Be sure to guard against these 10 ugly habits that could destroy your marriage

1. Critical

Please watch yourself and don’t get caught in the trap of criticizing your wife. Choose to see the good in your wife. Compliment her on all the things she is doing right. Next time you find yourself wanting to tell her something you don’t like about her, switch it around and pay her a sincere compliment. She will love it.

2. Controlling

Believe it or not, you aren’t always right. And your beautiful wife is actually very good at making her own decisions (and typically she makes very good decisions). So stop feeling like you need to control where she’s going, what she’s doing, how much she’s spending and more. Instead of stressing about that, work together as a team, encouraging and supporting each other. Let your wife be her own person, and give her wings to fly.

3. Treats you like an object

Please, husbands! Your wife isn’t an object. She is your wife, your best friend and your queen. She deserves your utmost respect, especially when it comes to sexual intimacy. Always respect her and her body and work on establishing emotional connection and trust before thinking about sharing sexual intimacy with your wife. Sex can be the most unifying, fulfilling and beautiful thing in marriage when you both treat each other respectfully.

4. Doesn’t give you the time of day

You have a wife. You lucky guy. Please don’t forget about her. Don’t be too busy to call her, text her or recognize her when she walks in the room. The next time you see her, give her a big hug and tell her you love her. Let her know she is your top priority by putting her first — ahead of work, time with your buddies, or watching that game. Sit on the couch and talk to her. Tell her about your day, your thoughts, your worries, and your funny experiences. Beware, you may find that sparks suddenly start flying around like crazy.

5. Uses crude or dirty language


Husbands, come on. You aren’t teenage boys anymore (and even then, bad language wasn’t really cool). Watch your mouth. Work to cut the swearing habit, and remove crude, rude and dirty language from your vocabulary. You may be amazed at all the other words available for use in expressing your feelings. Your wife deserves to hear words that a gentleman would speak, not a raga-muffin. Buy yourself a dictionary. OK, not really, but try some new words. Your wife will be tickled pink and others will think you’re much more intelligent.

6. Views pornography

This is one sure way to ruin your marriage, your life and your future. Simply put, don’t view pornography and let your eyes linger everywhere you go. Look inward and decide to choose a better path. If you are entrenched in the ugly habit of pornography, seek out professional help (there are many great resources to turn to). Find a counselor who can help you begin the process of becoming free from this addiction. You have to want change for yourself and for those you love. So dig deep and decide what kind of life you really want.

7. Has too high of expectations

The last thing your sweet wife needs to hear is that she doesn’t measure up to your unrealistic expectations. Please don’t compare your wife’s body, budgeting skills, or parenting skills to so-and-so down the street. Your comparisons will, over time, crush her self-esteem. Decide to be kind, to be patient, to be forgiving and to be flexible. The more you emphasize all of her positive qualities, the more she will naturally start living up to those positive compliments and become the woman you describe, and more.

8. Doesn’t help out around the house

You may bring in half the income, or all of it, but that doesn’t mean you can chill on the couch while your wife cleans, tidies and washes dishes day-in and day-out. Kick it up a notch and offer to help out. Clean the toilet (yes, the one you use every day), carry in the groceries or unload the dishwasher (oh, the horror). You and your wife are a team and ought to work side by side creating the home of your dreams.

9. Loses his temper often

You are a grown man. Yelling at your wife is not appropriate, effective or helpful. Hitting is completely off limits. Rage, lashing out, throwing things and threatening are all forms of abuse. You can learn to control your temper. You can learn to respond calmly and with love. As you do, your wife will feel safe with you and love being around you.

10. Lies and cheats

If you think you can sneak off with that babe from work and your wife will never know, then you’re kidding yourself and in for a very rude awakening. And honestly, even if your wife never found out, it’s still wrong. [I]Don’t throw away everything that is truly meaningful for a fleeting moment of pleasure. Choose to be honest.[/I] Choose to be loyal. Live up to those promises you made to your bride. She deserves all that, and more.

Now, if you saw yourself in any of these ugly habits, don’t beat yourself up. Rather decide to be better and make changes. Chart a course today that will lead you, and your wife, to that happily-ever-after marriage you have always wanted.


Jumaat Kareem

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Sissie
Mukina2

Source: Jamiatul Ulama

Exactly... Jum'ah mubarak

Avoid expensive weeding

Avoid malicious bride price

I have all the quality but am not yet married sha

So true

Your heart

Hello � friend

Jazakalahu @ OP for sharing.

true talk

BigBrother9ja:
Avoid expensive weeding

Avoid malicious bride price

How did you arrive at the number of men slept with....

great tlk.. .Jazakallahu khairan

smithoo:

How did you arrive at the number of men slept with....

You go take time do the research nau

goingape1:
rubbish! but ya still treat women like animals, marrying many wives just to born childrens moving the street causing havoc to Christian

Tell me how you treat women's.

Your foot note?

Ahmed4002:
Be sure to guard against these 10 ugly habits that could destroy your marriage

1. Critical

Please watch yourself and don’t get caught in the trap of criticizing your wife. Choose to see the good in your wife. Compliment her on all the things she is doing right. Next time you find yourself wanting to tell her something you don’t like about her, switch it around and pay her a sincere compliment. She will love it.

2. Controlling

Believe it or not, you aren’t always right. And your beautiful wife is actually very good at making her own decisions (and typically she makes very good decisions). So stop feeling like you need to control where she’s going, what she’s doing, how much she’s spending and more. Instead of stressing about that, work together as a team, encouraging and supporting each other. Let your wife be her own person, and give her wings to fly.

3. Treats you like an object

Please, husbands! Your wife isn’t an object. She is your wife, your best friend and your queen. She deserves your utmost respect, especially when it comes to sexual intimacy. Always respect her and her body and work on establishing emotional connection and trust before thinking about sharing sexual intimacy with your wife. Sex can be the most unifying, fulfilling and beautiful thing in marriage when you both treat each other respectfully.

4. Doesn’t give you the time of day

You have a wife. You lucky guy. Please don’t forget about her. Don’t be too busy to call her, text her or recognize her when she walks in the room. The next time you see her, give her a big hug and tell her you love her. Let her know she is your top priority by putting her first — ahead of work, time with your buddies, or watching that game. Sit on the couch and talk to her. Tell her about your day, your thoughts, your worries, and your funny experiences. Beware, you may find that sparks suddenly start flying around like crazy.

5. Uses crude or dirty language


Husbands, come on. You aren’t teenage boys anymore (and even then, bad language wasn’t really cool). Watch your mouth. Work to cut the swearing habit, and remove crude, rude and dirty language from your vocabulary. You may be amazed at all the other words available for use in expressing your feelings. Your wife deserves to hear words that a gentleman would speak, not a raga-muffin. Buy yourself a dictionary. OK, not really, but try some new words. Your wife will be tickled pink and others will think you’re much more intelligent.

6. Views pornography

This is one sure way to ruin your marriage, your life and your future. Simply put, don’t view pornography and let your eyes linger everywhere you go. Look inward and decide to choose a better path. If you are entrenched in the ugly habit of pornography, seek out professional help (there are many great resources to turn to). Find a counselor who can help you begin the process of becoming free from this addiction. You have to want change for yourself and for those you love. So dig deep and decide what kind of life you really want.

7. Has too high of expectations

The last thing your sweet wife needs to hear is that she doesn’t measure up to your unrealistic expectations. Please don’t compare your wife’s body, budgeting skills, or parenting skills to so-and-so down the street. Your comparisons will, over time, crush her self-esteem. Decide to be kind, to be patient, to be forgiving and to be flexible. The more you emphasize all of her positive qualities, the more she will naturally start living up to those positive compliments and become the woman you describe, and more.

8. Doesn’t help out around the house

You may bring in half the income, or all of it, but that doesn’t mean you can chill on the couch while your wife cleans, tidies and washes dishes day-in and day-out. Kick it up a notch and offer to help out. Clean the toilet (yes, the one you use every day), carry in the groceries or unload the dishwasher (oh, the horror). You and your wife are a team and ought to work side by side creating the home of your dreams.

9. Loses his temper often

You are a grown man. Yelling at your wife is not appropriate, effective or helpful. Hitting is completely off limits. Rage, lashing out, throwing things and threatening are all forms of abuse. You can learn to control your temper. You can learn to respond calmly and with love. As you do, your wife will feel safe with you and love being around you.

10. Lies and cheats

If you think you can sneak off with that babe from work and your wife will never know, then you’re kidding yourself and in for a very rude awakening. And honestly, even if your wife never found out, it’s still wrong. [I]Don’t throw away everything that is truly meaningful for a fleeting moment of pleasure. Choose to be honest.[/I] Choose to be loyal. Live up to those promises you made to your bride. She deserves all that, and more.

Now, if you saw yourself in any of these ugly habits, don’t beat yourself up. Rather decide to be better and make changes. Chart a course today that will lead you, and your wife, to that happily-ever-after marriage you have always wanted.


Jumaat Kareem

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Sissie
Mukina2

Source: Jamiatul Ulama

I am so guilty of number 4!!! At the moment my wife and I are quarrelling over this issue
She had said something entered her eyes a night before and I went to the chemist beside my house to get a medication for her.
The next day, I went to work and returned in the evening (without calling to check up on her)
And when I returned and greeted her, she didn't answer, the next thing she started saying I am a wicked person...
I was really very shocked and disappointed.....
So I just left the living room and straight to bed
This happened yesterday night
And up till now, we are still quarrelling

MKO4ever:


I am so guilty of number 4!!! At the moment my wife and I are quarrelling over this issue
She had said something entered her eyes a night before and I went to the chemist beside my house to get a medication for her.
The next day, I went to work and returned in the evening (without calling to check up on her)
And when I returned and greeted her, she didn't answer, the next thing she started saying I am a wicked person...
I was really very shocked and disappointed.....
So I just left the living room and straight to bed
This happened yesterday night
And up till now, we are still quarrelling

Nobody is perfect... Your wife also seems to be focusing more on your shortcomings than on your positive sides. After all its not like you didn't care at all, you still went out at night to get her the required medication before she slept.

She could also have called you at work if the eye was not relieved or even if it resulted into emergency instead of keeping a huge grudge and not even answering your greetings.

MKO4ever:


I am so guilty of number 4!!! At the moment my wife and I are quarrelling over this issue
She had said something entered her eyes a night before and I went to the chemist beside my house to get a medication for her.
The next day, I went to work and returned in the evening (without calling to check up on her)
And when I returned and greeted her, she didn't answer, the next thing she started saying I am a wicked person...
I was really very shocked and disappointed.....
So I just left the living room and straight to bed
This happened yesterday night
And up till now, we are still quarrelling

even if you no be APC member try change, if have identify the cause of the problem but both of you still quarrel. for me I have realized that no matter how grown a woman is, she still wants to be pampered same thing goes for men no matter how tough we seems

stuffs4me:



Nobody is perfect... Your wife also seems to be focusing more on your shortcomings than on your positive sides. After all its not like you didn't care at all, you still went out at night to get her the required medication before she slept.

She could also have called you at work if the eye was not relieved or even if it resulted into emergency instead of keeping a huge grudge and not even answering your greetings.

I believe the Op has put up a nice write up which serves as a guideline for couples so try and learn something from it instead of being arrogance. What you wrote up there is total rubbish

olasaad:


I believe the Op has put up a nice write up which serves as a guideline for couples so try and learn something from it instead of being arrogance. What you wrote up there is total rubbish

Even if the man's action was not perfect, is that why a reasonable wife should keep malice with her husband and even refuse to answer his greeting? Which eventually lead to a quarrel. It is obvious you belong in the category of very foolish women for the following reasons.

1) I totally agree with the OP but your quarrelsome mind failed to see that my comments was regarding what another poster said and not what the OP said.

2) That you don't agree with someone's opinion should not results into insults

3) You believe insulting other people is the only solution to every single issue in a home, no matter how small.

4) Keeping grudges and fighting your husband over every little thing is childish and couples should not be encouraged to do so but a very foolish woman like you will not be able to see that.

5) I pity the unfortunate man that will marry a foolish woman and toxic woman like you because you will frustrate the hell out of him with your petty illogical attitudes.

stuffs4me:



Even if the man's action was not perfect, is that why a reasonable wife should keep malice with her husband and even refuse to answer his greeting? Which eventually lead to a quarrel. It is obvious you belong in the category of very foolish women for the following reasons.

1) I totally agree with the OP but your quarrelsome mind failed to see that my comments was regarding what another poster said and not what the OP said.

2) That you don't agree with someone's opinion should not results into insults

3) You believe insulting other people is the only solution to every single issue in a home, no matter how small.

4) Keeping grudges and fighting your husband over every little thing is childish and couples should not be encouraged to do so but a very foolish woman like you will not be able to see that.

5) I pity the unfortunate man that will marry a foolish woman and toxic woman like you because you will frustrate the hell out of him with your petty illogical attitudes.

OK we don hear oya carry your mumu and leave my quote