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My Family Is Tearing Apart / My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry / She Is Single And Living On Rented Apartment, Away From Family ! Is It Good? (2) (3) (4)
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Re: My Family Is Tearing Apart! Help by mrblessed(m): 6:28am On Oct 03, 2017 |
elektra:Calling him evil is wide and completely off the mark. Maybe he is simply being hypocritical and pretentious. There is nothing that cannot be rationalised, depending on what interest you want to achieve. You seemed surprised he used the Bible to rationalise what is clearly abominable and constitutes a reasonable evidence for divorce. Yet, we should reject his view without resorting to calling him names. |
Re: My Family Is Tearing Apart! Help by mrblessed(m): 6:39am On Oct 03, 2017 |
elektra:This is brilliantly written and garnished irony. It also sums up the ordeal of that woman. 4 Likes |
Re: My Family Is Tearing Apart! Help by lazeal: 7:37am On Oct 03, 2017 |
pato405: May your daughters and sister be undervalued and relegated and abused by their boyfriends and husband despite their sweat and blood. Say amen. It's not a curse but prayer. 5 Likes |
Re: My Family Is Tearing Apart! Help by RedDistrict: 9:14am On Oct 03, 2017 |
pato405: Perhaps, you wuldnt have gotten all the attacks from posters if the above wasnt part of your writeup I support your stance on handling the whole situation diplomatically but u shuldnt have termed the same woman who had endured over the years of abuse and deciet as "rude and unsubmissive" The situation on ground is quite complex and if not handled peacefully can lead to serious consequences as hatred from both parties can result to tryin to eliminate one another using fetish means or so. the father should take the kids to stay with their mum. he can always come to the house since he partly owns the house but he shuldnt make rhe kids live there permanently for peace ro reign. OP, pls tell your mum to be careful also about wat she tells the kids and just handle everytin with wisdom. its not easy being in a compound family system bt am sure she'll handle it as best as she can. it is well |
Re: My Family Is Tearing Apart! Help by OldBeer: 1:50pm On Oct 03, 2017 |
lazeal:@Pato405, I am claiming this prayer for you. It will surely happen in your family so that you can sit down and give your useless advise. 3 Likes |
Re: My Family Is Tearing Apart! Help by lazeal: 1:56pm On Oct 03, 2017 |
OldBeer:this your quote weak me o. Now I don't know if it's for me or pato |
Re: My Family Is Tearing Apart! Help by OldBeer: 1:59pm On Oct 03, 2017 |
lazeal: Not for you sir. |
Re: My Family Is Tearing Apart! Help by Nobody: 10:32pm On Oct 04, 2017 |
HerXLNC: Your mum's a very kindhearted woman. She didn't deserve the treatment she got from your dad. The actions of many men today makes me bury my head in shame. Your mother deserved better 2 Likes |
Re: My Family Is Tearing Apart! Help by lopside12: 10:44am On Oct 05, 2017 |
I feel so pained like your mom is my sister. She is very soft and theres little you guys can do about it coupled with the fact that she is old she can not do much at the moment. Your mom telling the children what she said was borne out of keeping too much within herself she just wanted to let something out. She never really wanted to make the children feel bad even if they might end up saying she said something bad cos of the way your dad reacted. For the house tearing apart don't bother much, the house tore the day your dad made his 4 kid out of wedlock, if the first 3 was a mistake what about the next? Please babe don't stress your life much with them, let your mom hold on to all her money and you guys should try to get comfortable as fast as possible, your mom will be too busy pursuing children and grandchildren visit for her to remember she has a husband that is misbehaving 3 Likes |
Re: My Family Is Tearing Apart! Help by engrelvis(m): 8:09am On Nov 14, 2017 |
Op,go n sit down.this is typical Africa woman mentality.so yr father v never done something gud for u in yr entire life .am supporting domestic violence but most women violence r cause by their sharp n bad mouth .did u know how u were brought up? Most men dnt say bad things about their wives to their children but na women work b dat.esp if d man err.d way u r supporting yr mother is very common to Africa children even if d man deos everything to raise u.immediately there is quarrel,d woman start spoiling d children mind.dnt worry when u get married u will understand.if u show half sympathy u r showing to yr mum to yr dad he will become a better person 1 Like |
Re: My Family Is Tearing Apart! Help by kunkeracid: 11:37am On Nov 14, 2017 |
lesson pato405: |
Re: My Family Is Tearing Apart! Help by ImaIma1(f): 12:20pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
pato405: This story doesn't mean you shouldn't be objective about this case. Whatever happened to the characters in this story is peculiar to them. You can't say because you have seen things like this happen that you will not call a spade a spade. Why should the woman suffer for her husband's wandering pinis? How come you don't see any fault in the man's actions. Rather the woman is the one to blame? He abuses her and even flogs her with a cane, gets another woman pregnant and expects his wife to fend for them. Shouldn't the man be responsible for his decisions and actions. But you still blame the woman for everything. It is her fault he impregnated another woman...it is her fault that he cannot provide for them. What kind of reasoning is this? The man was comfortable and free living on his wife's money and even using it to pay for his irresponsible lifestyle and you still blame her. People like you will see nothing good in what a woman does. It will always somehow end up being a woman's fault. That woman is not responsible for those kids. They have a mother and she has her own children. If she decides to help them, it is her choice. The man cannot impose his mistake on her. I really hope you don't carry this kind of thinking to your home and have this entitlement mentality that whatever you do your wife has to accept it, live with it and even cater for it or else she will be tagged an "unsubmissive" wife |
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