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33 Smart Habits That Will Train Other People To Treat You With Respect by gabonsky: 11:55pm On Dec 09, 2017
Most of these are small, subtle changes in behavior, but they can have a big impact on how much other people respect you.

What do people want out of work? More than money, more than benefits, much more than job security, a recent survey says, they want to be treated with respect.


If that sounds like you, how can you increase the respect you get each day at work? It turns out that there are specific habits you can cultivate that allow you to train the people you work with to treat you respectfully each day.


Here are 33 of these proven habits that can help, if you're willing to stick with them. Implement a few, take inspiration from the others, and you'll likely see dividends quickly.


1. Speak up.
You won't get the recognition and respect you deserve unless you make your voice heard. We start with this--training yourself to speak up--because every other habit on this list depends on your deciding that you are worthy of respect to begin with.

2. Be polite.
People who give respect justifiably expect it in return. So, set the tone for respectful relationships: It's why society developed polite norms to begin with. Also, remember the opposite result of this habit: People who are impolite or full of bluster often wind up inspiring a lack of respect in others they interact with.

3. Invite others to schedule their interactions.
If you want respect, that includes respect for your time. So, encourage colleagues to take responsibility for their needs. When they need to take up your time, use either an assistant or a gatekeeper to manage your time, or at least share a digital calendar. (Caveat: For this strategy to work, there are a few key tricks to follow, described in Nos. 4 to 7 below.)

4. Schedule all the time you need for yourself.
If you decide to follow the make-your-own-appointment strategy in No. 3, it's crucial that you serve yourself first, by scheduling all the time you need for yourself first. Be ruthless, leaving only the leftovers for everyone else. Remember, you don't have to justify to anyone else what is on your calendar; you only need to claim your time for yourself first.

5. Set your calendar view default setting to private.
It's not most people's business what you're doing during your "unavailable" time, so if you're using the shared calendar method, be sure the default setting for all events is private. That way, most time blocks will come up for others as "unavailable," but you won't need to justify why you're not available.

6. Set your calendar appointment default to 15 minutes.
Fifteen minutes is enough time for many interactions, but if you don't set a default, people will automatically schedule more time than they need. It's not an immutable restriction, of course; if your boss needs an hour, she can schedule an hour. But setting a default time encourages people to show respect for your time in a very practical way.

7. Put your out-of-office times on your calendar.
Leaving for the gym after work at 6 p.m. a few times a week? Taking a bus that doesn't get you to work until 9:00 a.m.? Put these events on your calendar (in private mode), so other people don't schedule meetings before you plan to arrive or after you plan to leave.

8. Learn and use people's names.
Moving on from your calendar, make it a point to learn and use other people's names. Doing so is a sign of respect to them, and something that will make them feel affinity for you. They'll also remember you and feel obliged to reciprocate (or else be really embarrassed).

9. Use titles.
Obviously, don't do this if it doesn't feel natural or appropriate, but if you don't know people well, try addressing them as sir, ma'am, Mr., or Ms., rather than by their first names. In general, conveying respect like this will set the tone and encourage them to respect you as well.

10. Make plans.
Leadership abhors a vacuum, and people feel free to impose their priorities on others who haven't made it clear they're pursuing their own priorities in life. So, make plans. Announce strategies. Suck up the air so that your idea becomes everyone else's working plan. This goes for both your work life and your personal life.

11. "Disagree and commit" (but use different language).
Jeff Bezos uses this "disagree and commit" language. You can use your own terms, but develop a reputation for reliability, even if you aren't sure about the plan you've agreed to execute. If you say you're going to do something, follow through.

12. Be willing to ask questions.
If you're going to commit your professional future to someone else's plan, respect yourself enough to ask a lot of questions about it. Let it be understood you aren't a pushover and won't sheepishly be led. Besides, how many times have you been in a meeting where someone asks a question and it turns out everyone else wanted to know the answer too?

13. Acknowledge others before speaking.
Show a little emotional intelligence by acknowledging how your contributions fit into the flow of a conversation. In practice, this means that if you have something to say, acknowledge whoever spoke before you. You'll garner their respect for giving them credit. (Example: "Excellent point, John, and it makes me think of something else we should consider ... "wink

14. Say thank you.
A specific example of simple, basic politeness. It costs you nothing and sends a subtle signal. Again, it's also a defense against the lack of respect that blatantly impolite people inspire.

15. Say you're welcome.
This one has been a bit of an ongoing campaign for me, but if you want to inspire respect, say "You're welcome" rather than "No problem" or the like. "You're welcome" connotes that you've done something worthy of thanks--and thus that you are worthy of respect.

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Re: 33 Smart Habits That Will Train Other People To Treat You With Respect by anochuko01(m): 8:47pm On Dec 10, 2017
very great!
Re: 33 Smart Habits That Will Train Other People To Treat You With Respect by gabonsky: 9:29am On Dec 11, 2017
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