Oyindidi:
Why do I have the huge to insult you for your last sentence.
That girl is wicked for hating your family for no reason. Where was your wife when they were training you? Weak men everywhere.

AuroraB:
And every of these small online advisers have condemned the lady! See 'dump her' 'call off the wedding'
Nobody should bring his or her relationship problems on here again, marriage especially, Chai! You go fear . See them Internet warriors!
I have relatives living in the same city with me, I have not visited in 4yrs. So, not visiting a suitor's sister would mean hate? I laugh
Op, better mind the advice you'll take from here ooooo
Jambites dey this NL too. You see them on FP on a regular

Lomantics:


He came online to seek for advice, 90% of us said he should leave her i hope he adheres..
I wonder what has happened to sitting the lady down and asking her why she is so "unruly and rude" then he can make a decision from there.

Oyindidi:
Why do I have the huge to insult you for your last sentence.
That girl is wicked for hating your family for no reason. Where was your wife when they were training you?Weak men like my dad,uncles&male cousins everywhere.

elektra:


How does she express this hatred?
Does she get visibly angry? Does she yell at you for talking to them?
I want to know because one of the reasons you feel she hates your family is because she has never visited your sister.
My brother's wife has never visited me without my brother but I have never felt that she does not like me, in fact we respect each other very much.
Also she had not visited your family before you got married, were you fine with that? She might not know that you expect her to visit your sister since you never indicated so during courtship.
You have not stated that she has disrespected them in any way she just isn't making an effort to get close to them. Is that right? In that case she might just be the type that like to mind her business in marriage.
You said she met your family only once before the traditional marriage. Since you want the type of woman that is very interactive with your family, I feel you should have created more opportunities for her to spend time with your family before you got married.

amliftedhigher:
Good morning wonderful nairalanders.

I Am having a very delicate family issues now. I am an only son of my family and 5 sisters all married, since I brought my wife to be to them they all love her with passion and they keep telling me to take good care of the girl, they keep warning me not to treat her bad.

My sister love my Wife with passion including my aged mother but my wife to be in return hates them openly to me.

She doesn't like me mention them before her or discuss any thing with them. But she adores her family so much. We have finished traditional marriage remaining church wedding which is next two weeks from today.

During our preparations my family has noticed her long mute with them in issues of our wedding arrangement, they ask me but I told them that my wife is a shy type that doesn't talk too much but I was lying.

N/B they have not done anything evil to her and they will not think about it because they all fear me but my confusion Now is why my wife hates them? One of my sister lives in the same city with my wife but she hardly visits her.

My fellow comrades please what do I do? I can't hate my sisters because they and their husbands train me in the university . I came from a poor home but seeing the love I have for education all My sisters and their husbands swear that I must attend university . My God's grace I am working in one of the best organization in the country now am comfortable. Do I chase my family away now because of a woman I am getting married to? Help am confused.

Thanks in anticipation

sisisioge:


You mean you went forward to join your old family with a prospective new knowing there is a discord from the onset? Well, you are married already, and you have sown the seed of discord already. Good luck.

amliftedhigher:
A little of what transpired between us two days ago. In one of the people we want to use for our wedding, the person she recommended charge a huge amount of money which I can not pay, then I contacted my sisters to look for other person's we can use lo and behold they found people with a big difference in price variations so I decide to settle with the ones my sister recommended hence they will render same quality of services. Immediately I told her the latest, she started grumbling and saying that my sisters are controlling me that they can't come to her own family and decides what happens, I was shocked to hear that again after I caution her some months back for using this same language. My brethren 400k and 280k are they same thing? This is just a tip of her yelling about my sisters. My sisters don't know about this oh now, as am writing now my elder sister called me now and was telling me to make sure that I give My wife money to select a good wedding gown . They even told me last time that I should make sure I buy car for her before she born her first child to lessen the stress of her carrying a child in Keke or bike or Taxi. What do we call this?

vanhelsing1:
ma young friend.dis is a very delicate issue.fellow nairalanders have forgotten dat u av done d traditional marriage wt u.dey keep giving u tough advice.but d truth is,,,u should have found out during dating?or r y trying to say u jus discovered dis after ur traditional marriage.
one bitter truth is.....no matter how u try to convince her,she has alredy displayed how its goin to b after marige.am not sure dat mind set of hers will change..think bat dis very carefully n den make ur final decision.
she forgets dat as she get married to u,she marries ur family.plss take d bull by d horn.b smart.

He came online to seek for advice, 90% of us said he should leave her i hope he adheres..
I wonder what has happened to sitting the lady down and asking her why she is so "unruly and rude" then he can make a decision from there.

vanhelsing1:
ma young friend.dis is a very delicate issue.fellow nairalanders have forgotten dat u av done d traditional marriage wt u.dey keep giving u tough advice.but d truth is,,,u should have found out during dating?or r y trying to say u jus discovered dis after ur traditional marriage.
one bitter truth is.....no matter how u try to convince her,she has alredy displayed how its goin to b after marige.am not sure dat mind set of hers will change..think bat dis very carefully n den make ur final decision.
she forgets dat as she get married to u,she marries ur family.plss take d bull by d horn.b smart.

Oyindidi:
Why do I have the huge to insult you for your last sentence.
That girl is wicked for hating your family for no reason. Where was your wife when they were training you? Weak men everywhere.

OboOlora:
OP, I pity u! U r seeking advice to a lifelong issue from single underaged boiz n girls on a faceless forum? What happened to life coaches or marriage counselors?

amliftedhigher:
Thanks brother. From your questions, no encounter at all between her and my family members she just hate to hear me talking with them on phone. Like you said she never showed me this before traditional marriage and my family just saw her ones before our traditional marriage if she had started this before our TM I won't have dare go to see her people talk of carrying drinks.

amliftedhigher:
Thanks brother. From your questions, no encounter at all between her and my family members she just hate to hear me talking with them on phone. Like you said she never showed me this before traditional marriage and my family just saw her ones before our traditional marriage if she had started this before our TM I won't have dare go to see her people talk of carrying drinks.

Fame333:
Have noticed this in families long before now...

When in laws like d wife ...she in turn will hate them then in the scenario where wife like the in laws low and behold d family will hate her...


And I now wonder is it the Nigeria mentality or
this have to do with the way one is brought
up?
Love is the most expensive thing in Nigeria now


Charity beginnings at home

coolcatty:
Smh

This marriage is so so heading to the rocks.... See massive red flag.

10k bet that this marriage won't get to 1year mark.

Who's betting with me on this?

amliftedhigher:
Good morning wonderful nairalanders.

I Am having a very delicate family issues now. I am an only son of my family and 5 sisters all married, since I brought my wife to be to them they all love her with passion and they keep telling me to take good care of the girl, they keep warning me not to treat her bad.

My sister love my Wife with passion including my aged mother but my wife to be in return hates them openly to me.

She doesn't like me mention them before her or discuss any thing with them. But she adores her family so much. We have finished traditional marriage remaining church wedding which is next two weeks from today.

During our preparations my family has noticed her long mute with them in issues of our wedding arrangement, they ask me but I told them that my wife is a shy type that doesn't talk too much but I was lying.

N/B they have not done anything evil to her and they will not think about it because they all fear me but my confusion Now is why my wife hates them? One of my sister lives in the same city with my wife but she hardly visits her.

My fellow comrades please what do I do? I can't hate my sisters because they and their husbands train me in the university . I came from a poor home but seeing the love I have for education all My sisters and their husbands swear that I must attend university . My God's grace I am working in one of the best organization in the country now am comfortable. Do I chase my family away now because of a woman I am getting married to? Help am confused.

Thanks in anticipation

amliftedhigher:
please I was only asking a question. I didn't and will not try to dissociate with my family members?

nurshah:

Talk which sense you think she will change guy abeg....

Pidgin2:


I think I understand a bit of what is going on. My brother, you might not be able to understand if your sisters are over involving themselves in your business because they are your sisters it is someone outside that will notice it instead.

You have a point in saying your sister's option is better in this case but your wife to be must have noticed their over involvement in other issues which is upsetting her already. This doesn't mean she hates them but you might have been telling her stories about your sisters involvement in your life affairs, to you it's ok but to her it might seem odd because she's from a different family

Try to understand her more, make her feel comfortable with them by helping her to feel secure in your love, this can be done through occasional reassurance.

Good luck

coolcatty:
Smh
This marriage is so so heading to the rocks.... See massive red flag.
10k bet that this marriage won't get to 1year mark.
Who's betting with me on this?