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Re: Godly Advice Needed by Preetiex(f): 8:58am On Apr 13, 2018
coolcatty:


Coming from a woman....this is huge.
seriously i hate it wen pple have no sympathy for others,if i am d guy she will stay with me till d issue is resolved,i wont let her take d key & leave but then i am not d guy, most of these born again ladies thinking they are holy oh i pity d man that marry them,even my elder sister dat is in dat path knows i dont have time for her bullshit

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Re: Godly Advice Needed by tensazangetsu20(m): 10:14am On Apr 13, 2018
RadicallyBlunt:
well I'm not surprised, I spent years in Mfm before I left, I can guarantee you, its almost all their women that have that psychic issue, not only ur wife. I call it psychic bcus truly it is. An average Mfm member who have been going there for long always end up with such issues. I have someone there so Im talking from experience. They unconsciously lose focus on daily christian living in the home and focus all their life attention against evil witchcraft attacks..they gradually become paranoid suspecting every occurrences around them as a plot of the enemy to attack them and expect people to understand them instead of them understanding others which Christianity teaches.

They misbehave during the day and wake up to fire prayers every night. Its so funny. My experience with a family member and some other circumstances pushed me away from there. You don't hear teachings abt forgiveness, love, daily Christian living in marriage and with neighbours. Instead what u hear every service day is tragedy of this, tragedy of that, witchcraft this, enemy that.

Thank God I've not married from there before I left. Sincerely when I see all this young girls who have soaked themselves into such a lifestyle..no earrings, trouser, make up etc. I give them gap. Not because I hate God, but I don't understand why a Christian shd not have a normal social life.
Same here I just stopped attending when they were playing with my head. Their doctrines are sick and they have a way of striking fear into their members in order to get them to submit.
Re: Godly Advice Needed by jaszplus12(m): 10:25am On Apr 13, 2018
Prognose:


Supported. Nothing more to add.
thank you sir....the same happened to a distant relation and he took my suggestion and it worked wonders! come see repentant wife! chai!!!

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Re: Godly Advice Needed by Precious111(f): 1:19pm On Apr 13, 2018
Adebayo4christ:
GOOD MORNING WOMEN/MEN OF VIRTUES, PLEASE HELP ME GO THRU MY LONG STORY AND ADVICE ME ON WHAT TO DO.
I GOT MARRIED ABOUT 5 MONTHS AGO, MY WIFE IS A VERY SPIRITUAL PERSON(MFM). .

I wonder if your wife is actually an MFM member, Cos I am and we are been taught Every third sunday of the month about How a home should look like. How a wife MUST respect her husband and take good care of him. I take it that your wife is one if those MFM members with misconception about MFM and life itself.
Pls open up your heart to her, communicate with her and all and the female genital mutilation done on her is an issue..

Truth is she actually sees your family as her enemy she should fight which is a wrong notion. Buy the Many of Pastor Mrs FUNKE adejumo sermon on marriages and make sure she listens to them, if possible watch and listen to them together.
Pls try to make her change her church to less Aggressive church too cos that's how things will continue, she wont agree actually but make it compulsory for her and report her to her parents Plsz if She misbehaves, Then show her a lot of Love too

Op Plsz make your Marriage work don't give up too early.

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Re: Godly Advice Needed by Adebayo4christ: 3:06pm On Apr 13, 2018
Precious111:


I wonder if your wife is actually an MFM member, Cos I am and we are been taught Every third sunday of the month about How a home should look like. How a wife MUST respect her husband and take good care of him. I take it that your wife is one if those MFM members with misconception about MFM and life itself.
Pls open up your heart to her, communicate with her and all and the female genital mutilation done on her is an issue..

Truth is she actually sees your family as her enemy she should fight which is a wrong notion. Buy the Many of Pastor Mrs FUNKE adejumo sermon on marriages and make sure she listens to them, if possible watch and listen to them together.
Pls try to make her change her church to less Aggressive church too cos that's how things will continue, she wont agree actually but make it compulsory for her and report her to her parents Plsz if She misbehaves, Then show her a lot of Love too

Op Plsz make your Marriage work don't give up too early.



THANKS MA. I AM TRYING MY BEST TO MAKE IT WORK. I AGREE WITH YOU ON SHE SEEING MY FAMILY AS HER ENEMY ALL COS OF WHAT TRANSPIRED DURING THE BUILD UP OF THE ENGAGEGENT AND WEDDING PROPER. BUT THE TRUTH WAS THAT, MY PARENT WERE NOT THAT FINACIALLY OK THEN, REASON WHY THEY WERE TRYING TO POSTPONE IT. BUT NOTWITHSTANDING, SHE SHOULD HAVE CHANGED FOR GOOD TOWARDS THEM AFTER THE MARRIAGE. SECONDLY, HER PARENT WERE NOT IN TOTAL SUPPORT OF THE UNION FROM THE ONSET. BUT SHE PREVAILED ON THEM TO ACCEPT ME, MAYBE COS AGE WERE NOT MUCH ON HER SIDE . SO, SHE HAS WARNED ME NEVER TO REPORT HER TO HER PARENTS OR ELSE NA WAHALA. THANKS MA
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Adebayo4christ: 3:19pm On Apr 13, 2018
jaszplus12:
well u all know well that some women love to be traumatized before they submit...therefore OP here's a suggestion:
calmly collect a week's amount of clothing and leave home to an unknown destination (come to my house so we share life's experience)
leave here in the dark and no communication
be sure your dad is catered for but don't info them your whereabouts.
after a week reappear ...collect another batch of clothes and calmly move out...don't answer any questions or look perturbed...
let's discuss again after this works or doesn't... cheers.

hmmmm. I DID THIS EXACTLY A MONTH AFTER OUR WEDDING, APART FROM THE FACT THAT I CANT BE THAT HEARTLESS, I WAS AWAY FOR TWO DAYS AFTER SENDING HER A MESSAGE THAT I CANT LIVE WITH MARGERETH THATCHER AND A SADDIST IN THE HOUSE, HOPING SHE WILL CALL N BEG. SHE NEVER DID. NA ME PACK MYSELF GO BACK HOME THE THIRD DAY. WELL, I THINK AND I HAVE ALSO TOLD HER THAT IT SEEMS GOD IS USING HER AS A PUNISHMENT FOR MY PAST. WHICH IS EXACTLY WHAT IS HAPPENING. I CANT GO TO HER PARENTS, OR ANYONE. I CANT REPORT TO MY PEOPLE TOO COS NA WAHALA B THAT IF THEY CALL HER. NA MY HEAD SHE WILL BOUNCE UPON AFTER. SECONDLY, SHE WILL NEVER TELL THEM ANYTHING IS WRONG. ALL SHE WILL SAY IS, IT IS WELL. THATS HER SLANG. I NEED PRAYERS . SERIOUS ONE
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Adebayo4christ: 3:22pm On Apr 13, 2018
WHENEVER WE R AT HOME, ITS EITHER SHE IS PLAYING MUSIC ON HER PHONE WITH EARPIECE ON OR SHE IS FIRING EVIL SPIRITS WITH PRAYERS FROM HER PHONE. SHE WILL PRAY ALL THE PRAYERS OF HER G.O THAT SHE HAS RECORDED ON HER PHONE. I AM TIRED O. BFR BOREDOM WIL KILL ME, OR DEPRESSION. COS I AM ALREADY DEPRESSED. I CANT FOCUS ON MY JOB AGAIN
Re: Godly Advice Needed by edoman2016: 3:31pm On Apr 13, 2018
Has your wife given birth to children for you?
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Nobody: 3:42pm On Apr 13, 2018
Adebayo4christ:
ABOUT FOUR WEEKS AGO WHILE WE WERE DRIVING HOME AROUND 11PM, POLICE ACCOSTED ME FOR DRIVING ON BRT LANE. THEY DEMANDED FOR 2K WHICH I DIDNT HAVE WITH ME. MEANWHILE, MY WIFE HAS MONEY WITH HER BUT GUES WHAT SHE DID, SHE LEFT ME THERE AND COLECTED THE HOUSE KEY FROM ME N WENT HOME. MY CAR WAS TAKING TO TASKFORCE OFFICE AND I ENDED UP PAYING 20K THE FOLLOWING DAY. WHEN I ASKED HER AFTER 4DAYS WHY SHE LEFT ME THERE, SHE SAID SHE HAS WARNED ME NT TO VIOLATE D LAW AND I SAID EVEN THOUGH I DID THAT, SHOULD SHE HAD ABANDONED ME WITH THE POLICE?

Jesu! The devil is living in most women o! My brother pls run for ur life. That woman will kill you and wont bat an eyelid
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Nobody: 3:45pm On Apr 13, 2018
coolcatty:




Niggah you are a single unmarried widower...Damn you are fukkked...get out of that house and flee.

That woman will kill you and your friends and family will sympathise with her.....see ehen..nigeria is a useless country...nobody cares to run an autopsy on a dead corpse...this one will just mix sniper in your food and you will die peacefully in your sleep.....i repeat..there is no brave macho man in the graveyard...pick a few of your personal effects and flee....you are dead meat.

Coolcatty! Hahaahahah abeg i wana call you. Im the one u adviced a while ago. Pls lets talk on watsapp bro 08033951736
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Nobody: 3:48pm On Apr 13, 2018
tytunji29:

U already ve 2kids y u cum marry agan to Jezebel

Big Jezebel o
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Nobody: 3:50pm On Apr 13, 2018
Adebayo4christ:


She is not a Jezebel. Don't. Insult her plz. I said I need Godly advice plz

See this man..oga you married a big fat JEZEBEL. Thats the gospel truth.
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Nobody: 4:04pm On Apr 13, 2018
Adebayo4christ:
PLZ IF THERE IS ANY CHRISTIAN COUNSELOR IN D HOUSE THAT I CAN SHARE MY PLIGHT WITH, PLZ GIVE ME YOUR CONTACT.

Bros you dont want to hear the truth. Seek a rational professional counsellor. Once christianity enters dey will just say pray nd live with her even if shes a witch with eight arms bearing a knife in each of the hands
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Nobody: 4:08pm On Apr 13, 2018
coolcatty:


Coming from a woman....this is huge.

So its now okay to lead a man to his grave. Jesu!
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Nobody: 4:12pm On Apr 13, 2018
Adebayo4christ:


hmmmm. I DID THIS EXACTLY A MONTH AFTER OUR WEDDING, APART FROM THE FACT THAT I CANT BE THAT HEARTLESS, I WAS AWAY FOR TWO DAYS AFTER SENDING HER A MESSAGE THAT I CANT LIVE WITH MARGERETH THATCHER AND A SADDIST IN THE HOUSE, HOPING SHE WILL CALL N BEG. SHE NEVER DID. NA ME PACK MYSELF GO BACK HOME THE THIRD DAY. WELL, I THINK AND I HAVE ALSO TOLD HER THAT IT SEEMS GOD IS USING HER AS A PUNISHMENT FOR MY PAST. WHICH IS EXACTLY WHAT IS HAPPENING. I CANT GO TO HER PARENTS, OR ANYONE. I CANT REPORT TO MY PEOPLE TOO COS NA WAHALA B THAT IF THEY CALL HER. NA MY HEAD SHE WILL BOUNCE UPON AFTER. SECONDLY, SHE WILL NEVER TELL THEM ANYTHING IS WRONG. ALL SHE WILL SAY IS, IT IS WELL. THATS HER SLANG. I NEED PRAYERS . SERIOUS ONE

Jesu! And u still call that one wife? You left the house she no send u not even to call ahahhaha your "wife" is insensitive, wicked, does not love you and a manipulator. Flee bro. Mke we no talk rip later
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Nobody: 4:20pm On Apr 13, 2018
Lalasticlala pls this is front page worthy
Re: Godly Advice Needed by jaszplus12(m): 9:37pm On Apr 13, 2018
Adebayo4christ:


hmmmm. I DID THIS EXACTLY A MONTH AFTER OUR WEDDING, APART FROM THE FACT THAT I CANT BE THAT HEARTLESS, I WAS AWAY FOR TWO DAYS AFTER SENDING HER A MESSAGE THAT I CANT LIVE WITH MARGERETH THATCHER AND A SADDIST IN THE HOUSE, HOPING SHE WILL CALL N BEG. SHE NEVER DID. NA ME PACK MYSELF GO BACK HOME THE THIRD DAY. WELL, I THINK AND I HAVE ALSO TOLD HER THAT IT SEEMS GOD IS USING HER AS A PUNISHMENT FOR MY PAST. WHICH IS EXACTLY WHAT IS HAPPENING. I CANT GO TO HER PARENTS, OR ANYONE. I CANT REPORT TO MY PEOPLE TOO COS NA WAHALA B THAT IF THEY CALL HER. NA MY HEAD SHE WILL BOUNCE UPON AFTER. SECONDLY, SHE WILL NEVER TELL THEM ANYTHING IS WRONG. ALL SHE WILL SAY IS, IT IS WELL. THATS HER SLANG. I NEED PRAYERS . SERIOUS ONE
oh man!!! you gotta strengthen your resolve else you're driving yourself into the bottomless abyss.
you've done that before and you couldn't be heartless you slunk back....now it's gonna be different... calmly collect your things and leave that heart behind and "disappear"!!! stop shivering and whining!
God doesn't punish anyone who has repented...wait for the last day before you know if you're gonna be punished or not. besides who is it that has no sin??
let me also tell you, her people you should also allow to know the situation whether anyone is guilty in the past or not does not mean they won't listen to you...there's time for war...and time for peace.
that also means if you don't go to war with her now there won't be time for peace.
a beg don't behave like say you don't eat or drink water...better you become an octopus o! if you don't know what I mean then try to read about octopus....
waiting to hear you're now close to sambisa forest and heartless!
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Nobody: 10:59pm On Apr 13, 2018
jaszplus12:

oh man!!! you gotta strengthen your resolve else you're driving yourself into the bottomless abyss.
you've done that before and you couldn't be heartless you slunk back....now it's gonna be different... calmly collect your things and leave that heart behind and "disappear"!!! stop shivering and whining!
God doesn't punish anyone who has repented...wait for the last day before you know if you're gonna be punished or not. besides who is it that has no sin??
let me also tell you, her people you should also allow to know the situation whether anyone is guilty in the past or not does not mean they won't listen to you...there's time for war...and time for peace.
that also means if you don't go to war with her now there won't be time for peace.
a beg don't behave like say you don't eat or drink water...better you become an octopus o! if you don't know what I mean then try to read about octopus....
waiting to hear you're now close to sambisa forest and heartless!

Lmao
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Adebayo4christ: 8:57am On Apr 14, 2018
Thank you very much ma for Ur advice. More of the reason I don't pray with her again is cos of her attitude,I have told her about it that how does she expect God to answer her prayers but she said God sees her heart. I have checked myself , though nobody is perfect but I don't think I have done anything to deserve what am going thru.
Now, something happened overnight, she told me on Thursday that we should fast on Friday and then have an hour vigil overnight which I accede to just to save my marriage. I came back from office around 9pm , was expecting a warm welcomed, the first thing she said was where have I been since an hour ago that I told her am in ketu, I told her the traffic from ketu to ikorodu was heavy. The next question was, is the cloth u wore to d office? Since then,she changed, she served my food separately gain. I ate cos I haven't eating since morning, now, around 11pm while I was snoring ahead d vigil, she woke me up with a tap, oga , its time for vigil, d next thing I said was, woman , y r u so agressive. A gentle tap could have been better. That was how wahala started o. She burst out of s room . Called her back , I was burning within .me but I cautioned myself. Told her to lead ,she said no, we should go n sleep. At d end, we had d vigil.
This morning, na force she take Greet me n asked wat will we eat. Told her bread n tea.meanwhile i plan going to sewy dad cos, I haven't seen him since last Saturday. Suddenly, my mum's call came in that my dad was shivering and about to be taking to d hospital. I ran to change my cloth n left, my wife didn't even say, let me follow u, the only question she asked was kilose daddy. ,I said he is being rushed to d hospital. That was all . She didn't follow me o.
I have shimarry
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Graxie(f): 10:28am On Apr 14, 2018
This is serious. Some people don't care about other people 's feeling, maybe your wife is in that category, how does she treat you when you're I'll? Evaluate her from that perspective. And as per spirituality, I think it's a personal thing. You knew about her mfm lifestyle before you married her. Am I shielding her? NO. I am also married, we have our challenges, just that I have made up my mind to make it work. Talk to her, understand her anger, give her the assurance that she is loved, how about your love making? See to it that you complain less. Stop picking on everything she says or does. Spoil her with gifts, cook for her when you are less busy, just be consistent with these for 3 months, she will come around.
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Prognose: 4:36pm On Apr 14, 2018
Adebayo4christ:
Thank you very much ma for Ur advice. More of the reason I don't pray with her again is cos of her attitude,I have told her about it that how does she expect God to answer her prayers but she said God sees her heart. I have checked myself , though nobody is perfect but I don't think I have done anything to deserve what am going thru.
Now, something happened overnight, she told me on Thursday that we should fast on Friday and then have an hour vigil overnight which I accede to just to save my marriage. I came back from office around 9pm , was expecting a warm welcomed, the first thing she said was where have I been since an hour ago that I told her am in ketu, I told her the traffic from ketu to ikorodu was heavy. The next question was, is the cloth u wore to d office? Since then,she changed, she served my food separately gain. I ate cos I haven't eating since morning, now, around 11pm while I was snoring ahead d vigil, she woke me up with a tap, oga , its time for vigil, d next thing I said was, woman , y r u so agressive. A gentle tap could have been better. That was how wahala started o. She burst out of s room . Called her back , I was burning within .me but I cautioned myself. Told her to lead ,she said no, we should go n sleep. At d end, we had d vigil.
This morning, na force she take Greet me n asked wat will we eat. Told her bread n tea.meanwhile i plan going to sewy dad cos, I haven't seen him since last Saturday. Suddenly, my mum's call came in that my dad was shivering and about to be taking to d hospital. I ran to change my cloth n left, my wife didn't even say, let me follow u, the only question she asked was kilose daddy. ,I said he is being rushed to d hospital. That was all . She didn't follow me o.
I have shimarry

Mr. Man, stop cautioning yourself. Your wife is yet to see you explode. Explode! She thinks you're a walkover, probably you're the quiet type, not wanting wahala. Bros for the sake of your marriage long term you better bring the wahala oh! You're the one adapting to her, it's about time she adapts to you!

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Re: Godly Advice Needed by Nobody: 5:16pm On Apr 15, 2018
Adebayo4christ:
ABOUT FOUR WEEKS AGO WHILE WE WERE DRIVING HOME AROUND 11PM, POLICE ACCOSTED ME FOR DRIVING ON BRT LANE. THEY DEMANDED FOR 2K WHICH I DIDNT HAVE WITH ME. MEANWHILE, MY WIFE HAS MONEY WITH HER BUT GUES WHAT SHE DID, SHE LEFT ME THERE AND COLECTED THE HOUSE KEY FROM ME N WENT HOME. MY CAR WAS TAKING TO TASKFORCE OFFICE AND I ENDED UP PAYING 20K THE FOLLOWING DAY. WHEN I ASKED HER AFTER 4DAYS WHY SHE LEFT ME THERE, SHE SAID SHE HAS WARNED ME NT TO VIOLATE D LAW AND I SAID EVEN THOUGH I DID THAT, SHOULD SHE HAD ABANDONED ME WITH THE POLICE?
The capital letters are a distraction. undecided

That's a mean wife. But meanness can be unintentional sometimes. She has her own personal growth to work on and this may take years.

I wonder how she treats her step kids...
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Hybridz: 10:47pm On Apr 23, 2018
Preetiex:
seriously i hate it wen pple have no sympathy for others,if i am d guy she will stay with me till d issue is resolved,i wont let her take d key & leave but then i am not d guy, most of these born again ladies thinking they are holy oh i pity d man that marry them,even my elder sister dat is in dat path knows i dont have time for her bullshit
Shoutout to all ladies/women of timber and humility out there,Preetiex is hereby recognised to be one of you....Long may you all live wink
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Hybridz: 10:56pm On Apr 23, 2018
Adebayo4christ:


hmmmm. I DID THIS EXACTLY A MONTH AFTER OUR WEDDING, APART FROM THE FACT THAT I CANT BE THAT HEARTLESS, I WAS AWAY FOR TWO DAYS AFTER SENDING HER A MESSAGE THAT I CANT LIVE WITH MARGERETH THATCHER AND A SADDIST IN THE HOUSE, HOPING SHE WILL CALL N BEG. SHE NEVER DID. NA ME PACK MYSELF GO BACK HOME THE THIRD DAY. WELL, I THINK AND I HAVE ALSO TOLD HER THAT IT SEEMS GOD IS USING HER AS A PUNISHMENT FOR MY PAST. WHICH IS EXACTLY WHAT IS HAPPENING. I CANT GO TO HER PARENTS, OR ANYONE. I CANT REPORT TO MY PEOPLE TOO COS NA WAHALA B THAT IF THEY CALL HER. NA MY HEAD SHE WILL BOUNCE UPON AFTER. SECONDLY, SHE WILL NEVER TELL THEM ANYTHING IS WRONG. ALL SHE WILL SAY IS, IT IS WELL. THATS HER SLANG. I NEED PRAYERS . SERIOUS ONE
This young man is gonna need a panel of NL r/ship or marital issues expert.
I hereby tip HARDDON,SISIOGE et al as members of this panel.



Come 'helep' a bro cool
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Hybridz: 11:04pm On Apr 23, 2018
Adebayo4christ:
WHENEVER WE R AT HOME, ITS EITHER SHE IS PLAYING MUSIC ON HER PHONE WITH EARPIECE ON OR SHE IS FIRING EVIL SPIRITS WITH PRAYERS FROM HER PHONE. SHE WILL PRAY ALL THE PRAYERS OF HER G.O THAT SHE HAS RECORDED ON HER PHONE. I AM TIRED O. BFR BOREDOM WIL KILL ME, OR DEPRESSION. COS I AM ALREADY DEPRESSED. I CANT FOCUS ON MY JOB AGAIN
This is getting outta hand.
My honest advice is do whatever you think will make you regain your sanity asap,even it means a self-imposed exile without looking back or whAtever? I mean just be sooo sooo MEAN without remorse and dont chicken out later ooo





PS :in case you decide to go away,make necessary arrangement for your kids; probably by taking them away from that toxic mum. When loneliness deals with her,her brain will return to default.....arrant gibberish sad
Re: Godly Advice Needed by Preetiex(f): 11:19pm On Apr 23, 2018
Hybridz:

Shoutout to all ladies/women of timber and humility out there,Preetiex is hereby recognised to be one of you....Long may you all live wink
amen & u too,op i hope u have sorted out d issues with ur wife

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