Myself and fiancee are currently finding it hard to forgive my pastor.
I'm a Canadian resident with an American fiancee . We live together in Canada . We aren't legally married but we plan doing that very soon.

My fiancee had contacted my pastor on whatsap after I introduced her to my church pastor. After her first service with us in church, we returned home to discover my pastor had blocked her on whatsap.

We can't remember offending or doing anything wrong. I approached the pastor to enquire his reasons, but he declined and after much pressure from me, he revealed that my wife to be had NO respect for him.

What was her offence, the pastor said my fiancee's last text to him on whatsap offended him.
The text was only a health broadcast on the importance of eating fruits .

He concluded that myself and my fiancee does not have respect for him and God. This angered me and I quickly exited their whatsap forum.

My fiancee has said she can't attend his church anymore , and his action is an indication that my pastor doesn't like her. She wants us to find another church Contrary to this, I love my church as they have become a larger part of me and it's a congregation of mostly Nigerians.

I think he is angry that my fiancee moved to my house .Though he didn't mention that as a reason but instead he based it on the text.

Pastor is a Nigerian

Pastor that bears grudge and carries someone in mind...is that one a pastor.

How can ur pastor just say she doesn't have respect..There's more to this

I don't know... But those 'reasons' are just too petty to be serious.
Some thing(s) happened behind the scene.

WTF did I just read

Was expecting to see were your pastor rape/seduce your fiancee..

that keeps me reading to the end not knowing that I was going to be dissapointed

Anyway since i've finish reading I must tender my meandring opinion:

Your pastor doesn't give a poo about u living the church

Your pastor didn't know if he offends u or your fiancee not to talk of both of u forgiving him (he didn't give a poo again)

You living the church can't take anything away from the church (the church didn't give a poo here)

So I suggest u overlook everything and move on with ur church since u said u love ur church, as for ur fiancee u know what to say to her

I think you should take your fiancee to the pastor and apologise/reconcile.
He should be able to forgive and let go of the incidence.I don't see any big deal in what she did but people react to things differently.As a pastor,he ought to deal with things better than how he has handled this one.

thorpido:
I think you should take your fiancee to the pastor and apologise/reconcile.
He should be able to forgive and let go of the incidence.I don't see any big deal in what she did but people react to things differently.As a pastor,he ought to deal with things better than how he has handled this one.

Thanks. I've tried forgiving him but it's not been easy.
My fiancee doesn't even want to have anything to do with him cuz she feels uncomfortable listening to his sermons

Stanleyelege:


Thanks. I've tried forgiving him but it's not been easy.
My fiancee doesn't even want to have anything to do with him cuz she feels uncomfortable listening to his sermons

Try and convince your fiancee to meet with him with you present.If you don't do that,it only means you are on the way out of that church.

Somethin must behind the scene




Mwhile .... ( Do not be deceived "Bad company ruins good moral ) 1st Corinthian 15:33

But Truth be told: Those Broadcast Messages de Vex person...

Stanleyelege:

I think he is angry that my fiancee moved to my house .Though he didn't mention that as a reason but instead he based it on the text.

Let's assume this is actually the reason for his action. Don't you think what you did was wrong? Or doesn't he preach that premarital sex is wrong? (Forgive my assumption.) Or can you live with someone you're not yet married to and nothing happens between both of you?

Stanleyelege:


Thanks. I've tried forgiving him but it's not been easy.
My fiancee doesn't even want to have anything to do with him cuz she feels uncomfortable listening to his sermons

Please do forgive. We're human we make mistakes and behave and react differently.

Daviddson:
Let's assume this is actually the reason for his action. Don't you think what you did was wrong? Or doesn't he preach that premarital sex is wrong? (Forgive my assumption.) Or can you live with someone you're not yet married to and nothing happens between both of you?

If that was the reason why wouldn't the pastor draw his attention or is op hiding something?

What Is Doing You Na... You Love Your Church or You Love Your Wife To Be... It Seems Both May Not Work Together... Before E Turn Story That Touch, take Your Babe and locate Another Church

Stanleyelege:
Myself and fiancee are currently finding it hard to forgive my pastor.
I'm a Canadian resident with an American fiancee . We live together in Canada . We aren't legally married but we plan doing that very soon.

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I think he is angry that my fiancee moved to my house .Though he didn't mention that as a reason but instead he based it on the text.

The Pastor in question may not be emotionally mature. Please forgive him and move on. No single human being is perfect: Pastors inclusive.

However, as a Christian I must tell you the truth.

It is wrong (a SIN) for you and your fiancée to be living together and having sex. Let her live in her own apartment and you, step up preparations for your wedding. Weddings needn't be elaborate.

If you love God, you will obey His commandments

Shalom

Stanleyelege:
Myself and fiancee are currently finding it hard to forgive my pastor.
I'm a Canadian resident with an American fiancee . We live together in Canada . We aren't legally married but we plan doing that very soon.

My fiancee had contacted my pastor on whatsap after I introduced her to my church pastor. After her first service with us in church, we returned home to discover my pastor had blocked her on whatsap.

We can't remember offending or doing anything wrong. I approached the pastor to enquire his reasons, but he declined and after much pressure from me, he revealed that my wife to be had NO respect for him.

What was her offence, the pastor said my fiancee's last text to him on whatsap offended him.
The text was only a health broadcast on the importance of eating fruits .

He concluded that myself and my fiancee does not have respect for him and God. This angered me and I quickly exited their whatsap forum.

My fiancee has said she can't attend his church anymore , and his action is an indication that my pastor doesn't like her. She wants us to find another church Contrary to this, I love my church as they have become a larger part of me and it's a congregation of mostly Nigerians.

I think he is angry that my fiancee moved to my house .Though he didn't mention that as a reason but instead he based it on the text.

Fear God, stop lying.