₦airaland Forum

BlueDiva:
You be mugu, kai. . .
Please give your money to orphanage homes instead.

y me:
@poster
let her go there are many fishes in the river all you need to do is cast your net

@Dan-G
so you have automatically turned to her money producing machine
see real maga o, guys like u make some babes play the maga game more
anyway carry go if its not gonna affect your bank account in the future

Odunnu:
And u spend on these gals jst bcz u want 2 belong?
Its crazy.U buy luv?u must b in misery

And then, here they come trying to form holi-holi like say them no dey among. I mean I gat to be frank with you, there is no harm spending on the one you cherish, and if you are hiding behind a nickname here as a girl and claim not to have been like this or thought of doing something like this ever, or haven't asked your guy nofin before then I WILL LAY DOWN MY SWORD AND LICK YOUR SHOES, ****Tschew, on top nickname dem dey form innocenti**

Odunnu:
And u spend on these gals jst bcz u want 2 belong?
Its crazy.U buy luv?u must b in misery

Buying a lady gifts does not neccesarily mean you are buying her love!

For example, I'm a TM Lewins, H&C shirts kind of girl, I mean when I have to buy for myself. But my ex would go all out of his way to buy me tonnes of China shirts. I'd wear them not because I wear such shirts, but because he bought them. If he was trying to buy my love then trust me, if it's not bearing a H&C label, then it's not good enough.

You guys need to start seeing gifts as an expression of love and not as a payment for love!

DanG,U shdnt go ovr bcz of what I said,aftrall I wshd u luck didnt I?
I'm a chartered accountant,I knw my job vry wel and i'm paid well so I guez I kan pass 4 Ms Independent.I dnt depend on my guy 4stuff bt dat doesnt mean I hv it all or dat he doesnt spend on me.Why wud I get in2 a r'shp whr I nt only pay sch feez,houskeeping allowance,transportation,health allowance bt also take kia of her contact lens!Gawd,she's nt evn ur fiancee!datz vry stpuid.If my brother does such,ofcourz he wont.
Take a break,she myt b stuck 2u nw cz u r paying all d bills,as soon as smby else who's ready 2do so,she'l drop u.
I'v got a lil pride in me dat wnt allow me depend completely on my bf,evn if na my husband sef.

Odunnu:
DanG,U shdnt go ovr bcz of what I said,aftrall I wshd u luck didnt I?
I'm a chartered accountant,I knw my job vry wel and i'm paid well so I guez I kan pass 4 Ms Independent.I dnt depend on my guy 4stuff bt dat doesnt mean I hv it all or dat he doesnt spend on me.Why wud I get in2 a r'shp whr I nt only pay sch feez,houskeeping allowance,transportation,health allowance bt also take kia of her contact lens!Gawd,she's nt evn your fiancee!datz vry stpuid.If my brother does such,ofcourz he wont.
Take a break,she myt b stuck 2u nw cz u r paying all d bills,as soon as smby else who's ready 2do so,she'l drop u.
I'v got a lil pride in me dat wnt allow me depend completely on my bf,evn if na my husband sef.

Having a guy help out with paying your bills doesn't make you a lesser person or reduce your pride in any way. If you feel that way, then you should have that independence of your checked!

I honestly don't get what the big deal is all about. Women help guys out financiall and nobody cries foul! But when it's the other way round, we act like it's a taboo!

Ujujoan:
Having a guy help out with paying your bills doesn't make you a lesser person or reduce your pride in any way. If you feel that way, then you should have that independence of your checked!

I honestly don't get what the big deal is all about. Women help guys out financiall and nobody cries foul! But when it's the other way round, we act like it's a taboo! 

When You constantly demand money from people [man or woman],
You become a [insert name here.A negative one of course] and it reduces Your pride.
It's one thing when he willingly gives You, it's anatha when You keep asking.
Don't these women have hands to work and earn money? Don't they have Parents?


Plus, Dudes that constantly demand cash from their Gfs should also bury their faces in their palms in total SHAME. This is 2010.

Missy B:
When You constantly demand, You become a liability and it reduces Your pride.
It's one thing when he willingly gives You, it's anatha when You keep asking.
Don't these women have hands to work and earn money? Don't they have Parents?


Plus, Dudes that constantly demand cash from their Gfs should also bury their faces in the palms in total SHAME. This is 2010.

Constantly is the key word here. While it's wrong to trun your BF to your father, there's nothing with asking for his help once in a while. Even the richest of us need a little assistance from time to time. And when a fully grown, matured oil worker decides to date a young and vulnerable student . . well, he should be ready to be mistaken for a parent once in a while!

On the other hand, if he offers, I think it'll be rude to reject!

Indeed,having a guy help out in paying my bills doesnt make me a lessr human bt I guez d catch word here shd b 'HELP' and nt 'DUTY BOUND'

Ujujoan:
,there's nothing with asking for his help once in a while. Even the richest of us need a little assistance from time to time.

On these Occasions, can't the Lady's father or her own pocket come to her rescue?
I don't even know how You Girls put the statement.
''Please give me money/ I need money''? Ewww!!

Ujujoan:
And when a fully grown, matured oil worker decides to date a young and vulnerable student . .  well, he should be ready to be mistaken for a parent once in a while!

Nah, he shouldn't automatically play the Financial Daddy role.
If he cares about You, You wouldn't need to[b] ask him [/b] before he gets You gifts.
Uju don't tell me You go around asking every dude to give You #2000 for jeans too.

Ujujoan:
On the other hand, if he offers, I think it'll be rude to reject! 

I can't disagree.

Odunnu:
DanG,U shdnt go ovr bcz of what I said,aftrall I wshd u luck didnt I?
I'm a chartered accountant,I knw my job vry wel and i'm paid well so I guez I kan pass 4 Ms Independent.I dnt depend on my guy 4stuff bt dat doesnt mean I hv it all or dat he doesnt spend on me.Why wud I get in2 a r'shp whr I nt only pay sch feez,houskeeping allowance,transportation,health allowance bt also take kia of her contact lens!Gawd,she's nt evn your fiancee!datz vry stpuid.If my brother does such,ofcourz he wont.
Take a break,she myt b stuck 2u nw cz u r paying all d bills,as soon as smby else who's ready 2do so,she'l drop u.
I'v got a lil pride in me dat wnt allow me depend completely on my bf,evn if na my husband sef.

Well Odunnu, thanks for you comments, but ma question is b4 u bcame a chartered acct. didnt u ever date any guy? B4 u started making money on ur own(independent) dont u have a soulmate then. Well for me, am not here to judge anyone but all I will say is talk, there are 3 levels of Human development and effectiveness n they

1. Dependent
2. Independence
3. Interdependce
May my Gf is at stage 1, hopefully she will one day scale to step3, but now u r on step2. Congrats all d same

Ujujoan:
Buying a lady gifts does not neccesarily mean you are buying her love!

For example, I'm a TM Lewins, H&C shirts kind of girl, I mean when I have to buy for myself. But my ex would go all out of his way to buy me tonnes of China shirts. I'd wear them not because I wear such shirts, but because he bought them. If he was trying to buy my love then trust me, if it's not bearing a H&C label, then it's not good enough.

You guys need to start seeing gifts as an expression of love and not as a payment for love!

can i hv my TM's bck since we are not together no more

DanG,u r getting ds frm d wrong side.Well,if I wnt bore u i'd hv told u bit abt ME.
I'v nvr bin d dependent type maybe i'm peculiar as u thnk evry gal shd dpend on her guy 4basic needs.
Try and say No 2her next 3demands and c if u wnt start a thread on NL

And hey Uju,ds guy didnt stop at buyin gifts,infct he didnt evn mention buyin gifts.Ds guy pays sch feez,transportation,feeding,health bill and many more!
What rubbish!

OK, I really get the point here, Odunnu n I understand your point of view, but all I say is not all is equal n holds personal integrity in high importance as you do. And really in this new age it is really very tough to find that someone that will be independent as what i crave inside of me. So Instead breaking up and hooking up over and over again, I better stick to 1, bear all she has to offer and give all I need to offer and pray to God we make it to the alter.

Instead of jumping ship, and contributing offering here and there. I will try what you said (deny her for something she wants) and lets see the outcome, but let me tell you I won't come back to make a thread, maybe SHE WILL

4d 2nd time,I wish u luck DanG

Odunnu:
4d 2nd time,I wish u luck DanG

Thank you so very much Odu, n all the best to u too

r231:
can i hv my TM's bck since we are not together no more

I'm sorry honey, I dont return expensive gifts. You can have the China wears back dou!

If to say i get d money then i 4 give am.Bt d way she dey ginger me 4 d money i no like am.She talk say she get top wey she wan use wear d jean, Abi i go rob? I don tell am say nobody sabi 2moro bt she no send. Wetin i go do now? Girlz nawa o!

u be mumu/mugu/maga