omooba969:


The woman/pregnancy could be rejected but the question is...'is he rejecting his child?'

donbenie:
So,what exactly is natural justice and equity and good justice about a man who rejected and denied a pregnancy and later turned around to claim what he NEVER wanted..which meanwhile,another man knowing fully well the baby ain't his biologically still accepts full responsibility of training the child..there's more to being a Dad than merely lying between a woman's legs..
Where I come from,he does not have any case as long as he didn't pay the bride price and he can go hang because he will never get a whiff of the child..

naijaboiy:

Even if she changes her story Millions Of Times, how would that disprove that the boy in question is the father of the child? When his DNA is fully existing in the child’s genes.

omooba969:


Abeg put your emotions in check, the child's best interest is more important here.

nkwuocha1:


Here is a vivid answer. But can the court grant the real father custody after a claim that he was never aware he was the true father of the child has the girl claim?Again knowing fully well that DNA takes a long time ,he can also claim he wanted a DNA test only to find out the girl got married to another man with his child?

CakezbyMarie:
Exactly.. What do you think is best for the child? A man that denied his own blood? He doesn't seem responsible...

Tamakay:






This Igbo tradition has outlived its importance and it is seen barbaric and archaic in the eyes of the law. I am saying this because there's was a similar case that happened and the man took them to court and all the three times he took them to court, he won the case. And now, the mother of the child and her family is begging the man just to have custody of the child for a while.

Tamakay:






Archaic and barbaric Igbo tradition. Is the new man paying bride price for the child or the mother he wants to marry? In the eyes of the law, this tradition doesn't exist. I have witnessed three cases of such and all, the men won the cases as the biological fathers. One, the girl's family members were even arrested for conspiracy to abscond with another man's son.

omooba969:


Something urgently needs to be done about such incongruous culture & tradition of that place you come from.

Imagine o...where I come from. lol

naijaboiy:


[b]That is the tradition in the place you come from. But the courts will not be bound by local customs and traditions especially when it's repugnant to natural justice.

In my opinion the major case at hand should be who would get custody and not who is the real father. The identity of the real father is not far fetched, denying a child does not terminate the fact that the child is yours.

The only time when such actions will come against the supposed boy is when it comes to the custody of the child and if the family of the girl can prove that the boy is not responsible enough to cater for the child then her husband to be can be made a guardian.

Often times things like this are very difficult to prove. So the fact that the other man has paid bride price does not amount to anything in court, he’s only performing marriage rites and activities which has no connection with the child at hand.

And in my opinion it would be a crime for him to take the wife and unborn child away when he has no legal custody of the child yet. He won’t go to Europe and tell the authorities that he paid the bride price for his wife and the culture automatically allowed him to have the child, what they would need is legal proof that he has custody of the child not payment of bride price.[/b]

nkwuocha1:


This was my argument, but my parents shut me off.They insisted the real father has no rights whatsoever on the child.

nkwuocha1:


The said boy is an only son,hence the legal battle for the family to claim their grandchild.

KardinalZik:
....he can take back his child with the help of good Family Lawyers through DNA.

Donemmy:

by ur perspective, one can even go on raping expeditions & later claim paternity of the child.

Adeoba10:

I will advise the Ondo man should let go afterall he's not an impotent, just to avoid unnecessary issue.

Humulity:
In Igbo land, once you did not pay bride price the child is not yours. Even if you eventually paid the bride price and marry the lady the child is still not yours. The child belongs to her father. No argument. Except you pay the bride price before the woman put to bed, but in this case somebody paid that and the child automatically belongs to the person who paid the bride price.
That the husband is a Yoruba does not deny him paternity, he has both cultural and spiritual right to that child. Because he paid the bride price and married her.

charlsecy:
Do you think legal decisions can nullify the child's preference?

charlsecy:
Do you think legal decisions can nullify the child's preference?

nkwuocha1:


Even the visiting rights is almost impossible even if the court grants it. In few days the child will leave the shores of Nigeria. Guess the Yoruba husband is also prepared to give whoever stands on his way a tougher dose.

Eteriayaoba:
Obviously the family of the girl did not contact the family of the boy initially when the whole issue started to infom them their boy impregnated thier girl and he is denying responsibility. The boy's family would probably have prevailed on thier son and accepted the pregnancy if aware. I am not a legal person but i am sure the law is in favour of the boy that fathered the child but proving it in the court is however another kettle of fish.
As it is now, going thru the legal route will be long and tasking with no guarantee of winning the battle. The best bet is for family of the boy to cool down and represent thier case to the girl's family to settle out of court, appeal softly to them and the husband, also give the family time to process the request while they continue to apeal and press softly. At later years if they dont give up, the husband would surcom to pressure.
But wait o, it's suprising that the Yoruba husband is hell bent on keeping and claiming a child he knows does not belong to him, that is totally against his culture. Pressing through the husband's family may also help as they will not regard the child as their own, to them he will be 'Omo ale' ie a bastard.

Humulity:
In Igbo land, once you did not pay bride price the child is not yours. Even if you eventually paid the bride price and marry the lady the child is still not yours. The child belongs to her father. No argument. Except you pay the bride price before the woman put to bed, but in this case somebody paid that and the child automatically belongs to the person who paid the bride price.
That the husband is a Yoruba does not deny him paternity, he has both cultural and spiritual right to that child. Because he paid the bride price and married her.

Reussite:
This was exactly the case of an Igbo family friend whose eldest daughter got pregnant twice for an Edo guy. The guy was not straight forward in accepting the pregnancy or not. He was still assuring the girl that he likes her & wants to marry her tho without financing her in anyway till she gave birth both the first & second time. After the children got nurtured to age 3 & 1 respectively he probably made some money & headed to the family of the girl to claim the children as his. But the girl's father threatened him never to visit them in his lifetime that according to their tradition in Imo state the child already belongs to him(the father). Till date, the little girls are counted as children of the girl's father.

nkwuocha1:


She was almost 5months gone when the traditional rites took place according to sources. The preggy was visible and a lot of people thought the child actually belongs to the husband. The whole thing blew out of proportion when she put to bed and exposed the child to social media.