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| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by Chacal: 5:53pm On Feb 15, 2008 |
@ 4play, It's no rocket science. Shagging a UK/US dude without CDs affords em the opportunity of getting pregnant for him. Getting pregnant for him can/might/should lead em to marry him. Poverty is a bitch. . . . . all these schitzo are sometimes done with the backing of her parents. . .thats the most annoying part!!! Classic definition of ENTRAPMENT.  |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by 4Play(m): 6:08pm On Feb 15, 2008 |
@Chacal I dey talk of when I was still studying and living in Naija though I used to travel to the UK . Stuff like that happens to even people who have never traveled out of Naija anyway. I don't think it was "entrapment" but a case of them feeling there was a special relationship.Ok,if we had been together for a long while,that is understandable but we are talking of weeks here.That is why I pity Tuface Idibia,the poor guy has been suffering from Naija chics.  |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by Nobody: 6:10pm On Feb 15, 2008 |
See as AJ don finish us o! Chei say na our fault we come here when we still small.  AJ, why you dey treat us like this now? And nor be true say if u dey come NL you don reach to marry. Wes, HA and I still be small girls who dey talk like big people for net. For real life we might still make the mistakes teenagers dey make. Make you take am easy with us o. |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by Chacal: 6:16pm On Feb 15, 2008 |
@ 4play, LOL @ 2face, U are wicked!!!!!!!!!!!!! Naija chics? Please avoid em like a plague or always have Plan B, C and D. They have milked out all the useful semen outta 2face. He should learn to use protection. How many kids has he got now? 5 or 9? 2face might end up like FELA if he doesn't button up his fly. Naija babes will stop at nothing to stick on u like a leech as long as u travel in n out. |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by Gamine(f): 6:25pm On Feb 15, 2008 |
hmm hmm Me sef i no fit marry a Uk/US guy Naija for lyf! |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by 4Play(m): 6:26pm On Feb 15, 2008 |
No mind AJ.When Naija girls in secondary boarding school perfected the art of abortion using ol' dirty metal hangars,she no see am. @Chacal 2Face needs help.People keep blaming him but we know how these women are.How many girls did he impregnate before he became a star and how many after "African Queen"? Its not just him,its the scheming chics. |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by Nobody: 6:42pm On Feb 15, 2008 |
anyone who thinks naijachicks from naija are less likely to divorce and take the kids,think again. Most Nigerian divorced women I know here were brought from Naija. By the time a naija woman comes here,no do no do,she don become Americana and all the ills associated will begin to manifest 4 Play: Thank God I'm off the market any man or woman in this day and age that doesn't demand an HIV test before dipping their nacho in the salsa is playing ludo with their lives. People ought to be careful,we are in a different era entirely. |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by 4Play(m): 6:46pm On Feb 15, 2008 |
nwando: So hope no dey anyway Maybe the solution na to go back home and stay home |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by Chacal: 6:50pm On Feb 15, 2008 |
@ Gamine, Are u serious? Blimey. . . . .Are u aware your days in Nigeria are numbered? I keep counting down. Tick. . tock. . . tick. . . tock. . .tick. . . tock. @ 4play, Thinking about it. . . . You cannot blame 2face. These Niaja chics are devious, . . . . love portion, witchcraft, charms/jazz and everything to tie a man down. They sometimes spike drinks with powerful aphrodisiacs to have their devilish ways.  Kill a Naija based chic before u kill a 12 ft black mamba. @ Nwando, You have just hit the nail on the head. I despise those American/Brit wannabe Naija chics like crazzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzie. They get here and throw away their morals and values. . . . .The "I SHAN'T GREE "type. Within days, they have pierced nose, clit, and eyes like XERXES(300). Within weeks, they are demanding for equal rights in the house. Within months, they are moving out. . . . Divorce and they want half of ur stuffs. Its pure fuckery. . . . How do u explain a woman that spent 33 years in Nigeria and got a boob tattoo within weeks of getting to the UK? Impoverished adolescence or JUMP BY FORCE? |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by Gamine(f): 6:56pm On Feb 15, 2008 |
@Chacal Number your own days Leave me outta it! |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by Chacal: 7:03pm On Feb 15, 2008 |
@ Gamine, Lemme scheme the odds. Your odds of marrying these nationals. . . . UK based Nigerian. . . . . . .1/100 US based Nigerian. . . . . . .1/3 Naija based. . . . . . . . . . . .2/1 White Brit. . . . . . . . . . . . . 3/1 White American. . . . . . . . .5/1 Jamaican. . . . . . . . . . . . , 10/1 Somali. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .200/1 Afghan. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .300/1 |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by joshjosh(m): 7:11pm On Feb 15, 2008 |
AJ and Nwando you 2 are gems. keep it up. Thank God I'm off the market any man or woman in this day and age that does demand an HIV test before dipping their nacho in the salsa is playing ludo with their lives. People ought to be careful,we are in a different era entirely. this is very funny. nwando you are funny and very wise. i just added you to my all time favourite women list. God bless you. this is a serious matter though. |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by Gamine(f): 8:03pm On Feb 15, 2008 |
hmm i see the odds i see em At that rate, i will stay married to Jesus God is the Husband to the husbandless |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by Dreloaded(f): 8:30pm On Feb 15, 2008 |
2face doesnt deserve any pity, 4Play. If he doesnt sleep with those harlots, he wouldnt be in this predictament Where are D'banj's "babies"? I hear he makes his groupies take the morning after pill in his presence after each "session". Lmao. tuface should take lessons from the koko master. Rofl |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by Nobody: 8:55pm On Feb 15, 2008 |
Let them get married where they want as long they don't come screaming after a month about how the spouse has turned from kaki to leather! |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by almondjoy(f): 3:41am On Feb 16, 2008 |
Coming out of retirement to correct a few things. . . . . . nwando: Paying attention to the bolded letters. I cannot imagine even havin' sex with another dude in this ma lifetime again--knowing what I know now? Impossible. We can hang out and have pissing contest I say--but I will be damned if I have to see one more of those errrrrrrrrrrr--you know what a mean. It is not worth ma sanity at all. Infact, all I can say is thank God for health.They came with their spouses or they were married and brought over?  Please clarify. The ones that are divorcng are mostly those who met here. Is it realistic in your own opinion that a newly married spouse coming over to America, will just wake up and divorce his or her spouse? Especially when you know how long it takes to settle down and find out what the laws are to your benefit. It takes some people 10 years to learn how to drive not to talk of divorcing your spouse. If anyone is doing the divorcing, it is mostly the men---come up with one excuse or another to dump the babe. Not to say women do not do that--but not at the magnitude men do. Had a family friend with this same problem of "existing pregnancy" syndrome. Stated he had wired the phone in his house and eavesdropped on his pregnant wife confessing to book an appointment to confess "something"--that the child was not his-- to one of the catholic "born again" churches over here. Sent her packin' oooooooooooooh. The lady reached home, God knows what happened to the pregnancy--she ended up in a nut house--denied all the guy said happened over here--never recovered. I personally know the dude---  ----of course he is a nutter. Still unmarried at 52. Now who knows who is telling the truth? Like we were living with them. I say most of these Nigerians have mental problems after staying abroad too long without being married. You need a home person to get you back to ground zero. Even in some, cases the madness is incurable.Gba be! |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by almondjoy(f): 3:47am On Feb 16, 2008 |
michelin89: I am only advising you as ma Edo sister I love very much. You see all these guys here? Just go to Nigeria to get you a husband in the next 5 years or so. Because you will not be normal and you need a true "son of the soil" to get your head straight. On account of what "chacal" calls a notorious "shag history". Who dey shag who? After shagging yourselves--then you reject yourselves like taboo. At least before he starts learning how to drive and think of divorce--he should be ready to inherit like 5 children--his or not--and like 15 grandchildren! Adopt some put im name on all the birth certificates! Forget these hustlers a beg! You may be small girls now--but you depreciate even faster. Then to make marrers worse you are independent, educated and have an "opinion" on every subject under the sun? See as them dey cuss you for Nairaland--you think say e go different abroad? With Naija guys--you have a small lee way--due the oppressive nature of the environment. These ones over here? Lai lai! Goodluck a say. The guys here will never take you seriously. But the ones in Nigeria are looking for hope and survival opportunities from poverty. Help those ones instead. I say go to your village during Christmas and shop around. Forget these ones here when akata and jammos do deal with finish. At least in Nigeria na condition make crawfish bend. So they need more help and you can pardon them for their ignorance and stupidity--for they do no know any better. I prefer those ones. These ones here that claim to know too much are extremely psychotic only good as one night stands. Not marriage materials at all. If you hook up with them--you are likely to be divorced in like 2 years or less--because you are both psychotic! |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by almondjoy(f): 3:56am On Feb 16, 2008 |
And you ma dear are a very smart young lady. You understand perfectly. As you can see "chacal" is not a normal fellow. No need to address him further! |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by almondjoy(f): 4:03am On Feb 16, 2008 |
And what did you think a was discussing with you? It is very related to the issues discussed since they are female cousins best suited for your needs. Born and bred like you. Infact, you stated that you were born in Nigeria but half baked and bred in the UK there--the most dangerous of all combinations--highly psychotic---without any sense of general purpose. Yes! You need to stick to your own kind over there. Stop going to visit Nigeria with their unwashed drosses there. Stick to the clean ones over there in the UK first. Just get HIV and STD panels on yourselves before you commence your activities! At least Nigerians do not have the basic opportunities to get by. Most HIV cases there can come up as a result of a simple blood transfusion or needle sticks just out of our careless and selfish ways our government like things to be over there. In cases we see over here------living dangerously all in the name of "catching fun"! |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by Nobody: 4:13am On Feb 16, 2008 |
almondjoy: almond,both us have lived in America for a while and like you I can write a book on Nigerians. A relative of mine went home and married a lady from my hometown,I know the day they did the traditional wedding. The girl arrived here and story had it that she wore her jeans to bed,would not allow the poor guy touch her,infact she refused to unpack her bags. The poor guy tried to be understanding thinking it was culture shock or getting used to being married only for him to return from work one day and she had left a note saying she had moved on. I'm talking less than 3 weeks after arrival,no one knew she had a lover in Florida and just merely used my relative to come over. How about the one that left her husband for the next door neighbor a few months after her arrival. Or one that was on her matrimonial bed with an akata boy while the husband (in your noble profession) was working double shift and returned unexpectedly. This is someone I know personally. Nigerian men going home to marry should know that some of those girls are not as innocent as they think. In my university days in Naija there were known escorts aka professional call girls who would return and count their naira notes on their[i] vono [/i] beds unashamedly. I'm not speaking hear say. Like I said earlier any man marrying from Naija that doesn't insist on seeing a negative HIV test, infact 2 from 2 different labs,na him sabi. I told same to my own brothers and cousins. |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by almondjoy(f): 4:19am On Feb 16, 2008 |
Gamine: Good girl! Don't even look in that direction no marrer how desperate you are. This na train + ship wreck combined!  4 Play: As for you, it has long been established on Nairaland that your mental status remains questionable. Are we surprised? We are still trying to determine your gender and sexual preference on Nairaland, so your own case is in a different category. To be discussed at a later date.A say leave Nigerians. Na condition make crawfish bend. If you lived there too--you will be the chief abortionist with a chemist in Nnewi. That place can force you to sell your soul to the devil for less than 30 pieces of silver. I can forgive them for anything they do over there because of many reasons we have discussed endlessly on this forum. But you guys over here--lai lai! You are all mad. I say you will sit here on Nairaland for the next 10-20 years recycling yourselves without any seriousness. Na only a man or woman from Nigerian can cure you of all the impurities--you guys have been ingesting over the years. See as una dey behave? Even then--you guys pose a risk to them more than they do to you. Theirs's out of ignorance--yours out of education.Trying desperately to keep this subject clean without profanities. Kai! This is torture! So this is how being born again feels like? Would not wish it on ma worst enemy. We shall see. I am definitely out of ma elements. |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by Nobody: 4:23am On Feb 16, 2008 |
joshjosh: Thanks dear. I encourage any Nigerian men in UK or America to find wives from the Nigerian ladies already here. That dream of marrying St Angelina from umudioka is an illusion. Some of them have a different agendum |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by Nobody: 4:37am On Feb 16, 2008 |
Almond did I hear you say sometime ago you lived in Houston? Haven't you heard of the lesbian rendezvous even at babyshowers amongst Nigerian married women in Houston? Or the wife swapping stories? Going to Naija to marry will not solve any problems. There are good women in Naija and there are good women here. In the same vein there are wayward women in Naija and here also. It's actually cheaper for the man in the long run to find someone here So if it doesn't work out (God forbid) you won't be crying over the broken heart plus plane ticket to the west, all her monetary support while in Naija,trips to embassy at your expense , $400 per month phone bills,all the money you spent to polish up her appearance on arrival. |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by almondjoy(f): 4:40am On Feb 16, 2008 |
nwando: Who do these men pick these brides? From shara joints? What do you expect? Having said all that, it is not the norm that such things happen like the weather forecast on the news or radio. The highest percentages of successful marriages recorded over here or "abroad" is that of both spouses coming over together, then a spouse going to Nigeria to get married. I attend parties, conventions, and a lot of Nigerian functions over here and what a see is enough to make ma generalization. When a was in the university over there-in Nigeria, you need to see what these so called dudes from abroad come and do there with their 419 dollars. And you come back to that same place you have defiled looking for a bride? When you spit on the earth, the earth will spit you out by giving you the most "barren" from it's land. It is always the men coming up with the stories. Did you ever get to the "ladies" side of the story? What you will find will shock you. When men go to Nigeria and frequent "joints" and pick a wife because she stroked you in the right places for a "few fists of dollars" what do expect? If you and I were to go and pick spouses from Nigeria--you betcha we know where to look.---You start from the family background. You go and get yourself a runaway or stowaway who is probably from Seme border masquerading as a Nigerian because she "dances" privately for you for less than $5 a day? Of course you will get what you paid for.Like I wrote initially-I have faith in the God that I worship that if your hands are clean--you can never be visited by such. Ask them to search their conscience. You are only reaping what you sow. If you think because someone comes from an impoverished home--you make her your sex slave for your private and public entertainment--this our God is waiting to reward you with what you like best. Most of these guys that go home have messed around with under-aged females here and over there in Nigeria. I say you will pay. I have never encountered all these things you are mentioning nwando. Just one case I know of--I did not need to find out the woman's version of the story. The man was a certified nutter I say. Had previously impregnated like 3 women who refused to "remove am" in Nigeria and abandoned them--like over 20 years ago. These women struggled alone for years with the stigma of fatherless/husbandless situations. Probably placed curses on the dude. Went and attempted to get married to a "virgin bride" in Nigeria and what happened? Come and see confusion. He started talking all kinds of rubbish. Now he has no choice but to go and reclaim those 3 children--from 3 different mothers he abandoned in Nigeria to give them a better life over here. How can such a dude find peace on this earth? Don't get me wrong, for women do the same things. But the men are worse and more callous! They are more psychotic and can they lie or what? I never fall for their cheap strip joint stories. When I see what I see around me everyday. |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by spoilt(f): 4:44am On Feb 16, 2008 |
nwando: ha! na wa oh! |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by JAZZYJ1(f): 4:50am On Feb 16, 2008 |
My rhymes are so sick they make people heavily vomit so quite they won’t even comment. It’s so real with the way that i move, It’s like a cool breeze without moving all smooth. I’m clear like the wind you’ll never be able to hear me, I got four glocks now i got a reason you should fear me. If you don’t i’ll put a 9 into your chest you won’t survive they’ll end up putting you to rest. It’s a mess when i arrive no one even says hi, I walk on with a quick little paste i don’t even say bye. Watch out i have the eye like a hawk i swoop down and hunt for my prey. That just made entire day. You won’t like it you won’t even stay. My fault i shouldn’t be addicted to most of these things, i’ll fight you once he taps the bell and it rings. Knocked out with a glance at my fists, Ohh snap look at him he’s all pissed. Forget your rhymes that’s why half of don’t make sense, I got mad vision i don’t need my contact lens. I could break tens without moving and flench with a tense sorry i got more raps and less too crush leave you in hell i’ll beat the christ outta of you with nothing but the material made out of the cell. Peace out my peeps. |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by Nobody: 4:57am On Feb 16, 2008 |
spoilt: I heard an African paper carried the story,I can't find it online but I heard this from a reliable source , resident in Houston. |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by almondjoy(f): 5:00am On Feb 16, 2008 |
nwando: Of course we know all that--there are good and bad women anywhere in this world. But read the topic again--it has to do with ---Why ------prefer----from------Nigeria abi? Polish who? Don't you watch Nigerian movies? Every bush meat seller has acrylic nails let me tell you. When a visited I was impressed to see guys getting manicures and pedicures in a local salon in Benin-city there Lesbian married women, wife swapping? Of course--that is what you get when you marry the ones that have been here for donkey years. They have learned all kinds of new entertainment and new sports. Do you hear of such things in Nigeria? I say these are old cargos who have roamed about for donkey years with all kinds of men from different races and planets. What do you expect?I say I will go to Nigeria anyday if I were single. I would have been crazier than this if I were single and have lived here in America for like 10 years. I definitely do not need another crazy fellow in ma life I swear. Okay. Whenever you go to parties over here and you see single ladies and single men--which one of them can you introduce a loved one? I have never seen any. Just have a conversation with any of them and within like 15 minutes, you will understand why most are still single just like you see on Nairaland. Another family friend over here, a man---decided when he was going to finally get married--after playing around for like 25 years in America said he had to "purge" himself of all the madness for like 2 years. He locked himself in the house here and did not visit any of his past "passions" after two failed marriages to our akata sisters and 4 kids. One Nigerian lady from London finally got him straight. Okay--that's an option. UK/US marriages. But you can never be interested in the ones under your nose. I asked the couple who was recently blessed with twins why they did not find spouses in their respective UK and US and they laughed so hard--that I did not have to pry any further. I knew the reason. I see it everyday around me.This guy visited his sister in London--saw this girl and told her he would be back to marry her. The girl thought he was joking. The next thing she knew she saw a plane ticket in the mail--invitation to come over to the US. Even me cannot refuse such an offer--for the guy meant business. The girl just grab am--being in her 30s. Before we say Hey!--Marriage in Nigeria. Saying Jack Robinson was to long before the twins appeared. See them now? Who knows about the future? But for now, it looks good.  God will never give you what you do not deserve a say! I only call God's name when I feel it matters on Nairaland. You just have to look in the right place and with a good heart--not an arrogant one--you will be channeled to the right source. Evil can never attract good no matter how opposites attract.It does not happen like that. So if you find people like these bizzare stories--tell them to search their conscience---they need to go make right the wrongs they have done--not a born again issue! Please let them dudes and gals go and take care of all the abandoned children finding themselves to motherless babies homes over there. |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by almondjoy(f): 5:10am On Feb 16, 2008 |
JAZZY J: Welcome new 14 year old oyinbo Nairaland poster. Another Nairaland wonder. Something should really be done about this multip-user screen names on nairaland I swear! |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by almondjoy(f): 5:16am On Feb 16, 2008 |
Thanks josh! It is a very serious matter indeed. A topic that will invariably affect us all in one way or the other. |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by almondjoy(f): 5:20am On Feb 16, 2008 |
Better for her. If you asked her for more details--besides the arrogance and shallowness--you will find out that he has mental problems too. Thanks hon'! |
| Re: Why Do Singles In the U.S/U.K Still Prefers To Go And Marry From Naija by almondjoy(f): 5:26am On Feb 16, 2008 |
I rest ma case! So, like nwando has written you guys should stop your noiseless chantings--the cows not only came home but just entered the pot of soup--on the way to the stomach! Always a credible witness anyday nwando! You always speak the truth ma dear. And on that note, duty calls. It has been a sheer pleasure as always! |
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