Fhemmmy:

I think women attach too much big deal to that day and their Anniversary
Personally, everyday is my woman's birthday, cos i do appreciate her daily and dont have to wait for some special day.
i think ladies needs to cut men some slack when it comes to dates

We have too much in our head to worry about

Spanishfly:

I'm getting confused with these men issues. Ok Fhemmy if the guy keeps missing dates and does not inform the woman, he cannot make it and has never remembered her birthday, what is she to do in this case? What can be said about the man?

Fhemmmy:

It is very easy, remind the man, say a week or some days to the date and he will do what you expected of him.
I have a policy: NEVER EXPECT, SO YOU DONT GET DISAPPOINTED

fifi09:

She can remind her man all she wants to but what's the use if he doesn't remember! Women are highly Sensitive, they want to feel very special and loved.

Everyone deserves to feel special, and if you are a boyfriend/girlfriend, you inadvertently signed up for that responsibility.

Fhemmmy:

But not remembering the date does not equals to not being special.
There could be so much in his head at that time. . . . .

Fhemmmy:

It is very easy, remind the man, say a week or some days to the date and he will do what you expected of him.
I have a policy: NEVER EXPECT, SO YOU DONT GET DISAPPOINTED

chy4luv:

My husband always forget my birthday,its really getting on me

fifi09:

To me, my birthday and everyone elses is a special day. A day to celebrate because thats the day you came into this world.

So much that he 4gets her B'day always?. Seriously, remembering important facts about a person, makes them feel like they are special.

Spanishfly:

Easy really? What if dating for over 3years and has never called to say happy birthday because he can't remember plus the date, you also call him that same day to remind him, at the end, he doesn't show up plus no call/text, what is one to do in this case?

Fhemmmy:

No one says, the day is not very important, but what is the big deal who remind the other . . . .He is your man, you love him, and accepts his faults, remind him like 2 days before, okay, lemme teach you how to do it.

Let us assume your bday is February 1st. . . .Today is January 29th
So tonite: Darling, u always forget my B'day oh, and it hurts oh, so remember the next one is Feb 1st oh
Next day . . . . I will be another year older tomorrow hon
I am sure that man will not forget on that day.


It's easier said than done. I bet ya, if you were in her shoes it will be the other way around.

Well, if you remind him and never show up on that day, then, that one get as he be, are you sure, he is not a Jehovah Witness man?

fifi09:

LOL, you've got jokes!

Fhemmmy:

No one says, the day is not very important, but what is the big deal who remind the other . . . .He is your man, you love him, and accepts his faults, remind him like 2 days before, okay, lemme teach you how to do it.

Let us assume your bday is February 1st. . . .Today is January 29th
So tonite: Darling, u always forget my B'day oh, and it hurts oh, so remember the next one is Feb 1st oh
Next day . . . . I will be another year older tomorrow hon
I am sure that man will not forget on that day.

Well, if you remind him and never show up on that day, then, that one get as he be, are you sure, he is not a Jehovah Witness man?

SA Lady:

@Poster please forgive him, men sometimes even forget their own birthday. They dont attach as much importance to this day. Sit him down and tell him how it makes you feel everytime you have to remind him of your birthday and make him understand how important this day is to you.

Try the following tricks

1. Get him into a culture of marking important dates in an annual calendar make sure everybody's birthday that's important to him is marked and that he actually does something on that birthday, even if its about giving those people a mere phone call, he's bound to get used to it,

2. Secretely save your birthday in his mobile phone and activate a reminder for 12am that should help

3. Spoil him rotten on his birthday that'll make him want to outdo you on your birthday

4. Visit this topic again on your next birthday nd tell us how it went. Remember he is just being a typical male Good Luck, 

iice:

Somehow, its the other way round for me

Spanishfly:



I'm sure you r talking like this 'cos u r a man. Let me put it the other way round, we have been dating for so long, years, I've never remembered your birthday but you always remembered mine. I promise to see you today, I never show up, call or even text I can't make it again a couple of times, what would you do in that case or how would u feel?

Fhemmmy:

There is nothing i can do.
BTW . . . . i have a policy "NEVER EXPECT, SO YOU DONT GET DISAPPOINTED" and that has worked for me so far.
I dont even remember my own b'day.
However, depending on you, i will do my best to remember, if i can, and if i forget, i will do my best to make it up. . . . .but if you so adamant about it, i rather walk

Fhemmmy:

I am being serious, instead of losing sleep over something that u dont have to.
For me, it is just another day that God has given me, and only me can decide if i wanna be happy cos some calls came in, or cos someone came to chop my cake with me or not, and i can decide to be miserable.
It is just another day . . . . . .