benzion72:

We have adopted
i. Dating
ii. Introduction carrying of letter of intention
iii.Engagement carrying of all manners to the bride house with Alaga iduro and Alaga ijoko who will be squeezing money out of both side
iv. Church wedding all alter minister must be settled, and you must give appreciable gift to the Church
v. Reception where money is wasted, blown and food and drink is served to the max

Most young men are still saving toward wedding. Which is killing so many relationship. Some ladies are not even helping the matter they have list of requirment that a man must have before wedding, car, flat etc. They forgotten to asked their dad how he started

I love Tai solarin wedding style, he called a passer by to withiness his wedding to Sheila Solarin no funfare

AND THE WOMEN WHO CONTRIBUTE ALMOST NOTHING, IN MOST CASES ARE USUALLY THE COMMANDANTS HERE..
"MY BRIDE PRICE THIS, HER BRIDE PRICE THAT".
"I CAN'T MARRY A POOR MAN, I WANT A COSTLY ENGAGEMENT RING".
"MY WEDDING MUST BE BIG, I WANT TO SHAKE THIS TOWN"
"LINDA MUST BLOG IT. I DON'T WANT TO BE SUFFERING IN MARRIAGE".

..."BUT, BUT,.. I'M DOING YOU A FAVOR BY MARRYING YOU".





IF THE EXCUSE FOR PAYING BRIDE PRICE IS TO SHOW GRATITUDE TO THE PEOPLE WHO RAISED THE WOMAN,

I SEE NO REASON WHY THERE SHOULDN'T BE GROOM PRICE AS WELL
THE WOMAN HAS TO PAY TOO, TO SHOW GRATITUDE TO THE PEOPLE WHO RAISED THE MAN, OR DID SPIRITS RAISE HIM?


PAYING BRIDE PRICE IS AN ANCIENT MENTALITY.
............ WOMEN WERE SEEN AS PROPERTIES THAT COULD BE BOUGHT AND OWNED, SO OUR FOREFATHERS LITERALLY "BOUGHT" ANY NUMBER OF WIVES THEY WANTED.


IT'S A SHAME THAT WOMEN WANT AN EQUAL STATUS IN MARRIAGES. THEY COMPLAIN HOW ONLY THEM DO HOUSEWORK AND COOK AND TAKE CARE OF THE KIDS, WHILE THEIR HUSBANDS ONLY RELAX (AFTER GOING OUT TO HUSTLE O)
BUT STILL EXPECT MEN TO "BUY" THEM FROM THEIR FAMILIES, AND BE RESPONSIBLE FOR ALL THE BILLS UNTIL HE DIES.

THAT'S SELFISHNESS.

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AND THE WOMEN WHO CONTRIBUTE ALMOST NOTHING, IN MOST CASES ARE USUALLY THE COMMANDANTS HERE..
"MY BRIDE PRICE THIS, HER BRIDE PRICE THAT".
"I CAN'T MARRY A POOR MAN, I WANT A COSTLY ENGAGEMENT RING".
"MY WEDDING MUST BE BIG, I WANT TO SHAKE THIS TOWN"
"LINDA MUST BLOG IT. I DON'T WANT TO BE SUFFERING IN MARRIAGE".

..."BUT, BUT,.. I'M DOING YOU A FAVOR BY MARRYING YOU".

PrimadonnaO:
You've made complete sense. But sometimes, certain things beyond us compel us to conform to the norm.

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AND THE WOMEN WHO CONTRIBUTE ALMOST NOTHING, IN MOST CASES ARE USUALLY THE COMMANDANTS HERE..
"MY BRIDE PRICE THIS, HER BRIDE PRICE THAT".
"I CAN'T MARRY A POOR MAN, I WANT A COSTLY ENGAGEMENT RING".
"MY WEDDING MUST BE BIG, I WANT TO SHAKE THIS TOWN"
"LINDA MUST BLOG IT. I DON'T WANT TO BE SUFFERING IN MARRIAGE".

..."BUT, BUT,.. I'M DOING YOU A FAVOR BY MARRYING YOU".

missdivineprove:
Maybe its because most people believed marriage ought to be stressful/difficult on the man side, so that he can value the woman.

missdivineprove:
Maybe its because most people believed marriage ought to be stressful/difficult on the man side, so that he can value the woman.

missdivineprove:
The Effect Of The Expensive Concept Of Marriage We Have Adopted.

Honestly, I don’t want to post this because I’m not that good in writing, but let me give this a try.

I’ve heard stories from my grand ma how marriage was done during their time. According to her stories, it was simple, interesting and desiring. Quite different from what we do now.

Although I’ve heard people saying marriage ought to be difficult so that the man can value/appreciate the woman, but I doubt if this is true anyway.

Based on my observation, these are the effect of the kind of expensive marriage concept we have adopted. It seems it has enslaved us.

1. High rate of pre marital sex

I am not justifying pre marital sex, but I’m sure the rate of pre marital sex wouldn’t be so high if every marriageable bachelor/spinster can easily get married.
Like that kind of Romeo and Juliet kind of wedding lol.

2. Late marriage

Apart from those who are financial capable, but have no interest in marriage or haven’t met someone of their choice, majority of the youth who are of marriageable age have no means to get married.

3. Marring the wrong person

Sometimes, most especially ladies ended up marring someone who can afford their marriage rite and not someone they really desire to be with.
That’s why some people are married to someone else while they love another person.

4. Poverty

How can a young man keeping working hard, saving his money only for him to spend all that in one day all in the name of marriage? The worst part, after everything, he’ll start all over again but this time, it’s going to get more difficult because more responsibilities have come in.

5. Over rating Marriage

I don’t know how to put this, it’s so annoying the way some takes marriage. Some see marriage as the greatest achievement of their life. Some people’s dream, aspiration, career all come to an end immediately they’re married. Maybe because the cost of marriage is expensive and demanding so it’s being over rated. Knowing that there’s more to life than just marriage

What is your own opinion about this?
Do you think it’s ok so that men could value women more?

If you think it’s not ok, what way forward can you suggest so it could be simpler for everyone to easily achieve without committing crime?
Do you think the media have a role to play in this in educating the people?


Please overlook my typing errors and don't quote my write up. thank you