Let's share experiences and idea about how best to deal with step kids, I know this is is a big issue to anybody who has one or find themselves in this kind of relationship. Lets share any advice for anybody planning to go into such relationship.

I fall into this category of people, I love my wife so much and won't mind staying and keeping her happy for the rest of her life. I married her because when there was nobody, when d going was toughest, she was the only one who stood and believe in me. Even though we may not be anyone's favourite couple, I know she loves me 100% and would go any length to make me happy and make any impossible becomes possible. I'm not a lazy man and I don't depend on anybody for my survival but she's the d tree behind my garden so to say and anything I have will always smell of her cause she took the hardest step for me, which seems to be the foundation of my building.

But living together now as a couple is our dream come true but her 13yr old girl is d hardest thing to deal with as she's more than lazy, disrespectful even to her mother. I have tried my hardest to love her but it seems she's getting worst and her attention seeking attitude is escalating daily. She feels her mother is giving too much attention to d man who makes he happy after an abusive relationship from her father. Her mother sometimes get so mad that she would smack her even though that's illegal where we are.
Now I hardly talk to her, I mind my business and only talk to her when it's necessary. I get along well with d younger brother who is 10yrs and can do anything for hm..kids here can even set u up as I was advice by a fellow countryman.....but I'm having a second thought about the relationship because of her but I wouldn't want to hurt mum for whatever reason.

Share your experiences and how u deal with it. Did u quit the relationship or did u work it through ?

Can you try and work it through. Have a heartfelt discussion with her. Ask if there's anything she would like you to do that you're not doing. Also discuss with your wife

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look a the nonsense you are doing on someone's thread


what stops you from opening your own thread to do this things
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Op you are actually shooting yourself on the foot by not finding the girls soft spot


you should relate to her like your biological daughter, win their hearts and you have their mother swept off her feet

gift them little items your pocket can afford


pay more attention to the kids more than their mother when they are around, kids needs more attention than adults


try make them to be fond of you and seek for your present even when you are not around

haven tried all these, they becomes as humble as dove and take your instructions
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Op if you're with her then she's not a single parent, but you need to exert your authority at the same time finding a way to be gentle. Hope it all works out.

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Op you are actually shooting yourself on the foot by not finding the girls soft spot


you should relate to her like your biological daughter, win their hearts and you have their mother swept off her feet

gift them little items your pocket can afford


pay more attention to the kids more than their mother when they are around, kids needs more attention than adults


try make them to be fond of you and seek for your present even when you are not around

haven tried all these, they becomes as humble as dove and take your instructions
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but not as easy as u would think eh....she is not loyal to her own mother...