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Why Women Are Still Under The Servitude Of Men by Hardeboi580(m): 12:59am On Dec 16, 2017
Presently in the world today, we
have a lot of Activists who are
protesting against gender inequality
and are clamoring for gender
equality throughout the whole
world. Most cultural belief is that
the female gender are not as worthy
as the male gender. In fact some
past civilizations, for example, the
Greek’s (believed to be the greatest
civilization) and the Roman’s
civilization believed that the women
are the source of evil of in the
society and they are also used for
sex and pleasure. Although, this has
greatly reduce in recent times but
it’s still quite unfortunate that the
women are still indirectly under the
servitude of men in the society.
Personally, I try to reflect and find
out the reason why women or let me
say ladies still find themselves
under the servitude of men in the
society and what I was able to find
out is that, most women or ladies
don’t have the ideology of having
full control over their life. Women
are too dependent on men in so
many ways beyond the reasonable
limits. Most women believe that any
responsibility which requires any
extra effort must be taken up by
men only, even despite this saying,
“what a man can do, a woman can
do better” which is now rampant in
the world of ladies. There are a lot
of debates about this saying but
what amuse me most is that any
lady who hears this will surely
agree with you but only about 5% of
them will be ready to prove it for
Ladies need to learn how to be
independent. This is just a fact that
must be told. You don’t have to be
looking up to your husband,
boyfriend or any man every time,
learn how to stand on your own.
In addition to this, ladies are very
poor in building their own carrier.
What do I mean? Yes, I agree that
now the female gender are now
given the chance to be educated by
sending them to school compare to
the olden days but believe me, there
is still a little of this ideology in
their head that “all their education
will still end up in their husband’s
kitchen” and this keeps hindering
them from trying to build a career
on some professional courses.
Although, this may not be happening
in some civilized countries but this
is still happening in so many
countries around the world
especially in Africa.
Indeed, this article will not be fair
enough without mentioning this,
“Marriage”. I can’t just point out
the reason why ladies do feel that
the best time for them to get
married is between the ages of 20 to
25. It is believed that it’s very wrong
to be a spinster at the age of 26 and
above because they feel that at
these ages, ladies begin to lose their
beauty. To certain extent, I agree
with this point but to me, I think the
point is not tangible enough for
ladies to jump into marriage so
early at the expense of what they
have planned to achieve or become
in life. There are cases in which
most female students gave up their
aims and goals of studying some
professional courses which will take
them longer years before they finish
their programs in school just
because they want to get married
before they clock 25.
However, it’s a pity that most ladies
don’t even seem to realize that most of
their husbands still don’t appreciate
them despite the fact that they got
married to them when they are looking
as beautiful as they can ever be in their
life. According to statistics, 60 percent of
marriages for couples between the ages
of 20 and 25 end in divorce and those
who wait to marry until they are over 25
years old are 24 percent less likely to
get divorced..
For couples who are even younger,
the prognosis becomes bleaker still.
In their article titled “Cohabitation,
Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage
in the United States,” cited by the
Centers for Disease Control and
Prevention (CDC), M.D. Bramlett and
W.D. Mosher found that
nationally, 59% of marriages to
women who were younger than 18
at the time of marriage will end in
divorce within 15 years. In other
words, nearly two thirds of all
marriages to teenaged women fail
within two decades.
According to the CDC, in 2011, the
divorce rates by age group and
gender were:
27.6% of women aged
19 or younger
11.7% of men aged 19
or younger
36.6% of women aged
38.8% of men aged
But at 25, something dramatic
happens. Statistics show that the
divorce rates plummet by nearly
half for both genders:
16.4% of women aged
25-29 (compared with
36.6% for the average
24-year-old woman)
22.3% of men aged
25-29 (compared with
38.8% for the average
24-year-old man)
Why is 25 the “Magic
Number” for Successful
We’ve established that once people
hit 25 years old, the divorce rate
seems to plummet because many
experts chalk it up to lack of
emotional experience, insufficient
financial support, and hasty unions.
Jennifer Glass, sociology professor
at the University of Texas at Austin,
says, “It appears that the cessation
of education, early marriage and
early parenthood, you’re set up for
relationship conflict, financial
stress and dissolution.” Glass’
theory ties neatly into Naomi Cahn’s
assertion that the continuation of
education and late marriage (and
consequent late parenthood) is the
driving forces behind marital
success. It’s a classic case of what
goes up, must come down.
Some experts think that the older
couples are at the time of their
marriage, the more hobbies they’re
likely to share in common. Paul
Amato, a sociologist at
Pennsylvania State University, says,
“Older marriages (30s versus 20s)
were more cohesive in the sense
that they did things together more
often as a couple.”
Andrew Cherlin, a sociologist from
Johns Hopkins University, supports
Amato’s ideas. Cherlin says,
“People are more concerned with
their own self-development than
they used to be. Therefore, people
are postponing marriage until
everything in their lives is working
‘in order.’ The order means after
you’ve finished your education,
perhaps after beginning your
career… they’re postponing
marriage until they think they’re
ready for it.”
Perhaps the end of Cherlin’s
statement is the most important:
“until they think they’re ready for
it” is a telling fragment. It implies
that couples who rush into marriage
when they’re young — perhaps even
fresh out of high school, with
limited knowledge of their own
hopes, dreams, and capabilities —
simply lack the experiential tools to
know whether or not they are
“ready.” They marry because their
friends are getting married, because
it’s what’s accepted by (or even
expected in) the community, and
whether or not they’re actually
prepared falls by the wayside.
Kay Moffett thinks this may be the
root of the problem. Moffett, author
of Not Your Mother’s Divorce: A
Practical Guide to Surviving the End
of a Young Marriage, says, “I advise
couples to wait until they’re in their
late 20s to marry. This allows for a
period of identity exploration and a
time to figure one’s self out. Most
couples who plunge into wedlock
early do so for the wrong reason.”
Conclusively, I hope this article will
gear all the women to wake up and
free themselves from the servitude
of men.


Re: Why Women Are Still Under The Servitude Of Men by OnyeEgo1(m): 1:13am On Dec 16, 2017
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Re: Why Women Are Still Under The Servitude Of Men by Prognose: 7:14am On Dec 16, 2017
Marriage”. I can’t just point out
the reason why ladies do feel that
the best time for them to get
married is between the ages of 20 to
25. It is believed that it’s very wrong
to be a spinster at the age of 26 and
above because they feel that at
these ages, ladies begin to lose their


You think they are rushing to get married at this age because of their beauty?

Anyway, it's obvious this is copy and paste.

A lot of nonsense on the internet these days as anyone can upload any information.

Women are on a biological clock. It's not the patriarchy's fault, it's just Mother Nature. The older a woman gets the more difficult it will be for her to have kids. Women instinctively know this hence the rush to get married.

And then I realised I don't really care enough anymore to keep typing....

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