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Re: Mistakes Men Make While Choosing A Wife In Nigeria by Emimade: 9:18am On Sep 09, 2017
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Re: Mistakes Men Make While Choosing A Wife In Nigeria by donqx: 9:46am On Sep 09, 2017
hmmm
Re: Mistakes Men Make While Choosing A Wife In Nigeria by Maxvasia(m): 9:55am On Sep 09, 2017
TopGunFighter:
guy I really don't think you attract a woman that's a replica of yourself.. me I was a wild beast for the better part of my youthful age! I have been in not more than 4 relationships and and I am 27yrs meanwhile had sex with not less than 30 ladies(dont judge me o_) but the lady I am about to marry is a complete opposite of me she's been with only one guy and she still regrets and am wondering if this woman could just be pretending until I met a confirm F++k boy who told me that the girl is truly an angel , I used her picture as my dp and my cousin called me and asked where her knew that girl from and I was like tofay is the day I hear the truth but she had nothing but praises for her....
Lol....can anything sound more naive. Just wait for it grin
Re: Mistakes Men Make While Choosing A Wife In Nigeria by michony505(m): 10:25am On Sep 09, 2017
StarUp:
MARRIAGE 101​

MARRIAGE is like a shoe. When you wear oversize be ready to drag it along through out life, and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the pains through out life." One thing about marriage is that you don't drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is.

That is why I thought it necessary to write you this letter.

Dear Singles,
When you are ready to buy your own shoe please take note of these three things:

1. PHYSICAL APPEARANCE : Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that aligns with your values and belief, the one who you meet at your life's journey. It is important to know where you're going in life before you think of getting a wife.

2. POSITION: All sizes of shoes are not placed in the same place.
There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sport footwear, snickers etc. We have Children sizes, young people's sizes and the adult sizes. Know where to get your own shoe. Your size cannot be everywhere my brother, your type cannot be everywhere my sister. You cannot be a Christian, and be looking for a wife material at a club. Your wife or husband can't just be everywhere.

Stick to your values and therein you shall find someone like you, but when your values are not defined anyone can just match you. Discover yourself and define your values

3. PERCEPTIONS: In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try the shoe before you buy. This is why it is important to seek guidance and counseling, from people who have bought shoes before or are into the business of directing people to the right shoes (pastors, marriage counsellors and Relationship coaches).
And most importantly to avoid much time wasting, simply consult the shoe manufacturer to tell you your size (Almighty God).

"You do not prepare for wedding, you prepare for marriage."

Ladies these days get so motivated when they attend wedding and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy. Wait!!! It is not just the wedding oh. The wedding is just one day. After the wedding WHAT NEXT?

Finally, it is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like or can purchase it.
Ask questions

-Where is this shoe made from? (Background)

-What's the size (Values)

-How much (His/Her interest)

-How long will it last (His/Her Character)

-Who made it? (Is she/He of the same faith This is compatibility)

-Will it match me? (This is whether he/she love you and will

accept you the way you are)

Dear one, remember many are dragging their foot and they
would hardly reach their destinies, many are feeling endless pains and wish he could pull off the shoes but no way!!! I have seen people with beautiful shoes and when they show you their foot, you will see scars. Beloved, it is not about the physical, it is the size, you can't know the size from afar so come close, build a relationship first but remember 'you are not permitted to try it before you buy it'.
And for those who have purchased the wrong shoes, you can still make it your size again if you'd consult the manufacturer and let Him have His way in your marriage.
Re: Mistakes Men Make While Choosing A Wife In Nigeria by TopGunFighter: 11:04am On Sep 09, 2017
Maxvasia:
Lol....can anything sound more naive. Just wait for it grin
I will keep you posted if something crappy ever pops up
Re: Mistakes Men Make While Choosing A Wife In Nigeria by TopGunFighter: 11:17am On Sep 09, 2017
chatinent:
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Re: Mistakes Men Make While Choosing A Wife In Nigeria by ofuonyebi: 1:27pm On Sep 09, 2017
Marriage is a combination of factors of life..

reality and fake...the good and the ugly.. enclosed as one into a package

it takes a long union to separate the grains of true lasting affections from the chaff..

this is why some marriage collapse so early..

the success or otherwise of it is not basically dependent on your professed statistics..
Re: Mistakes Men Make While Choosing A Wife In Nigeria by chiamaka4g: 4:33pm On Sep 09, 2017
Marry her because she prays and she belongs to every society in church.
And oh! Your Jezebel sisters like that of the Ooni also prefer her. Nonsense.
Re: Mistakes Men Make While Choosing A Wife In Nigeria by Chiscomax(m): 4:37pm On Sep 09, 2017
TINALETC3:
grin grin grin, am a baby gal nt bro grin, no experience, stl very single,sometimes, pple say I talk more dan my age grin


hmm. .. baby girl, alright. I thought otherwise.
Re: Mistakes Men Make While Choosing A Wife In Nigeria by Nobody: 4:56pm On Sep 10, 2017
goingape1:
I keep my stand with number 3 undecided

any woman who is not a virgin is a useless woman and deserve a useless Man!


a woman will open her shiit hole for someone preek to enter sometime in her life and you want me to go that same shiit hole? undecided


I rather have my package new than to use an second hand product.



as for the question you ask "who then will marry the one you deflower" of cause some stvpid idiot will marry your waste product!
I see your comment already wounding haters of truth. Anybody is free to marry the ladies they've been fornicating with. Yes a f4,uck boy should be happily married to a prostitute or a fellow f4.uck girl & let them continue enjoying their sexual life. What I don't like is people saying every other innocent virgin single out there don't deserve to be with a good virgin like them. A boy of 34 years told me how he's been fucc.king countless girls & some of them gift him in return for being a good f4ucker. He can sezx for 1hour & releases severally in rounds courtesy with help of sex drugs. Once he sees a girl the next thing is sex. This is someone without a 1000 naira to his name. All efforts to make him drop this life style & get delivered is on deaf ears & keep saying punnany is very sweet . I told him look these girls are using you as a sex machine to satisfy their insatiable pussy just like you with a snake prick. He doesn't use condom & his mentality is to get one of the girls pregnant before marriage & all these years non of them don get belle lol.

Imagine someone like this my friend marries tomorrow & there is issue, the poor innocent wife wouldn't know her husband has strafed away his youthful life physically/ spiritually. Yes with God all things are possible. It works for some don't mean it should be the norm. 10/100 not pass mark. Same is true for the ladies

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Re: Mistakes Men Make While Choosing A Wife In Nigeria by goingape1: 5:17pm On Sep 10, 2017
eee777:

I see your comment already wounding haters of truth. Anybody is free to marry the ladies they've been fornicating with. Yes a f4,uck boy should be happily married to a prostitute or a fellow f4.uck girl & let them continue enjoying their sexual life. What I don't like is people saying every other innocent virgin single out there don't deserve to be with a good virgin like them. A boy of 34 years told me how he's been fucc.king countless girls & some of them gift him in return for being a good f4ucker. He can sezx for 1hour & releases severally in rounds courtesy with help of sex drugs. Once he sees a girl the next thing is sex. This is someone without a 1000 naira to his name. All efforts to make him drop this life style & get delivered is on deaf ears & keep saying punnany is very sweet . I told him look these girls are using you as a sex machine to satisfy their insatiable pussy just like you with a snake prick. He doesn't use condom & his mentality is to get one of the girls pregnant before marriage & all these years non of them don get belle lol.

Imagine someone like this my friend marries tomorrow & there is issue, the poor innocent wife wouldn't know her husband has strafed away his youthful life physically/ spiritually. Yes with God all things are possible. It works for some don't mean it should be the norm. 10/100 not pass mark. Same is true for the ladies
very true!

and to top the matter up, one of the ladies will definitely have some deadly disease which he will surely pass down to his wife if he peradventure marry.
Re: Mistakes Men Make While Choosing A Wife In Nigeria by Nobody: 5:55pm On Sep 10, 2017
TINALETC3:
grin grin grin, am a baby gal nt bro grin, no experience, stl very single,sometimes, pple say I talk more dan my age grin

Obviously, you are talking more than your age. Are you sure you are not married? Cuz you talk like a 40 year old woman with 5 children lol.
Re: Mistakes Men Make While Choosing A Wife In Nigeria by ADIEMUS(f): 10:05pm On Sep 27, 2017
goingape1:
I keep my stand with number 3 undecided

any woman who is not a virgin is a useless woman and deserve a useless Man!


a woman will open her shiit hole for someone preek to enter sometime in her life and you want me to go that same shiit hole? undecided


I rather have my package new than to use an second hand product.



as for the question you ask "who then will marry the one you deflower" of cause some stvpid idiot will marry your waste product!
really?? what about ladies that were raped
I believe virgin girls deserve virgin men no be only you sabi better thing!
If at the end I keep my virginity till I am ripe for marriage,I will not marry a non virgin man.I hate cheating.
Re: Mistakes Men Make While Choosing A Wife In Nigeria by goingape1: 11:02pm On Sep 27, 2017
ADIEMUS:

really?? what about ladies that were raped
I believe virgin girls deserve virgin men no be only you sabi better thing!
If at the end I keep my virginity till I am ripe for marriage,I will not marry a non virgin man.I hate cheating.
if you can actually keep your virginity!
Re: Mistakes Men Make While Choosing A Wife In Nigeria by Nobody: 9:27am On Sep 28, 2017
LordKO:
@op

Your number one point made you to appear parochial. Being a nightclub goer (I hold no brief for the addicted one's though) doesn't make one irresponsible. Also, one's persona (dressing sense, not holding brief for people that goes around half or fully naked) shouldn't be a yardstick to ascertain one's nobility. Attributes (good or bad) always lies beneath persona. So, your number point is invalid.

On your second point, believe you me, the importance of physical beauty can never be undermined - by the way beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and of course, the eyes must eat and feel filled up first before the stomach. My point here is that beauty is as important as good attributes when choosing a wife, this will always ensure sustainable loyalty. I don't see the good in a woman that has good attributes but repulses me physically.

About your number 4, even though it's not a bad idea to go down to a lady's hometown to inquire about her before making a final decision, yet, you shouldn't forget that people do change either for good or bad. Therefore, personally, I would rather make my decision based on a lady's current attitudes than how good or bad she was said to be from her hometown.

Your number 5, 6 and 7 are on point. Only feeble-minded people allows others - parents in particular or other people in general - to decide a fate for them. Actually, it takes a conscientious person to live life at the periphery of conventionalism.

From my own perspective, the easiest way to choose the right life partner is for one to achieve self-realization first. When you achieved self-realization, you'll find it easy to understand what constitute the ambiguous word "love" to you and based on that you will lookout for someone that possesses the good physical and innate attributes that made up your constituency. There's always "the right one" for everyone, what's not obtainable is the "perfect one" and no sane person look for that, because perfection is only of the creator of the universe.



You are smart.
And I am impressed.
I hope you find someone for you.

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Re: Mistakes Men Make While Choosing A Wife In Nigeria by LordKO(m): 10:20am On Sep 28, 2017
Alero3Arubi:

You are smart.
And I am impressed.
I hope you find someone for you.

Thank you, I appreciate the compliment.

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