Lalas247:


No oh
The last ex in prison right now for stealing my money ( and you know how I feel about that ) hope he stays there

The other one married but still fuvking around .... y will I talk to such

In alll ans is NOPE another even one .. we ain't friends ... we are hi n bye see ya later type situationship

Mynd44:

Weird, I am friends with al three exes I have and saying I love you is not weird. The same way I love a lot of my friends.

I mean imagine chatting with Caracta or Ujsizzle and I tell them "I love you" my wife sees it and starts stressing. Heck, my initial reaction will be LMAOOOOO

Lalas247:

Explain companionship
Or
Friends with benefits :::: also doesn't work someone will fall in love and all hell breaks loose

supersystemsng:



Wow...You've not experienced it obviously...You're missing... It's as sweet as love itself...

Lalas247:

Hian
Investigating ke na wa ... no trust now
You are right quitting career for a man is a no no ... that's another thing too, when the family supports infidelity so sad
Very valid point by forgiving he may do way worse so she should do what is best for her .. just don't want to give her the wrong advice as I am not married so don't know how it feels to be in that situation but after reading your story
I get what you mean now

Sorry o hope you are now in a better place and happy marriage is a risky business we can only hope and pray we are with the right spouse

Lalas247:

Kikiki why u dey yab me like this
So basically just someone there in your space no real commitment I don't get u

Lalas247:

Explain companionship
Or
Friends with benefits :::: also doesn't work someone will fall in love and all hell breaks loose

Jaqenhghar:

FWB like most relationships have rules. Focus on why you both are fùcking. I strongly reccomend fùcking once then dont do it again. frequent sex brings about feelings

GratefulHeart23:


I'm happier now and in a more better place. Some marriages are not just worth it my sister. People will only tell her to keep praying for him and endure whatever comes her way coz it's the man's world, he can do as he pleases. He can infects her with diseases and gets away with it, after all she's married to him and her life should revolve around him.

Jaqenhghar:

FWB like most relationships have rules. Focus on why you both are fùcking. I strongly reccomend fùcking once then dont do it again. frequent sex brings about feelings

Lalas247:

Kikiki why u dey yab me like this
So basically just someone there in your space no real commitment I don't get u

Lalas247:

Oga sir
Una expert in this field or wah
But trust me it never ends well one person starts getting jealous or wants more
Maybe topic for another day

Jaqenhghar:


LMAO
when it comes to human beings nothing is certain. The best remedy for me is not to even venture into it altogether. Ill share some other tips when we talk

supersystemsng:



Stop misleading her... This is not what i mean my goodness...Must everything be sex?

GratefulHeart23:


Hers is just a chat, mine was worse, I went through hell. I used to work in the South South till I got married and have a baby for a Lagosian Igbo man who not only frustrated me but instigated friends, families and parents against me till I quit the job to move in with him as the company has no branch where I could function in Lagos. That was the worst mistake I would ever make.

Within 4 months, my savings was gone coz he was always taking from me with the empty promises that he'll pay back. I was broke, tattered and wretched. The day I went through his phone was the great revelation of my life, this man sleeps around recklessly, the women were so many, he spends lavishly on them, spend most of the days he told he had travelled with them leaving me and my child to starve in an environment we have nobody. He would make calls to his girlfriends in Igbo language right in my presence coz I'm Yoruba who doesn't understand Igbo but my instincts always tells me when this happens.

At some point I was so bittered I had to send some of his chats to myself via mail from his phone and send it to his family members ad evidence when they kept defending him. My dear, nothing happened ooo, they only told me to keep praying for him, even my parents threatened to disown me if I divorce him coz they're elders in church.

As luck would have it, I met a man who changed my story from sorry to sweet song. He helped me get a good job and a small flat close to my working place to avoid Island holdup and stress, my son stays with me and I can afford his school fees now, we only go to his father's house one or two free weekends in a month. My new man is more elderly and married too so he doesn't put any pressure on me and sex with him is better than the one with my hubby.

Your friend can either stay with her hubby and do whatever makes her happy if she's from a funny home and background like mine where ladies are expected to endure sufferings in their marriage or she should quit and never look back coz cheating husbands usually don't change, all they do is bring out the worse in you.

Jaqenhghar:

I was responding to her post and not you nah.
Easy man.. mislead like how?

supersystemsng:


As a guy you know what i was talking about and you managed to bastardize it...anyway we're brothers, it's okay...

I didn't mean companionship how you put it, and i don't want her mind colored by flawed descriptives

Lalas247:

You never said those word to me though
Lol @ I can actually picture u doing that laugh @ bolded

Pidginwhisper:
South African Women no dey like Wahala...dem go just walk like say nothing happen..na e make me like my Wife, since she don dey naija for 2yrs if I do something wey pain her, she go just dey look me. Na the guilt go make me go beg her and we are good again

kimbraa:
Your husband was cheating on you with reckless abandon without even caring for you and his child but was rather using up your savings on his series of girlfriends. Here you are, dating another woman's husband who's footing your bills and may or maynot be as nice as he's to you to the wife, and you're happy you found yourself a good man.

How will other women leave your man when you can't leave another woman's property?. Karma is a Bìtch!, just look at what married couples have reduced themselves to. Don't you ever feel you're in-between another woman's happiness just like the whòres your husband was sleeping with were on yours?. Does your conscious ever judge you that you're on the wrong path? Cause indeed you're on the wrong path.

You better advice yourself 'cause nothing good comes out of dating a married man.

dingbang:
seun oya ban mynd44 ...

He said you are a demon

GratefulHeart23:


Thanks Madam, I haven't told you I want him back or want his gfs to leave him. They can have him to themselves, I'm happy with my new job (it's Govt owned anyway) and my once in a blue moon man. Who cares who sleep with who these days? That you're faithful to a man doesn't mean someone else won't sleep with him.

If you're in my shoes, you'll throw away the offer coz the man is asking you out and go about begging friends for money or submit your CV to U-connect or other recruiting firm begging for a teller or transaction officer job and watch them say it to your face that you're too qualified for the job coz you have two M.Scs even though you're desperate for it. Would you clean a fast food with a wage not enough to feed your son, they don't even pay you on time until you're almost crying for it.

Madam Saint, if you've not walked in people's shoes, learn to read comments and ignore, after all you're not Lala.247 I was talking to. No need to quote me and rant your nonsense coz life has been fair to you.

kimbraa:
You and the girls who go about sleeping with married men for financial/material gains hold same mentality. I think you deserved what you got from your husband 'cause you were possibly sleeping with married men before he came into the picture and you still are 'cause you can't fend for yourself and a child you brought into the world. You want a comfortable life at the expense of another woman's husband.

Wait 'till his wife figures you out. That's why when they disgrace your likes I don't feel sympathy. I'm not a saint, but I don't sleep with married men for any reason. I'd rather do those menial jobs than be the reason any home would break. "Let no man put asunder in what God has joined together" you're going against that scripture and such actions backfires. Anyway, when the man is tired of fùcking and paying your bills he's bound to dump you for a newer pussy.

Lalas247:
So I have a friend whose been married for 3 years now she has a daughter, she is Southafrican but her husband is Nigerian Yoruba guy...
She went through his laptop where she found messages to an old fling back in Nigeria he told the lady he Loves Her
Long story short she now want to leave him because she said it's the same as cheating even though the guy has begged ans swore he hasn't been with anyone else since they got married.

Thought please...

Cc mynd44 lalasticlala

sekxyqueen:

what if the guy is a chronic cheat, ,and maybe gives her one dangerous disease like that??isn't it better she leaves the marriage cos certainly she is no longer comfortable with the marriage.

loswhite:
dumb girl, hw is I love u on a chat message equal to a chronic cheat? Have u not said I love u to someone before other than ur partner? If we go thru ur chat message are we not going to see some flirty chat? Does that mean u are a prostitute? Take a chill pill jor

Nafizzey:
Why will she leave over this trivial issue. By the way I love your DP if your actually the one..

ThisKC:
She should've waited for concrete evidence against him, it's all too watery like this.

Lalas247:
So I have a friend whose been married for 3 years now she has a daughter, she is Southafrican but her husband is Nigerian Yoruba guy...
She went through his laptop where she found messages to an old fling back in Nigeria he told the lady he Loves Her
Long story short she now want to leave him because she said it's the same as cheating even though the guy has begged ans swore he hasn't been with anyone else since they got married.

Thought please...

Cc mynd44 lalasticlala

Mynd44:
This is funny sha.

One of the most inportant things people have to understand before getting married is that your partner is not the last person you will be attracted to, not the last person you will fall in love with and not the last person you will want to have sex with. If you can accept this and also see that you are not the last person your partner will love , you can move forward.

While the information you gave is vague but telling someone you love person or still love them is NOT cheating. It is you admitting how you feel. Now if he choose to act on those feelings, it is different kettle of fish.

But then there are two things to (sacarstically) consider here.

Men are scum: See all men are cheats and disgusting dogs and you can't trust any of us so that man is obviously thrash

Yourba men are demons: She married a yoruba demon . It is said that the only marriage a yoruba man is faithful in is an open marriage.

Blueberrie:


but it's not just anybody else, it's somebody he once had a relationship with. Would you be ok if ur wife did the same thing with her ex-boyfriends?