I started dating her 3 years ago. She is 25 and an upcoming actress based in Spain. We get to meet physically twice a year and plans are already in place for my relocation to Spain.

The challenge I currently face is my trust levels.
I've seen a couple of her movies. Some of them had intimate scenes in which she was almost naked, save for her panties.

When I complained to her about the movie scene, she assured me that it was just a stunt double not her actual body. But the strange thing about her excuse was that this stunt double has the same unique birth mark on her left breasts, similar to my fiance.

On another occasion, I watched a clip in which she was being "pounded" from behind by another actor. She moaned throughout the 5minute sex scene.

Although on this occasion she wasn't naked but her dress appeared to be raised.
Maybe I'm being paranoid and her excuses are valid.

On the other hand, she could be quite a homely and affectionate partner. She cooks well too. These were the qualities that made me propose to her in Benin, about a year ago.

Do you think I should proceed with the relationship?

The man pounding her from behind is someones partner also.

So, You gotta be prepared marrying pronstars in this day and age, you gotta be prepared for whatever comes to fvck you from a movie scene right into your face

Ps: I called it pornostar because of the only roll you described she played were 18+


Op not too worry. JeromeStarks thinks she is still better than all NON-VIRGIN Nigerian girls with their entitlement mentality

Your matter be like ileya ram weh dem dey feed, he come think say him owner like am.

There's no movie who's sex scene last upto 5minutes....

Even 50shades of grey that's perceived as a pornmovie.


You should look for a better lie...

Another Tiwa Savage and Teeblitz Episode loading. 95% of Actresses and female Celebrities are whores. if you want to die young continue.

incandescentena:
The man pounding her from behind is someones partner also.

So, You gotta be prepared marrying pronstars in this day and age, you gotta be prepared for whatever comes to fvck you from a movie scene right into your face

Ps: I called it IndecentStar because of the only roll you described she played

Not a IndecentStar. She features in series and some low budget 18+ movies. Hoping to become a superstar in future.

Food for the producers .


I have met so many of them they are cheats

Oga stop imagining things and start thinking in a positive way, if not even if she's not wayward, your over negative thinking might caused you your marriage....

Be positive, no be all Nigerian females be olosho....

Always be positive bro...

You found her as an actress, but now you want to change her into someone that she's not.

Why don't you leave her alone and look for someone who's not an actress because if you keep on behaving like this, she'll eventually leave you for someone who'll accept her for who she is, as well as her profession.

U guys are not yet married nd yet u're having serious trust issues that means when u're married u may even want her to quit acting at some point but the truth is that it'll be too late by then. Now is the time to decide whether you'll be able to cope with her profession because a time will come that you'll bcom a nagging husband because of the profession. If u knw u won't be able to cope tell her ur mind right a way except u're just using her as ur sure ticket to Spain.

OfeAchi:
IOn the other hand, she could be quite a homely and affectionate partner. She cooks well too. These were the qualities that made me propose to her in Benin, about a year ago.

Do you think I should proceed with the relationship?

You have dated this actress for 3 years, but suddenly her acting career is now an issue?

If you are not serious with the girl abeg leave her alone. Don't ruin her career and life abeg!

So what advice do you want us to give you? To leave her? To tell her to quit her job or what?

Because she’s an actress she has to do her work.

Benin.....Spain....18+ movies.....when you are both getting married?

wunmi590:


Oga stop imagining things and start thinking in a positive way, if not even if she's not wayward, your over negative over thinking might caused you your marriage....

Be positive, no be all Nigerian females and be olosho....

Always be positive bro...

Thanks.
I'll keep cool. I don't want to lose her.

godliman:
Another Tiwa Savage and Teeblitz Episode loading. 95% of Actresses and female Celebrities are whores. if you want to die young continue.

I'm hoping my finacee would be in the 5% slice.

Rokiat:
So what advice do you want us to give you? To leave her? To tell her to quit her job or what?

Because she’s an actress she has to do her work.

I'm talking to her to refrain from accepting roles that involves sex scenes. Maybe that would help our relationship. I hope I'm not being unreasonable.

you are trying to decide if you should allow your corn to continue growing by the road side, or if you should uproot the already existing shoot.

OfeAchi:
Thanks.
I'll keep cool. I don't want to lose her.

Cool 😎

OfeAchi:
I started dating her 3 years ago. She is 25 and an upcoming actress based in Spain. We get to meet physically twice a year and plans are already in place for my relocation to Spain.

The challenge I currently face is my trust levels.
I've seen a couple of her movies. Some of them had intimate scenes in which she was almost naked, save for her panties. When I complained to her about the movie scene, she assured me that it was just a stunt double not her actual body. But the strange thing about her excuse was that this stunt double has the same unique birth mark on her left breasts, similar to my fiance. On another occasion, I watched a clip in which she was being "pounded" from behind by another actor. She moaned throughout the 5minute sex scene. Although on this occasion she wasn't naked but her dress appeared to be raised.
Maybe I'm being paranoid and her excuses are valid.

On the other hand, she could be quite a homely and affectionate partner. She cooks well too. These were the qualities that made me propose to her in Benin, about a year ago.

Do you think I should proceed with the relationship?

If you can stand all these scenes and complain go ahead

If you can raise the family with out her working or contributing go ahead

If you have a strong heart to bear whatever you see her doing on set go ahead

If you know that your BP can't
Advice her to stop acting, if she refuses of which I know she will

Just follow your heart

Since you are doubting her request for the behind the scenes.

Boss, if I should tell you what it took her to reach the level of actress you will not understand.

OfeAchi:
I'm talking to her to refrain from accepting roles that involves sex scenes. Maybe that would help our relationship. I hope I'm not being unreasonable.

You are! She is an actress, and not a clown or comedian.

OfeAchi:
I'm talking to her to refrain from accepting roles that involves sex scenes. Maybe that would help our relationship. I hope I'm not being unreasonable.

If you are this insecure dating/marrying an actress is not your best bet.

You knew she was an actress before you got in.
Well now is your chance to get out before the relationship is legalized by marriage.

Don’t marry someone hoping to change them.
This is her livelihood and she’s not going to walk away from it because of you.

OfeAchi:
I'm talking to her to refrain from accepting roles that involves sex scenes. Maybe that would help our relationship. I hope I'm not being unreasonable.

Yes you’re being unreasonable. Let her go if you’re not comfortable with her job. Don’t try to force anyone to en the way you want them to be. You’ll only be disappointed

What are you, an actor? Baba, better toughen your mind for what awaits you, or quickly take the exit door now. Whether you like it or not, it's difficult to see actors and actresses that not promiscuous. Promiscuity seems to be a feature of the profession.

Mindlog:
Benin.....Spain....18+ movies.....when you are both getting married?

Guy is probably bored. Nairaland has to keep on moving.

Story makes no sense.

what you see in these movies is ALL ACTING...nobody is fukcing for real, but seriously, if you cant trust her or the job she does then what are you doing with this "actress"?

i am on the religious side thus, my advice is that the union is on a wrong platform. 2ndly;you ought to know d price it took her to climb up that ladder,i can bet u she gets a lot from those scene n will do all it takes to remain on that top.if u both get wedded n u choose to force her out of that career,u might end up been killled o ! if you are eyeing spain (as a sharp benin man),and have big dreams , u better cope n tag along, until things gets better wit u over there then u might wanna bail on her.3rdly ; if u are the average nig man (quite on the religious side, your conscience will never allow u go on with her, so u better back off now so u dont end up in spanish jail !(those guys can be very mean if u tamper with their machines ! !

Marry a virgin and have peace of mind

Helper1000:
Marry a virgin and have peace of mind

Correct