Recently i watched two Naija movies that deal with the issue of mother-in-law's, Some are truly awful, while some get along with their child's spouse. How would you guys handle a mother-in-law that doesn't like you before, and during your marriage? Would you go ahead and marry the person despite their mother's obvious dislike, for instance? Do you ignore the woman in your matrimonial home?

Nigerian Movies do a lot of diservice to Mother In laws? 98% of the time a mother in law is featured she is shown as wicked, malicous and trying to marry a second wife for her son.
In real life ask your self how many mother in laws that u know are like that? its really sad. Most mother In laws are non challant, the ones we have these days are career mother In laws, civil servants Business women and the rest. I have lots of sisters, we all have mother In laws and I have never seen any of them complain about their mother in laws. Its a mutually respectful relationship.
Its hard for me to reconclie what i see in reality with what i see in Naija movies. Give these women a break kai

lol i know that, which is why i was asking for all stories nau, just not the horrible mother in laws one, aand concerning them, it's mainly hypothetical as to what you will do IF you had a terrible potential one, i never marry na, so i can worry about these things beforehand

Ok dear, all i can say is what worked for me. Be very respectful, treat her like your mom, she may be difficult but find her soft spots things she likes and work with that. Never compete with her u will never win, she gave u the man u love so much so love her twice as much, loving someone means loving them even when they do things that make u mad, love breaks all bariers. She is his mother, you are his wife respect that and respect her, It will go well. Mother in laws can be fun believe me. She knows her son more than anyone and she will give u the secrets to handling him properly and will even support u even when u re wrong. Women are soft, they respond well to love and respect.
Humility and love is the key
tjis is not saying some of them ar not horrible but let the fault not be from u

my MIL is the most amazing woman on earth
infact everyday i thank God for her
she has never for once interfered in our marriage for the 8 years been married to her son
and she has always had my back even tho my hubby is her fav
i watch all these movies and wonder y such as her are not portrayed

my mother in law is horrible, infact i tried loving her from the begining but she warned me that she doesnt want my friendship with her and her other children that i should face my husband so she tried to cause quarrel b/w my husband and i but it didnt work, so she hated her son, she disowned her son because of me. I tried taking care of her, but she refused to collect anything from me and she said i shouldnt bring anything for heer husband. my first year of marriage, i was always crying 'cos i thought i would have a mil like my mum but no, she cursed us that we will not make it in life but God promoted us and we have about 3 houses now, she doesnt come to my house and when i tr going to her house, she doesnt treat me well, there was a time when they were having a celebration in their house and i went there, she told her neighbours to keep an eye on me, and they were disappointed with what she said that they told me, i had to leave the place. infact i can continue for years 'cos i've been married for 15yrs now. to cap it all she is not an illiterate, she's a retired principal of a school.

hmmmm na wa o
am speechless
just read wot adaspire wrote and you wonder why some women are like this?

one thing i want to say however is our society is a reflection of women's injustice to women
i must say there's no man on earth living that can say there is no woman he doesn't listen to whether its his wife or mom or guardian
we women have the power to shape this world positively if we want to
but women could be so ruthless i just dont get it
its women/girls out there that cheat with other women's husbands
its women that choose to be wicked to our SIL's (sisters in law )and DIL's(daughters in law)


i mean does adaspire's MIL wish her daughters a MIL like her?
na wa o

Hearing stories of wicked MILs makes me sad.

Thank God I have a lovely MIL, she always minds her business and never intrudes in our marriage.

@ adaspire,

15years is a long way despite your MIL. Just be the better person, God will see you through.