalty shouldn't be something to consider but it seems your decision to marry her is more of a reward to her actions.
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by BrutalJab: 8:53am On Jun 14, 2017|
gegee:who wants war? Arewas or Biafrans?
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by BrutalJab: 8:53am On Jun 14, 2017|
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by honeychild(f): 9:20am On Jun 14, 2017|
Well even after the civil war, properties in the West were returned back to returning Biafrans. Sometimes with accruing rent.
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by Nobody: 9:29am On Jun 14, 2017|
That was a nice gesture but I didn't say that was not the case, I only stated that June 12 was different.
Any idea happened to the properties of those that never came back? Were they any Igbo left in the West during the war? Just curious.
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by honeychild(f): 9:31am On Jun 14, 2017|
My brother, don't mean to derail the thread, I just wanted to point out that one of the key ingredients of a lasting marriage is loyalty.
Loyalty is what will keep you with your wife when she has become fat and shapeless
Loyalty will keep her with you when you lose your job or when you are sick. Don't knock loyalty. That's what marriage vows are all about. "In sickness and health, in poverty and riches till death do us part." That's the definition of loyalty.
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by honeychild(f): 9:34am On Jun 14, 2017|
Yes. My father in law''s brother (my husband's uncle)never ran to the East during the war. He remained throughout the civil was sheltered by his neighbours in Ajegunle.
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by Nobody: 9:39am On Jun 14, 2017|
Good to know, I am sure there were more like him that stayed backed.
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by ProWalker: 9:42am On Jun 14, 2017|
There is a gulf of difference between the Igbo Christians and the Ibo Jews!!
The Igbo Christians are cosmopolitan and very intelligent, they live mostly outside the SE, the ibo Jews are mostly touts, quick tempered and without thinking nor foresight, they live mostly in the SE
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by gegee(m): 9:44am On Jun 14, 2017|
|Re: A Message To My Hosts From An Igbo Man by ProWalker: 9:45am On Jun 14, 2017|
You are not intelligent, if you are, you would have seen the juice in italics
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