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So, you caused your problem, you are a flirt.

Just one year only, you have started cheating.

If she isn't pregnant, i will advise her to end the marriage, you can even kill her if she continues. You can imagine you are even careless with her information to your harlot lady.

Gush, women are really trying. And you have the effrontery to come here for advice. ...Nonsense

Nawa o! Marriage never reach 1 year see wahala! How long did your court for? Oga be loyal!

Oboy

Marriage is for better for worse.. Shebi u pay diary abi na belle marriage you do ... Go collect ur property jare

cool down, everything will fall into place.... just leave d other lady for a start... then you'll begin to appreciate ur madam more... and believe me if u appreciate madam, she'll perceive it and adjust... women can be awesome

You don't need our permission to end the marriage.
It's written all over your story that you have always felt inferior as a mainland boy that married Island baby.
End the marriage if you are feeling pressured to beg and take back your wife.

Go back and try to make amends.You might be insulted but you have to take it because you caused it.
Apologise again when you get there.....prostrate and beg..

However,if your wife's character is truly as you described it,you seem to be on a long thing.

Op from your writeup
It seems you're not mentally and emotionally matured enough to be married. Just one year and you have started cheating on your wife? .

You're the architect of this mess. Once married avoid extra marital activities, it is very dangerous, you may lose your life. If my girlfriend finds out am dating another lady I ran from her because woman never easily forgives that. You will definitely live and suffer it.
You actually married a girl not a wife. Train her or invite your spiritual leader for better counselling. Goodluck

Can imagine what being in your shoes would be like now bro.
1.Can you authoritatively say she loves you (despite the whole saga) if she does, there is hope then.
2. The mistake we men make is thinking that going outside to "chill" while home is burning is the best way out... forgetting than when the we ll still come back to face the problem.

It's obvious she is a young woman, probably not had life rough with men. I think you have to chill for now, but still make your intentions known through texts,offline and online....especially at midnight when it's quiet.

Op I'm really sorry for what you are going through in your marriage of which you alone is the architect!

Every marriage goes through a teething period no matter how holy the couples are only that the severity varies! You guys are allowed to disagree in order to agree.

Don't compare your wife with any woman! It seems to me that one begins to notice "beautiful" women more after marriage!!

THE FIRST 5YRS OF MARRIAGE IS OFTEN TUMULTUOUS, PLEASE DONT CHEAT ON HER but if you must, DON'T RUB IT ON HER FACE!!!

Go apologize to your wife/in laws and take your wife back!

Throw out silly prides/unfounded anger. Above all, please don't kill your father with your marital wars!!!

Husband kid, wife baby.....



U guys are not ready,go back to primary school of marriage.

bitcoinmilliona:
We got married this year. I stay on the mainland. Its been one heavy quarell to another. Any disagreements she runs back home to her parents house to complain and assasinate my character towards them. Which makes no one respect me.Shes never happy, always rude and has no regard for me and very arrogant. Well she's from a rich home.

Well, Im the cool type but i have my own weaknesses. To cut the long story short, I fell for a lady and cheated during the peak of the tensions at home. Before then, Iv been keeping late nights and drinking to reduce my stress and avoid her cos she hardly communicates, if we do it might lead to another quarell. She loves silent treatments. On my birthday she never told me HBD. Just sent me a watsapp text.

The lady got my wives number and heavily spilled the beans that we have been seeing even leaked some photos and damaging texts. Before then I told my wife and begged her, saying the lady is out for blackmail.

After my wife got full details from the lady she moved outta the house to her parents house(island) I was castigated by everyone and was truly sorry. Last sunday I went with my Dad to her fathers house. Oh my God I was heavily insulted! Called names by her parents. Like stupid, slowpoke, looser etc saying I had a mission when I married his daughter. Even my wife didnt help with the damage control she kept on leaking many secrets and spilling more beans. I told the father i will come back for her in a weeks time cos I was so hurt to take her same day. I and my Dad left disappointed.

I have vowed never to go there again but my parents and siblings are saying i should go a second time in attempt to pick my wife. I didnt really know this chick b4 getting married. Courted for a few months and the both families gave thier go ahead. We are from the same state. I'm so sad guys. What do i do? I find it hard to concentrate at work. My fathers blood pressure is high. He says we must go. I'm not ready to loose him Should I move on? Because I'm not happy with my marriage.

oga frm ur write up just end d marriage asap, nothing good can come out of it.

You are just simply not matured enough. If you don't learn and improve, your marriage (God forbid) might not last long.

You have your faults, she has hers. Just wondering if you guys have ever sat down to discuss about your numerous challenges and especially she going to her family house each time there is a quarrel? I don't think you guys have. From your write up, you sound like you are into this marriage for her father's wealth and you seem to be showing it, which makes you look inferior.

My advice, yes you have to show interest you want her back, so go to the fathers house to plead once more. Show attempts to get her back, if they refuse you, just ignore and don't even act like the family exists again. If you get her back on this attempt, you need to discuss your differences, and most importantly 3rd parties being involved in resolving your issues.

The 1st year of marriage is usually the most difficult. Keep trying, if u both can make it past d 1st yr, it 'll survive. U sef stay loyal. All d best.

Oga from the write up it seems to be you are a gold digger sef, i mean you married someone you barely knew and it's all falling apart under a year now... Just get your shits together and quit the marriage cos there wasn't any love in it from both of you.

Larryfest:
Oga from the write up it seems to be you are a gold digger sef, i mean you married someone you barely knew and it's all falling apart under a year now... Just get your shits together and quit the marriage cos there wasn't any love in it from both of you.

I aint a gold digger. I bought my luxury car and pay my rent and have a good employment and i hustle too. My parents are well off. I even reject favours cos my wife uses it to spite me or rub it on my face. Like wen they got some home items my wife started saying if i could afford it why would i let them buy it

Op I won't blame you. Your wife was being unfair to you she gave gave you silent treatments and you got the attention u needed from someone else. Her parents reaction was just too much..its normal for them to be upset but still they shouldn't have acted that way. The right thing to do was to call the both parties, sit them down and talk it out. Wonder why ppl change after marriage. If you still love this woman, give her time then go with someone you trust to talk to her parents. Then make sure she forgives you totally we don't want to hear sad stories later

kendrace:
Op I won't blame you. Your wife was being unfair to you she gave gave you silent treatments and you got the attention u needed from someone else. Her parents reaction was just too much..its normal for them to be upset but still they shouldn't have acted that way. The right thing to do was to call the both parties, sit them down and talk it out. Wonder why ppl change after marriage. If you still love this woman, give her time then go with someone you trust to talk to her parents. Then make sure she forgives you totally we don't want to hear sad stories later

Thanks. Your very reasonable. Truth be told i felt love was not enough in marriage but family unity and understanding. With all these quarells and unhappiness i have built resentment towards her. Though, I have been calling her and begging on the phone. That we need to see a professional counsellor or a priest. But she said shes not intrested in that. That it must be an extended family affair

bitcoinmilliona:


Thanks. Your very reasonable. I have been calling her and begging on the phone. That we need to see a professional counsellor or a priest. But she said shes not intrested in that. That it must be an extended family affair

Was it an arranged marriage?

i pity u if u like kill urself becos of a woman go to ur bible & read wat happen to solomon & samson,u shouldnt have cheated or become a drunkard,ur wife is not ripe for marriage.Go wit ur dad to sort it out again if d family start insulting u pick ur slippers & dont return there chikena!

kendrace:



Was it an arranged marriage?

Kind of. Strted from friendship then both parents were satisfied with each other then we gave it a shot. Didnt really fall in love. Left the love of my life cos of tribal sentiments and disapproval

bitcoinmilliona:


Kind of. Strted from friendship then both parents were satisfied with each other then we gave it a shot. Didnt really fall in love. Left the love of my life cos of tribal sentiments and disapproval

That's the problem

bitcoinmilliona:


Kind of. Strted from friendship then both parents were satisfied with each other then we gave it a shot. Didnt really fall in love. Left the love of my life cos of tribal sentiments and disapproval

Just see! Dts why I can't do or tell someone to go for an arranged marriage. Most couples don't feel anything for each other ,but they just want to please d people involve dts why they go a head with it. Its is always best to marry your friend. Even if there are differences, you easily make up with d love between you two without the party interference. Even if you take her back now, how are you sure such won't happen again? Something that will still take her back will still come up.Both of you don't really love each other. Well, don't go there now. Give her more than enough time to clear her mind and yours too. If you can do it, let the time be long such that she and her family will be the one begging you to come pick your wife. By then you would have done all that is needed to make your marriage work as you are starting all over again.

When i said you were a lazy, unemployed, unrepentant cheating gold digger in your previous post didnt u say i should shut up?
Instead you choose to align with boys who said you should forget about your inlaws so what are you doing crying wolf now?
If i was ur inlaws, i will personally file divorce on our daughters behalf because you clearly havent learnt your lessons

www.nairaland.com/4196895/wifes-annoying-behaviour

tayo60:
Just see! Dts why I can't do or tell someone to go for an arranged marriage. Most couples don't feel anything for each other ,but they just want to please d people involve dts why they go a head with it. Its is always best to marry your friend. Even if there are differences, you easily make up with d love between you two without the party interference. Even if you take her back now, how are you sure such won't happen again? Something that will still take her back will still come up.Both of you don't really love each other. Well, don't go there now. Give her more than enough time to clear her mind and yours too. If you can do it, let the time be long such that she and her family will be the one begging you to come pick your wife. By then you would have done all that is needed to make your marriage work as you are starting all over again.

How long?

Chai! You definitely have a bad taste abi na judgment when it comes to women. You married a brat and cheated with a biatch...what's with you and the B girls? Whew!


As you lay your bed, biko sleep on it. May God help you resolve it. Cheers.

Dear Bitcoinmilliona,
Please humble yourself by undergoing a three days fasting and prayers, by asking God to forgive you and deliver you from the sin of adultery that has taken hold on your life and marriage. Promise your Creator that you will not pollute your marriage again and that ask for grace to forgive your wife and her family. Then pray that the Lord should touch the hearts of your wife and her parents. So that they will forgive you and forget the terrible past.

Also remember to stay away from sins of any kind during the fasting and after. By the Grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, every enemies of your peace shall be disgrace. Amen.

You are to visit your wife and bring her home on the third day of the fasting and prayer. Please document your dreams during the fasting period. Please make sure you pray this prayer during the three days fasting and prayer; "Lord Jesus, turn every darkness in my life and marriage into light".

I am praying for you.


Yours in His Vineyard,
Pst Biola

This is what you get when "babies" rush into marriage. Oga op, it's your cross to carry

bitcoinmilliona:


Thanks. Your very reasonable. Truth be told i felt love was not enough in marriage but family unity and understanding. With all these quarells and unhappiness i have built resentment towards her. Though, I have been calling her and begging on the phone. That we need to see a professional counsellor or a priest. But she said shes not intrested in that. That it must be an extended family affair

Chief,i will advice you as someone that has been married for 4years....i have also experienced temporary separation with my wife and i know how you feel....my case was even worse because i had the best of inlaws that dotted on me...i messed up big time and i didnt even know....i allowed the issue to linger even when she moved back to her father's house...we stayed apart for a whooping 7months.........yet nobody shouted at me or rained insults on me...i went with my people to beg and at the end of it all..i apologised....no body taunted me or degraded me..and boy your inlaws are toddlers in wealth and connections when compared to mine...but the respect and love was there.....dont ever be in a marriage whereby your inlaws treat you like thrash..its not cool


take these advice:

stop all communications with your wife and her people...lucky you that you guys dont even have kids yet...if you are important to her,she will find a way to reach you...if not you guys should move on.

start working and developing yourself and try and be dependent

do a thorough soul search and ask yourself if you really need her in your life...if not then take a walk.

never you agree to any meeting in her house....opt for a church or public place.

then tell your dad to mind his damn business and allow you patch up your life.

you need to get your ego back..thats the only thing you need for now.

Gloryr:


Chief,i will advice you as someone that has been married for 4years....i have also experienced temporary separation with my wife and i know how you feel....my case was even worse because i had the best of inlaws that dotted on me...i messed up big time and i didnt even know....i allowed the issue to linger even when she moved back to her father's house...we stayed apart for a whooping 7months.........yet nobody shouted at me or rained insults on me...i went with my people to beg and at the end of it all..i apologised....no body taunted me or degraded me..and boy your inlaws are toddlers in wealth and connections when compared to mine...but the respect and love was there.....dont ever be in a marriage whereby your inlaws treat you like thrash..its not cool


take these advice:

stop all communications with your wife and her people...lucky you that you guys dont even have kids yet...if you are important to her,she will find a way to reach you...if not you guys should move on.

start working and developing yourself and try and be dependent

do a thorough soul search and ask yourself if you really need her in your life...if not then take a walk.

never you agree to any meeting in her house....opt for a church or public place.

then tell your dad to mind his damn business and allow you patch up your life.

you need to get your ego back..thtats the only thing you need for now.

Bro thanks can u drop ur number i need to speak to you. Thank you