You feel that as a loving wife you should be more of a mother to your husband. So, you protect and shield him from all family problems. In the bargain, you become so pampering that you make your husband irresponsible and undependable

It is true caring and loving as a mother is an emphatic of a good wife. But when you overdo the motherly part, you will definitely rue it in the future.

Does this mean you should avoid mothering your husband?
No.
It is not like that.
You can be a mother to your husband – As a mother who molds him. One who supports him. One who makes him understand his duties. One who motivates him.

Never make these mistakes by mothering your husband
Never be a minion to your husband.
Never protect him from his mistakes.
Never shoulder all the family issues by yourself.
Never make him a lifelong burden by being at his disposal, 24\7.
Never be his sycophant.
Make him understand his family duties.
He should share all your family problems.
He too should be equally responsible.
He should give you instant emotional back up when you need it most.
He should be supporting when you are stressed and tensed.

So, stop mothering your husband. Instead, be more of his reliable adviser.
A self confident wife makes her husband responsible and answerable. A pampering mother-like-wife makes her husband immature and negligent. The choice is entirely yours.

Why not advice them to murder their husbands instead